So how do YOU deal with it?

  1. Just curious..I've read alot of posts lately - and started one myself - about doctors poor treatment of nurses. I've decided I just won't take it anymore. I actually asked one doc if he thought he was better than me just because he had MD behind his name. (Of course he was in the middle of a tirade when I asked this) He walked away p****d!

    So tell me, what do you all do to handle this? I want to maintain MY composure and dignity with these jerks - but it's getting harder and harder. Any tips, advice, etc.???

    Thanks!
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  2. 8 Comments

  3. by   itsme
    Good reply! At least he walked away!! I figure if they are pizzed off, its better to be pizzed off than pizzed on!!
  4. by   karenG
    I guess that I am lucky- I've worked with same docs for 14yrs and we all get on and respect each other. its really nice and makes for a good working enviroment, they have offered to nail my feet to the floor if I take any more holidays!!!

    Karen
  5. by   rncountry
    I simply explain that I am a professional and expect to be treated like one. It has been awhile since I have had to deal with this, the docs where I am now are decent and respect the nurses. Only one I don't care for. I have found over the years that an insistence on being treated decently is what works. Simply letting them know that you will not be treated like a doormat seems to work. I truly believe that you are a doormat only if you allow it. There are times when one must open the mouth and say something. I think you handled things quite well.
  6. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I like sjoe's saying

    WE WILL GET EXACTLY AS MUCH CRAP AS WE ARE WILLING TO TAKE.

    says it all. Treat others with respect.....expect respect in return. If you can't get it, move on. Nursing shortages can be used to our advantage.
  7. by   aimeee
    Fortunately I have only been on the receiving end of a real tirade once and it was on the phone. I acknowledged his frustration briefly and then reminded him we needed to discuss the orders for the patient so I could get started on correcting what had gone wrong so the patient could get the care he needed. He calmed down quickly and began to focus on a plan.
  8. by   hapeewendy
    theres a doctor at my workplace who literally hates my guts...long story but basically I was a witness to his verbal abuse of our unit administrator who of course filed a grievance and so the higher powers asked me if what was said was the truth and I had no choice but to back her up, he was really a nasty piece of work about the whole thing, so anyway now whenever he's on call and I call for something he wants to try and "stupidify" me , questions my rationales left right and center and on one particular night shift his lack of action put me in direct risk with respect to a psych patient that shouldnt have even been on our unit, so now I'm extremely blunt and straightforward with him ,there is no a$$ kissing , there is no Joking , not even politeness I would say , just "heres the situation , can we have an order for your patient" type of thing...
    luckly he is the only one who has ever really been nasty, and the other dr's I work with more than make up for his piss poor attitude... one dr overheard me telling the story of the end of my relationship and she came up to me and told me that I'm a wonderful person and that I would find love again, and then just last week another dr who was on call came to pronounce a pt who passed away and she was saying "you know youre a very good nurse, I've noticed that you always seem to be on the ball and in control, I admire that"
    (have her fooled huh?) anyway , everytime that nasty dr is evil to me I think of the ones who arent... nice doctors do exist ,and remembering that helps me cope
    however I have seriously considered making a complaint about this doctor based on how he treats me now , but its kind of tricky, he hasnt really "verbally abused" me...yet heh
  9. by   hoolahan
    I also decided to absolutely not take it. I g8ve the crap right back, vut it is hard, you don't waqnt to look like an azz in front of family and pt, but it is perfectly OK to point out their inappropriate behavior in front of them. "Doctor, maybe we can discuss this without the drama." Or, "Doctor, when you are ready to talk civily, you will find me at the nurses station," and walk right out. Or, "Are you threatening me? I do not repsond to threats." walk away.

    I could never be paid well enough to take that crap, and so I just won't...period!! It is scary at first, but your balls get bigger w practice!
  10. by   Pretzlgl
    Thanks all...I am sticking to it this time - no more shyt! There is still that one doc though who communicates through SHOUTING - so now I SHOUT right back. Briefly, not in front of patients or family - but just enough to get my point across. Kinda like a mirror for him. I also like the advice of just saying what you need, no joking, etc. Then walk away..... Thanks again.

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