Sahm For 5 Yrs Starting Nursing School In Fall

  1. I HAVE A QUESTION FOR ANYONE WITH KIDS THAT MADE THE TRANSITION FROM SAHM TO RN OR WORK IN GENERAL. MY HUSBAND WORKS, BUT I AM GOING TO NEED HIM TO TAKE CARE OF THINGS AT HOME WHEN I AM NOT HERE (AT SCHOOL) AND IT IS SCARING THE HELL OUT OF ME. NOW HE DOES VERY LITTLE AT HOME, IF ANYTHING! WHEN HE GETS HOME FROM WORK, IT'S ON THE CHAIR, COUCH OR COMPUTER FOR THE REST OF THE EVENING. MEANWHILE I'M GETTING DINNER READY, BATHING THE KIDS AND GETTING THEM READY FOR BED, CLEANING UP ALL THE MESSES AND IF I HAVE TIME EATING DINNER MYSELF. WHEN I GO TO THE GYM AND ARE GONE FOR 1 1/2 HOURS I COME HOME TO A CYCLONE.
    I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW IF IT GETS ANY BETTER? AM I GOING TO GO TO SCHOOL AND COME HOME TO THE KIDS NOT BEING FED DINNER OR STILL UP AT 10 O'CLOCK AT NIGHT? HOW CAN I RELY ON A MAN THAT HAS DONE NOTHING AS FAR AS TAKING CARE OF THE KIDS FOR SO LONG? I FEEL THAT ME GOING TO SCHOOL SO I CAN HAVE A NICE CAREER IS GOING TO BE BETTER FOR THE BOTH OF US BUT NOT IF IT'S GOING TO KILL ME!
    ANY HELP OUT THERE?????????
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  2. 2 Comments

  3. by   Nursie30
    Nice for the both of you when your graduate...............Hell for you when your in school.
    I had to rely on my husband during nursing school, and at times, I think he tried to sabatoge it, jealous that I was doing something, jealous that he didn't have as much time for me.......hardly ever watched the kids..........very stressful, missing your kids is the worst part, knowing that hey haven't had supper yet, and its 10pm, well, that is something that your gonna have to decide.........is it worth the sacrifice and the battle?
    Mine was and things are much better 3 yrs past school..........
    Good luck
  4. by   USA987
    First, BREATHE. I was a SAHM for 4 yrs. before going back to school. My kids are now 6 & 7. My DH is in the Navy, so I kind of felt like I had a double whammy....especially since I had no family around and no friends to speak of.

    You need to learn very early on just where your priorities lay. Let go on the housework etc. I would get up at 4 a.m. to study, go to school all day, pick up the kids and spend some REAL quality time with them, study some more, put the kids to bed and then spent a precious few mins. with my hubby. I had to continually remind my husband to look and the picture and realize that school is only a temporary thing. You WILL need his support for sure. Sit down and talk to him and tell him exactly what your expectations of him are.

    I won't lie, there were many days that I just wanted to break down and cry. There were days that I wanted to quit. But there were other days when it felt so great to be out of the house...felt like a unique individual again.

    Don't let your fear talk yourself out of this. You can do it!!! We need ya out here!!!

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