Seeking advice on how to leave current job

  1. Hi everyone,

    I am seeking advice on how to exit from my current job. I am a nursing student and work full time during the week days as a sales assistant in a very small office involved in rail manufacturing. I have had numerous issues with my job and the people I work with since my very first day here, often though, I have never verbalized these. The first time I did so I was labeled a "trouble maker" by my boss for reporting pornographic pictures that employees and even clients were emailing to one another on our business email. I quickly learned to keep my mouth shut.

    Sexual descrimination has at times been blatant, alcoholism and a hostile work environment rapant, to the point that within the past few months when my boss acts up I fear for my physical safety.

    Because we are just a small (4 of us total) satellite office and our main office is 2.5 hours away, I think that HR in the main office has an idea of what goes on but perhaps not the full extent of these situations.

    The good news is that my financial status has changed for the better recently and I will be accepting an extern position this summer with a local hospital, therefor I'll be giving notice in my current job in exactly one month.

    What I have been mulling over in my head, is exactly what terms to leave on. Do I openly state my reasons for leaving during my 'exit interview'? Do I keep it all to myself or maybe just hint at the real reason?

    There is no way I'd ever come back to work here and I am so happy about leaving that I shouldn't care about the way my boss will treat people when I am gone.

    But then, there is just something about just walking away from a place where people are treated so poorly that it feels wrong not to stick up for yourself and other people who cannot defend themselves because they really need their jobs and have to put up with an abusive manager.

    Silly me, I've always felt that someone, anyone should stick up for "the little guy" and don't let people walk over you. As if not saying anything means you accept another person's behavior and actions as appropriate even when they definately are not.

    Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What did you do and what was the end result? Your input will be greatly appreciated.
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  2. 4 Comments

  3. by   Katnip
    Just turn in a standard letter of resignation. It never really helps to burn bridges, and likely won't do much good if you list the problems in the resignation letter anyway, since the letter will go to your boss, and HR isn't likely to read it when they get it.

    However, sometimes there is an exit interview when a company wants to know the reasons behind a resignation, especially if there are a lot of them. That's a good time to tell the real reasons and problems behind your decision.

    You could also send a separate letter with full documentation of the things you've experience to the HR at the main office. Don't send it through your current office.
  4. by   H ynnoD
    When I leave my Job,I will give them as much consideration and notice as they do everyone that they lay off.I quit-C-ya.No warning,no anything. :uhoh21:
  5. by   colleen10
    Donny, I hear ya,

    If it was my last employer, the one that laid off 3/4 of their staff including myself, I probably would just walk out.

    But here I intend to give the minimum 2 weeks notice. Not out of any respect for my boss, I have no respect for him, but just because I don't want my co-workers to suffer and be left in a lurch if I were to just leave and never come back. I am concerned as to how I'll be treated during those last two weeks though.

    I guess I'm just torn because I know of the old addage "never burn your bridges" but I feel if I don't say something, it's ok that he treats people the way he does and behaves the way he does. And to be quite honet with you, he is one bridge that I would never want to cross over again.

    God help the person who replaces me.

    I know that if I do say anything, to be very factual about it, not emotional, but I just don't know if I should say anything at all.
  6. by   llg
    Always ... always... leave on good terms if at all possible. If you don't, you give yourself a bad reputation that can, theoretically, stick with you forever. You never know where and when a bad reputation will catch up to you. People who abandon their positions with no notice think that they are "sticking it to the boss," but in reality, they are hurting their co-workers -- and may be "sticking it to themselves" further down the line.

    About reporting the abuse. An exit interview is an excellent way to bring up those things, but you may not get the chance. If not, I would probably write a letter to the company's main headquarters after you leave -- but if you do that, be prepared to face a few consequences. They may want to interview you. If they take action against your former supervisor, that person may retaliate, file a lawsuit, whatever ... So, be sure you are prepared for that if you decide to go that route.

    Good luck with your externship,
    llg

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