My grandmother passed away last wednesday night. We burried her on Saturday. It was one of the saddest and angriest times I have ever dealth with. I will try and explain. The granny that passed was my husbands step dad's mother. She was A catholic of Italian disent. She was a lovely woman as is her husband.She had five children 3 sons and two daughters. The sadness is for her sons. the anger is towards the daughters. The oldest daughter is a snob and has treated my mother-in-law very poorly since she married her brother. It doesn't seem to matter how hard we try, she keeps digging her claws into all of us.My mother-in-law in not catholic nor is she italian and she was married before(are you getting why she was looked down upon?) Anyways on the day of the funeral the cars were lined up in order. Our car was second as we are the children of the first born son. The rest of the cars were lined up accodingly. The daughter of the eldest sister was behind us and not happy that we were put in front of her in the precessional. As we were moved ahead of her car we could here her cursing at us, and then she proceeded to put her middle finger up at us. This is just the first part. Then, my sister-in-law was asked to do a reading. The faimily didn't like that idea and chose a second cousin to it instead! My sister-in-law was in tears, those jerks did this just before we were ready to enter the church. Then to top it all off at the lunch after the funeral My husband and I were up getting our food,when the nasty sister said that her family should have been called up to eat before non-family members. She made that comment and then with contempt looked directly at me!!
I have never been so hurt in all my life. Why do people have to be this way? What makes them think that they are better than everyone else?
Jul 8, '02
(((((Rhona))))) My prayers are with you at this time of grief and sorrow in your family's life. Pray for those wo despitefully use...abuse... you. Do NOT stoop to their level of negative behavior. Turn that family member over to God, and pray that she receives a healing for whatever it is that makes her act out so angrily against others. Fighting fire with fire only breeds...MORE FIRE, but fighting those flames with water, douses out the sting..."It is better for us to be hated for who we are
than to be hated for who we are NOT!"
(That quote belongs to: Andre Gide...and he couldn't have spoken more truthful words for our soul). May your rest tonight be peaceful and free of anger towards your relative who would not act out as she does if she had the love of God in her heart. She is blind from this truth, therefore...the anger she exhibits towards you. Love on her with Agape love
, and be careful not to act out in hatred towards her lest your attitude and spirit become like hers.
. :kiss :angel2:
Last edit by live4today on Jul 8, '02