Sadly, they found Spaulding Gray:

  1. from CNN:

    Body of writer, actor found in East River
    Monday, March 8, 2004 Posted: 4:24 PM EST (2124 GMT)


    NEW YORK (CNN) -- A body pulled from the East River at 3 p.m. Sunday was that of actor-writer Spalding Gray, who had been missing since January 10, the New York City medical examiner's office said Monday afternoon.

    The body was identified after an autopsy through dental and other X-rays, said Ellen Borakove, the medical examiner's spokeswoman. She said the cause of death is under investigation.

    The only identifiable evidence on the body was a pair of black corduroy pants similar to the pair Gray was wearing on the night of his disappearance, she said.

    Gray, 62, was known for writing and starring in the autobiographical "Swimming to Cambodia" and appearances in films such as "The Killing Fields," "Beaches," "The Paper" and "Kate & Leopold," but was most celebrated for his autobiographical monologues, including "Cambodia," "Monster in a Box" and "It's a Slippery Slope."

    He had attempted suicide several times since a car accident in Ireland in June 2001 in which he sustained severe injuries. Family friend and spokeswoman Sara Vass said in January that he had never been the same since that crash and had subsequently received treatment at psychiatric hospitals.

    In September 2003 Gray left a message at his Soho apartment in Manhattan saying goodbye to his wife, Kathie Russo, and telling her he planned to jump from the Staten Island Ferry that day. Russo called police, who notified authorities on the ferry. A despondent Gray was found sitting on the ferry and was escorted off the boat.

    Russo and Gray's therapist thought he had been making progress since then and that he was through the worst of his depression.

    His wife had held out hope he was alive during his disappearance, she told The Associated Press.

    "Everyone that looks like him from behind, I go up and check to make sure it's not him," Russo said in a phone interview with the AP about a week ago. "If someone calls and hangs up, I always do star-69. You're always thinking, 'maybe.' "

    Billy Doyle, a Staten Island Ferry worker, reported in January that he had seen Gray coming off the ferry late at night, and Russo and Gray's older brother, Rockwell Gray, feared that trip may have been a "dry run" to prepare for a suicide attempt, Vass said in January.

    Police said he was last seen at 6:30 p.m. January 10 at his Manhattan apartment, and he spoke to his 6-year-old son by telephone at 9 p.m., but he did not show up for a dinner appointment that evening or a re-scheduled flight to Colorado the next day.
  2. 7 Comments

  3. by   jnette
    Just watched this on the news, Deb. Can't say I knew much of the man, but he looked like someone I could have enjoyed. Sad. Feel badly for his wife and family, to be sure.
  4. by   warrior woman
    Ah hell. I truly admired that man. A gentle, inquiring intellectual. He must have been suffering terribly emotionally. I know that I can certainly relate. What a shame. What a loss.
  5. by   SmilingBluEyes
    just goes to show how bad depression can get....

    we can never underestimate the damage it can do.
  6. by   nurseygrrl
    What a terrible loss. He was an intelligent and caring person who gave me, and many others, great entertainment throughout his years. I pray for him and his family. Poor thing...
  7. by   warrior woman
    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    just goes to show how bad depression can get....

    we can never underestimate the damage it can do.
    So true Deb. I have been there, and I NEVER want to go back there again. I can't.
  8. by   nurseygrrl
    The following is a post by a friend of Spaulding Gray's. His name is John Perry Barlow.
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    Spalding placed a call at 9:00 pm on Saturday evening to his little boy, Theo, to tell him he loved him. The originating number, I now learn, turns out to have been a pay phone at the Battery terminal of the Staten Island Ferry. Also, two people have come forward and say they saw him on the ferry after that. That's all I know but, hell, that's all I need to know.

    He's gone. What remains will likely turn up in the spring when the water warms.

    I'm very surprised he didn't leave a note. He was not in any way a cruel man, nor was he so cross-threaded that he wouldn't know the pain that this week of uncertainty would cause us. Perhaps he did leave a note and it was lost somehow.

    Some will say. understandably, that his suicide was itself a cruel act. But they have not suffered as he did. I, for one, forgive him. I pray that his brave widow Kathie and his kids, who deserve our kindest beams, forgive him too.

    There's a vision that keeps floating through my thoughts. I imagine him bobbing in that lethal water, watching the ferry churn away. The lights of lower Manhattan glittering behind him, as functionally distant as stars in space. For several minutes, he was as certainly dead as he is now and yet fully, lucidly alive. He was in a bardo, as the Tibetans call the stations of death, and yet he was in a bardo that lies within the physical world. I am letting myself believe that those minutes were a transport of release, an utter peace. A glory at last.
  9. by   SmilingBluEyes
    MY heart goes out to Spaulding 's loved ones. WHAT A HUGE LOSS.