We did not have parents available; very early years neighbors and I shared. Since moving in89 , husband and I have alternated staying home with kids. Since last year they've been left alone -now 14 and 17. Mom spot checks with phone calls and the BETTER call me when leaving for friends home. First time punnishment of NO TV or Ninetendo for a week was a cure.
TWO WEEKS IN A ROW of dish duty BY HAND cured missing curfew of 17 YO too.
It isn't easy...can't imagine being single parent.
worken up by 14 yo at 605AM friday's announcement of no school cause brother checked internet site for snow closing...grr boss called 10minutes later re delayed office opening 10AM so now up 1 hr earlier...had the pleasure of having kids in driveway by 7:45AM to dig out our 2 cars by hand. Hubby left at 8AM
Told 17 yo to use snow blower "can't if Dad not here" (Dad so has spolied them) he then couldn't start it. Neighbor rescued him--NO GAS, gas can held about 1/2 cup. Borrowed gas from Mr Gene.
SO good ol Mom drove in opposite direction from work to get gas can filled and returned home with it to find neighbors and my driveway cleared and kids back in house.
Told them they could now go make $$$ "not interested". How they survive on $10.00 weekly allowance amazes me....greatly concerned hubby's fear of something happening to them if outside when were not home has turned them into couch /computer potatoes with minimal work etheic...but that's another thread.