Single Forever?????

  1. I need help. I'm 20 years old and since i have graduated I have devoted all my time to studying nursing, consequently I have been single for a long time and its getting to the point where I feel like I'll never meet anyone becase I do things people my age have no intrest in. And by the time I get home I dont feel like going out meeting people. What are my chances of meeting someone at work? Do I have any chance whatsoever or am I doomed to be single forever? Any suggestions on how to meet people? Anyone else have this problem? HELP!!!!
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  2. 23 Comments

  3. by   fergus51
    Hon, the second sentence says it all: You're 20! You have plenty of time to meet someone and I doubt you will remain single forever. If you do things people your own age have no interest in then maybe you should be looking for an older guy or else start doing things people your age are interested in. You should read the thread asking people where they met the love of their lives in the off topic section, it might give you a few ideas.
  4. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    Originally posted by angel95
    Do I have any chance whatsoever or am I doomed to be single forever? Anyone else have this problem?
    Oh dear, I wish I had your problem. The grass is always greener on the other side, eh?

    I know I hate it when people say it to me, but PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, just stop and take the time to enjoy what you have! It will happen when it's meant to happen, and it will be wonderful. Until then, just having fun being you, and being 20.

    Have fun honey!

    Heather
  5. by   LasVegasRN
    Angel, Angel, Angel. If I had to do it all over again, I would have enjoyed my early 20's much more without worrying about meeting Mr. Right and getting married. I know it doesn't help that it seems everyone else is "getting their's". I know.

    I completely agree with what others said above.

    Meeting guys is a challenge. I'm into ballet, opera, theatre, arts, library events and concerts. I'm not meeting any guys at these events! So, you have to decide if/when you want to go where the guys are. Football season is coming up soon. I'll be going to Las Vegas' Cleveland bar to cheer on the Browns. Local churches have singles meetings/socials all the time (my church's singles group is kinda pitiful so I don't go). Toastmasters has bachelor/bachelorette meetings all over.

    You just have to be creative and willing to go out and mingle. I had to learn that even at my age (36) after being divorced. Can't meet anybody sitting at home.

    Enjoy and have fun!!
  6. by   Jenny P
    Angel, I never even HAD A DATE til I was 21 because I was so intent on being a nurse-- I had to put myself through school with no help from anyone, so I can imagine what you feel like.

    Once I finished nursing school, I had to learn how to flirt and date. No kidding, my roomates had to teach me how to be feminine and let guys open doors, etc.! (This was back in the '60's). But once I learned how, I had a great time-- mostly because I had lots of guy friends first, then moved on to dating experiences. I met the love of my life and got married at 27.

    I have no regrets of being a late bloomer, especially when I see the divorce rate today. (Okay, I guess I do have a regret or 2; I'd suggest people have babies BEFORE they are in their 30's, because it's hard to be in your late 40's and early 50's when dealing with teens!)
  7. by   alwaysthere
    I agree, I know what you feel like. Most people whether i want to date them or just be friends with them get thrown off by my single mindedness and the fact that i am a very serious person who never experienced a childhood. I am interested in many things and do many things that people who are my age do not. However I do what i like and will not change my ways to gain realationships. It would be a lie to change myself, and the person would not truly know >me< . So do what your interested in, stop focusing on other people , and really focus on living your life on enjoying the things you want to do. Everyday can be something unique and special if you make it that way, you control your life by the way you act. So do what you love be yourself and when the time is right you will meet another person to >share< your full and wonderful life with.

    (That said, waiting can be a bytch sometimes)
  8. by   Love-A-Nurse
    hello and welcome! relax and it will come to pass. being in a hurry sometimes, leads one to not making wise decisions. enjoy your new career and love, you!
  9. by   waicurn
    p-leeease !! 20 years old and think you'll never date again !!!???

    i'm like jenny, didn't "date" till i was 22 !!?? and that was in the... uh... 90's !!! it's good that way... keeps you... uh... kept me out of trouble, not to mention all the crazy stuff that goes through all y' girls' heads.... anyway... guys like me should remind girls like you it's good to be single. :d kidding. dinner and a movie... say... next tuesday night?
  10. by   waicurn
    Men are like parking spaces........all the good ones are taken
    and about your signiture... the advice you hear now adays... park your car at the far end of the lot and enjoy the walk ! Enjoy your single-ness... I know I am !

    (knock on wood, god-forbid that my dream girl shows up tomorrow :kiss and throws me all off balance. :imbar )
  11. by   nurseratchett29
    I got married in my early 20's and divorced at 30. I missed all my 20's. Don't get me wrong, I don't regret it because I have 3 wonderful kids, but I missed a lot and once I was divorced I regressed back to my early 20's and went a little wild for a while. Enjoy it while you can
  12. by   delirium
    Originally posted by OBNURSEHEATHER


    Oh dear, I wish I had your problem. The grass is always greener on the other side, eh?
    You said it. I wish I had had the foresight to stay single forever.
  13. by   WalMart_ADN
    Angel...i know how you feel lol....it's hard because, like you said, your devoting all your time to nursing, and people your age aren't interested in the same things. it's a matter of background and foresight i think. you know as well as i do (i'm 19 and single too btw) that people our age do stupid things without thinking about the effects of them. We don't. People our age have summer jobs while we our working on our careers. I just ended a relationship because he was "fulfilling his ultimate goal of being the best walmart stockman he could be." we were headed two entirely different directions. i just graduated fron nursing school and started a new job in a childrens hospital, and i'm thinking along the same lines as you....where the hell am I going to meet anyone? i spend all of my time doing two things, working and driving to work!!
    I think what the others that have replied are right , in a way. I think we both realize that at 20, we (well, I, anyway lol) are not looking for the man to marry...just someone to have fun with and hang out with. And i think it'll happen for both us soon. They say it happens in the weirdest places. I met the guy i just broke up with in the household chemical section of walmart! ( i worked my way through college there, if you are wondering what the fascination is with that store lol)
    sorry this is kinda lengthy and all over the place, no real order in the chaos of this reply. its' kind of a soapbox for me lol. In the meantime, keep your chin up and your eyes open. and don't frown, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile!! :kiss :kiss :kiss
  14. by   LasVegasRN
    Princess, tired of Princes, seeks FROG
    So THAT'S what's been flashing on my forehead! Took me forever to figure that out! :chuckle

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