somethings really terring me up

  1. im 14 and i volunteer at a childrens hospital and at orientation for the job they told us that we could not contact patients after they left the hospital. well recently i met a guy up there hes 17 and i was really the only person he had up there to talk to he has cystic fibrosis and was in for some kind of surgry and had to stay in the hospital for awhile. his family lives 3 hours away so they could not come and visit him every day and so i talked to him and got to know him were like best friends now scince hes really the only person iv gotten to talk to besides adults this summer and little kids well hes going home monday and i really want to keep in touch with him but the volunteer rules are that we cant. but i dont understand why and some of the adult workers form child life have seen us talk and stuff and say i should just keep in touch with him anyway but i am really haveing a hard time deciding if i should i mean yea i want to keep in touch but i dont know if i should please help me decide or mabey give me some resons why it would be a good or bad ideal this is really getting to me

    thanxe bunches!
    Last edit by volunteershay on Aug 1, '03
  2. Poll: should i keep in touch

    • yes i wouldent hurt

      36.36% 4
    • no its a bad ideal

      63.64% 7
    11 Votes
  3. 9 Comments

  4. by   shygirl
    No, you shouldn't. Rules are rules for reasons. Being 14 years old you are too young for him anyway. That was nice of you to spend time with him, but you have to ask yourself what is missing in your own life that you think this person is what you need? Stay away! You are 14 years old! he should have said it was nice meeting you etc., see ya later. if he encouraged you in any way, shame on him!
  5. by   Spidey's mom
    I agree with shygirl . . . rules are there for a reason and at 17 he is too old for you. There is a huge difference between someone 17 and someone 14.

    Good Luck and keep volunteering . . .

  6. by   volunteershay
    okay i see what you guys are saying but say he wasent 17 but instead 14, witch he dose seem becuase he is in the hospital so much and not around people his own age because he is in a childrens hospital. im not attracted to him in any way and neither for him but we have really became good friends and he's like a brother to me. he has only said something about keeping in touch once but droped it when i said it was aginst the rules. but a couple of the adult workers in child life sugested we should so i got to thinking about it but i still cant decide anyone have any more resaons besides the fact that were 2 years and 3 months apart his birthday is in july and mine is in april so its not even 3 years apart really thanxe for your inpute so far and please i need help im still undecided
    Last edit by volunteershay on Aug 1, '03
  7. by   petiteflower
    I agree with the others, rules are rules and we have them for reasons. They not only protect the patient but they protect you as well. Being a volunteer is a wonderful thing to do. Are you willing to risk being able to continue doing that over this? That's what could happen. Just think of the difference you made in his life and that is something to really be proud of. Just think of all the other people who you make a difference to. I understand, it is easy to get attached to people you help, we all do it. But, you have to learn to draw the line.
  8. by   angelac1978
    this has bad idea written all over it. I have to agree w/ everyone else, rules are put in place to protect everyone involved, patient and employee/volunteer. those people who are encouraging this are doing so because it's not their life. it's really easy to give advice when your career/license isn't on the line. I realize that you are a volunteer right now, but should you want to pursue nursing or any healthcare related field, this is something to consider heavily. I also agree that at 14, a 17 year old boy is too old (no matter the break down of days and months) he is going to be going to college in a year, hopefully, if he is well enough, you are still in high school. While it doesn't seem like that big of a difference, at this age it is, big time. Just my 2 cents, but I would let this drop. Period.

  9. by   dosamigos76
    I agree with what everyone else has posted. We were your age once upon a time. I know it's not what you want to hear, but please abide by the rules. Besides, if he's in the hospital so often, you're likely to see him in the future, unless you violate the rules. Say a prayer for him and let it go. Go out with your friends or do something fun. I sure wish you the best.
  10. by   Brownms46
    I total agree, this is a bad idea! There are reasons for the rule, and I smell trouble. But you know what...I think you already knew the answer to this question before you posted it..!
  11. by   dosamigos76
    Have to agree 100% with you Brownie.
  12. by   volunteershay
    thnaxe everyone for your inpute yea i guess i did know it was a bad ideal its just we became such good friends and the age difference to me and everyone who knows him is not an age difference because of the way he is but i guess no mattuer what it is an age difference and there is diffrent ways of thinking in each mind so i guess im just going to have to let a good friend go and hope i see him agin next summer when i volunteer agin.

    thanxe so much
    Last edit by volunteershay on Aug 2, '03