Something to remember Doug by

  1. I finally received something to remember my brother Doug by. He committed suicide in aug 2001. His GF threw everything away without asking us (me and my parents) if there was anything we wanted.

    I have his bracelet--and it still smells like him. Is that weird or what??? I can't wear it cuz it makes me cry--but someday i hope to give it to one of my boys to continue on with something Doug touched.

    Doug had most of the things that belonged to our other brother Danny who committed suicide in 1997. There were letters for his daughter when she grew up and pics of us as kids. Now all that is lost. Somehow this is as great a loss to me as the physical loss of my siblings.

    Anyway here is a poem I found that I will dedicate to everyone out there who has lost someone they loved.

    Love Lives On
    By Amanda Bradley

    Those we love are never really lost to us--
    we feel them in so many special ways--
    through friends
    they are always cared about
    and dreams they left behind,
    in beauty that they added to our days...
    in words of wisdom
    we still carry with us
    and memories that never will be gone...
    Those we love are never really lost to us--
    For everywhere their special love lives on.

    In memory of Doug 1/6/66-8/9/01 and Danny 7/9/68-9/3/97:kiss
  2. 9 Comments

  3. by   RNforLongTime
    I am so very sorry for your losses! How tragic to lose both brothers in the same way. The poem is beautiful.
  4. by   hoolahan
    I can't imagine your pain having lived through something like that. I am glad you were able to have something of Doug to pass on to your kids.
  5. by   nursedawn67
    I totally know what you mean...I lost my brother Nov 19, 1999 to a drunk driver. The poem is beautiful.
  6. by   kaycee
    Beautiful poem zumalong. How tragic is the loss of your brothers. My heart goes out to you.
    Last edit by kaycee on Mar 21, '02
  7. by   mario_ragucci
    Suicide is death, and death is good-bye. I can relate to how you feel by having something that was Doug's, but remember, Doug said goodbye. He can't say hello anymore because he don't want to, you see? The hardest part about death is the goodbye, and the living with the memory. Now you have an object of his, and it's so special that you can pick up his scent on it. Your olfactory perception is keen! :-)
    Your life is not lost!!! Your life still goes on, despite these deaths. Let that be your focus. Isn't life wonderful, despite other people's goodbyes? Your memory will always work, so you have your brothers with you through your memory. Talk about special. I'm sorry about what has happened, but they wanted it, and they did it. More power to you!!!
  8. by   nurs4kids
    my heart goes out to you and your parents. i can't imagine the pain of losing one to such tragedy, let alone two to the same cause. God bless you!

    you're too deep dude...but i like yah!
  9. by   aimeee
    Oh, Zumalong, I'm so glad for you that you have that little tangible item to remember your brother by. I'm sorry to hear you lost both of your brothers. I hope that holding that bracelet helps the healing in your heart.
  10. by   semstr
    So sorry for you! my heart cries for you.
    Beautiful poem!!
    I lit the candle tonight im memory of your brothers.
    Take care, Renee
  11. by   micro
    thanks for sharing...........
    you sound like such a strong person.......and to hang on to those precious memories of your brothers........they remain a part of well as a special memento.....
    beautiful poem.........I truly like Amanda Bradley as well as Amanda McBroom.....(i.e. The Rose and The Wind Beneath My Wings, etc) well as so much more.....
    suicide is so one ever quite understands that is left as to the why.......but searching for peace.........

    just talking back at you, zumalong.........peace and love,