Sexual assault question...

  1. Have you or has anyone in your immediate family (including in-laws and cousins) ever been sexually assaulted?

    Do you think that the laws are adequate nowadays?

    Or do you think that the system needs more changing?
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  2. 32 Comments

  3. by   fergus51
    Yes, and I think the laws need changing. Rapists seem to serve less time than car thieves around here. It is completely disgusting to me that a man convicted of sexually assaulting a woman can be out of jail in 3 years and then do it again. There is nothing in place to allow prison officials to keep inmates in after their term, even if they are at a high risk of offending.
  4. by   sunnygirl272
    hey, what's even worse..child molesters and spousal murderers get off even lighter than rapists!!!!
  5. by   Sleepyeyes
    Partly why I asked...

    ...in the 60's when I was growing up, a friend was raped and beaten by 2 guys and she was afraid to even tell about it because she was hitchhiking and therefore "asked for it."

    ...by the 80's, we had a family member who had to turn in a relative for child molestation. He served 1 month.

    ...and now it's the next century and the sheriff just came to my door, gave us a flyer, and told us that a "sexual predator" was in the neighborhood.

    Truly, I don't know what to think anymore.
  6. by   live4today
    Yes, I have family members who have been sexually assaulted before, and it's a darn shame that their offenders got off so easy. One offender still cannot be found by the police even after 16 years since the offense occurred. He raped one of my sisters while intruding in her home in the middle of the night, and he raped her with her baby lying next to her in the bed. The baby was a newborn, too. Her other child was in another bedroom asleep, and her husband wasn't home when it happened. Apparently, he climbed through an open window in her other child's bedroom, got a kitchen knife before entering her room, and raped her in the dark. The baby started to cry, and he told her to shut up the baby or he would kill her and the baby to. I won't say anymore on this case, but I hope that jerk is either dead or in jail for having been caught in his crimes. May he burn in hades for his crimes.
    Last edit by live4today on Jul 7, '02
  7. by   fergus51
    Here in my province a man was recently convicted of assault or attempted murder for slitting a woman's throat, but he was acquitted on the sexual assault charge because she was drunk and might have consented to sex but just forgot about it. Now, I may be a little naive, but I think the slit throat gives the impression that he knew she didn't want to have sex with him...
  8. by   nursejws
    Yes, this happened to one of my friends. The guys walked, and she got a bad rap after SHE had been raped by 6 guys. It was bad, the summer before entering high school - she had to move because the guys walked and her parents felt it best she moved out of state for her own protection. Her little sister, 4 yrs younger, got picked on too. Infact, her English teacher, which her sister had 4 years earlier, asked her if she was so -n- so's sister. She said yes. The teacher gave her(the little sister) the most difficult time for the rest of the year. The entire family moved out of state almost 2 yrs later.
  9. by   Sleepyeyes
    In-freakin'-credible...but after what I've seen, I believe it.

    The relative I referred to earlier eventually had to move out of state as well, because the perp was such a popular dude that everyone "knew" he was framed, and didn't hesitate to call the kids "crazy" or "brainwashed."
  10. by   night owl
    I find it very disturbing that the victims get treated like they were the criminals and the criminals get treated like they were the victims. Is there something wrong with this picture??? The criminals get off with a slap on the hand and the victims have to face PTSD for the rest of their lives, counseling/treatment for years and are basically looking over their shoulders constantly where ever they go, if they go outside at all. The ones who get raped in their own homes can't even stay there anymore, never mind trying to fall asleep in their own beds. It's so darn sad how the system works today in the year 2002!
    After the Catholic church uproar and priests doing little kids, you can't trust anyone anymore. I'm just leary about everything and keep the doors and windows locked, have the security thing going on with the alarm directly to the police station. It helps to ease the paranoia at home at least When I'm out, I've got the mace thing and will blind anyone in a minute...no questions asked!
    Last edit by night owl on Jul 7, '02
  11. by   nursejws
    Ya, I felt real bad for the family...they had lived there for years, many generations, good people too...and this is what they get?

    I was with another friend during a New Years party at a VERY nice hotel when she was assaulted. The guy bought her a shot, up until this point, she'd only had a couple of beers...she was fine. After the shot, they wobbled back to the table, and she started feeling worse. Like a gentleman, he offered to walk her to the bathroom, which was just across the lobby from the ballroom. LOTS of people, eye view from ballroom...we thought nothing of it. She never came back. I grabbed all of our stuff (purses, souveniours, etc) and set in the lobby where I could see the ballroom and the bathroom. To make the longer story short. She was found in the backseat of a cab, had puked on herself, been raped by this guy and his friend, and smacked around. This all happened behind me, so I had no idea about the incidence. I set there for hours...good thing, I was DRUNK! Finally, around 3am I went and got her car out of valet and went home where I received a phone call - she was at home! It took several days for her to tell me what really happened from what she could remember. The eery part is I took a picture of her and this guy...the picture came out great, except for a shadow over his face! This was her college alumni party...the guy was never ID'd. :angryfire
  12. by   KaraLea
    nursejws, It sounds like that "Shot" was drugged.
  13. by   nursejws
    Yup! The saddest part of all...we knew the bartender from high school. How the heck did the jerk have time to slip it in?!?!?!
  14. by   KaraLea
    Did the attacker handle the drink at anytime? Could have "palmed" a small tablet of the drug, then just dropped it into the glass. From what I have heard of the so called "date rape drug" it disolves immediately when it is put into the drink.

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