Some Cheese with my WHINE, please!

  1. I was reading the posts in the thread "Best Friends" and was thinking of mine. I need honest opinions and advice/help..please!

    We've been best friends since 6th grade. Been through pre-teen, teen, young adult, college, marriage, birth, and divorce together.
    Now, she has met a guy online (nothing wrong with that) and they are head over heels in love. Fine, that's great. BUT, I am SICK TO DEATH of conversations going like this:

    "Well you know RICK said... well when RICK and I... RICK is so wonderful...when I talked to RICK...when RICK gets here...that reminds of the time RICK...I just think when RICK....when my cat threw up RICK said...let me talk to RICK about it...I had this dream about RICK...RICK called me at work today and...RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK" ad nauseaum.

    Now, she and RICK are coming out to Vegas for a whole week. Normally I'd be glad, but having to sit there and watch them gush over each other and have these little play "love" fights is not going to be enjoyable at all. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for her, but not enough to hang out as the fifth wheel for all that mush. Not to mention, inevitably, when people come out here they want me to "do the tourist thing" with them. Hehhh.

    Am I sounding like a grumpy hag? Tell the truth...
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  2. 23 Comments

  3. by   NurseDennie
    Not my LVRN, never a grumpy hag!!!

    It's NOT fun to be the other person without someone to kissy kissy face, huggy wuggy schmoo!!! And I know what you mean about listening to everything about Rick. *sigh*

    But, on the other hand, I'll betcha it's a passing phase, and once the rush of new love has passed, and she's settled down to realize he's a wonderful, lovely guy, but he's still "Just" a guy, your relationship with her will get back to normal.

    So, I say just paste a smile on your face whilst they're there visiting (oooh, I wish I could have worked out a way to put "their" in with the other two) and just wait for the whole thing to blow over. Not the whole thing but you know what I mean - the whole part that's annoying for you. THAT part will blow over.

    Love

    Dennie
  4. by   Jenny P
    Las Vegas, is this a second love/marriage for your friend? We recently had an encounter with a relative who just got married for the 2nd time, and the whole time she was here it was "mike said_, mike did_, mike,mike mike mikemikemike....." YUK!!!!!
    By the time she left, we were all ready to pull our hair out!!!!! I haven't met the guy, and I'm not sure I want to! I mean, this was a gal who was married to her 1st husband 20+ yrs., single for 5+, and she now sounds like a 13y/o in love for the 1st time! It makes you want to vomit! What happened to her mind, for goodness' sake?

    I know where you are coming from and I empathize with you. Good luck.
  5. by   LasVegasRN
    Ahhh, thanks, Dennie and Jenny. I was sitting here feeling bad about feeling this way. But it is SO nauseating!!

    And yes, this is her first real boyfriend since her divorce 4 years ago.

    Someone slap me if I meet someone and act that way. Yuck!!
  6. by   Jenny P
    I won't slap you; but I will expect you to provide ear plugs for your friends, okay?
  7. by   WashYaHands
    Be honest with her. Tell her that you'd feel like a third wheel if you went along to the tourist attractions with them. Give them a list of interesting places to go and things to see, escort them to the door and tell them to enjoy themselves.

    Someone slap me if I meet someone and act that way. Yuck!!
    I agree.

    Linda
  8. by   live4today
    Originally posted by LasVegasRN
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    Am I sounding like a grumpy hag? Tell the truth...
    Wellllllllllllll........since you DID ask and all...... :chuckle :chuckle :kiss

    Okay love...all kidding aside.....Dennie gave you some wonderful advice. Couldn't say it better myself.......so right on, Dennie! :kiss

    Don't blame you, Vegas, for being so "ad nauseum" about the RICK RICK RICK thingy. Girlfriend may not be soooooo in love with RICK RICK RICK once they finally meet in person......or have they already met in person? Did I miss that little tidbit of news on them?

    Okay......gotta go read the BEST FRIENDS thread to see what happened since I went to snooze land last night. This is the very FIRST pitstop I made when I clicked on allnurses just now, so haven't read anything else. Vegas......you ALWAYS get top priority with me, girlfriend.....so be back soon. Love ya, ME. :kiss
  9. by   LasVegasRN
    Yes, she and RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK have met. He has been to visit her 5 times in the last 6 weeks from his state to hers.

    I knew you all would be honest with me. :kiss LOVE YOU!!

    Now, I must go choose a smile to paste on my face. I kinda like this one - or, where's that one that pukes on the other smilie? Okay, I'll be nice...
  10. by   Mkue
    vegas, does she not have anything else going on in her life now? just , "rick, rick, rick".. i think that would be kinda overbearing.. and i hope for your sake that when they arrive, it won't be like that.

    afterall, you have been friends a long time. just being honest, that's all.

    i mean it's kinda weird that she hasn't known this guy too long and she has known you a lot longer.. but love is strange i guess.
  11. by   night owl
    Hey Vegas,
    I hope for your sake she's not a "screamer,"
    cuz I wouldn't want to put up with that all week!
    :stone :imbar :imbar
    Maybe she'll be deeply religious about it, making it not too bad..."Oh gawd, oh Jesus" :angel2:
    Last edit by night owl on Aug 8, '02
  12. by   LasVegasRN
    mkue - I am not going to take any time off work while they are here. So, the visiting will have to be pretty limited anyway. They are coming out here to vacation together, so that's what they need to do - vacation TOGETHER. And no, she doesn't have anything else going on in her life. Just RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK.

    night owl - she and RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK RICK are staying on the strip. Whew!

    I just hope I don't get one of those drunken calls at 3 am from a wedding chapel saying "GUESS WHAT WE DID??"
  13. by   night owl
    Yessss! Thank Gawd for you!
  14. by   adrienurse
    That's okay, I'm a grumpy hag -- I'll say it. How annoying for you. Last weekend a friend FINALLY got married. I have to admit she was driving me absolutely nuts talking about the wedding all the time. Not time to hear what I had to say about my life. Too busy picking out centrepieces. Got to the point where I had to distance myself because I was afraid I was gonna tell where to shove the centrepieces.

    Yes I know, I have anger issues.

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