Serious question here? (or multiple)

  1. how do you know when someone is telling you the truth or not?

    how do you know that what people tell you is true or not?

    bottom line? tired of getting screwed over, lied to and taken advantage of............ sighs

    any suggestions?

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  3. by   Jenny P
    Cen, I trust my gut. If it says something isn't right; it usually isn't. Sometimes it is wrong, but that doesn't mean I don't trust anyone anymore.
    Hey, PM me if you need to talk.
    Are you speaking of romantic/personal realtionships Cen?

    Well, I tend to be a very untrusting and paranoid person relationship-wise. I've found that there comes a time when you have to search your heart and decide that you either trust someone until they prove otherwise, or spend alot of time and energy always worrying.

    It does suck being screwed over by someone you thought you trusted. But if you never trust anyone, you may never find what you're looking for.

    Not a good answer, I know. Just my thoughts.

  5. by   jayna
    hey Cen........ People don't understand anyone until they're really inlove with that person.......relationship wise.

    I don't understand men in realtionship.

    but i do understand my best male friends.
  6. by   alwaysthere
    Well knowing if someone is telling the truth is part intution part observation. And yet you still can get hurt, there just no easy way. I dunno im a wreck in that dept myself.....sigh!
  7. by   bestblondRN
    I agree with Jenny--follow your gut. If someone has burned you once, shame on them, but if you let them burn you twice, shame on you.......and only those who've been burned by the flame believe in the fire! Sorry to hear things aren't going well for you--just don't let yourself be a victim.
  8. by   kids
    Trust your gut, even if it is telling you something you don't want to hear.
  9. by   micro
    CEN 35,
    Tough friend
    and rather in cyber or the real world.....
    it is a hard game to win.......

    Been hurt more than my heart on the sleeve personality can take.....
    and it is not only romantic that this statement I make

    but i find I must just keep travelling on.....
    for the joy of living and loving is SO RIGHT
    even when I risk......
    so i just keep on risking.........
    and to my fears.......

    Easier said than done.....
    in any realm of life.....
    romantic, platonic, familial, work or any of the inbetween and other.........

    CEN 35,
    Keep on keeping on.......

    your friend Micro

    sorry for the rhymes....micro can't stop her fingers to the keys in time..................
  10. by   Sleepyeyes
    Cen, you can trust your gut if you want to; as for me, my gut is so twisted, there is no trust.
    But I do know God won't lie, so I pray about it, and the truth comes out in the stuff that matters.
    Hope whoever it is, really is telling the sure seems like you want to believe. (((((take care))))
  11. by   nakitamoon
    Cen,,, Everyones responses,,, are the best answer to no correct answer situtiation,,,,

    Due to several things,,, inc,, a marriage to satan,,,, Have terrible trust issues here,,,, Has that hurt potential relationships,,,,, yes,

    Has anyone broken through it,,,, yes my current husband,,,, I truly can say I trust him with my soul,,,,, but he has been proving it daily for over 10 years,,,,, I came with baggage,,,,,,

    It takes a lot,,,, I follow my gut instincts,,,, found that when I don't listen to them,,,, I am ususally sorry,,,,,,,,

    Don't trust anyone,,,, till they prove I can,,,, Not good I know,,, but,,,,,

    & please don't violate that trust once you have it,,,, your only chance,,,,,

    To know if someone is telling truth,,,,, again gut feeling,,,,, If your not sure,,,, just keep the feeling in mind,,,, keep the relationship going,,,, if you find your feeling to be true and unacceptable,,,,, end it,,,,,,

    You have to be happy,,,, yourself,,,, inside and out ,,,, before you can be happy in anytype of relationship,,,,,, Now I don't mean you can't have bad days,,,, moments,,,,, but as whole happy with who you are,,,, where your going and who you want to invite to enjoy that ride with you,,,,,,,,

    Rambling ,,,,,,,,, one thing I'm good at!!!! hope this made some sort of sense,,,,,,,, ~~Moon
  12. by   aimeee
    Let's see...body language? Eye contact? Consistency with what they have said before? Do I know they lie to others about other matters? Personal history of INTEGRITY? If I feel a sense of vague uneasiness about them that is my brain (or gut) telling me somehow something is not adding up.

    Trouble is, when a person is already in emotional turmoil, it is hard to be sensitive to these little signals. You ARE reading them already, but its hard to sort them out because everything is in a whirl. If you won't trust your friends with the details, it can help to at least set things down on paper. Sit down when you are RESTED and thinking clearly (no alcohol) and ready to be HONEST with YOURSELF and write down all the things that point in one direction, and all the things that point in another. Pretend it is a good friend who is in this situation instead of yourself, and think about what you would tell them.

    It is up to you whether you will accept or reject the role of the victim, not just in a single instance, but in your life pattern.

    A true friend tells you what they believe to be the TRUTH and not what they think you want to hear.

    caring thoughts,