You know what shocks me most about this conversation, is that in a class of 80, we have 2 openly gay males, and at least 10 times that many openly heterosexual nurses. For the life of me, I can't see why it should matter, as long as boundaries are respected, and quality care is delivered. Of course, there will be some patients who will request another nurse, but that goes for the ESL nurses, the African-American nurses, and the foreign nurses as well, and it is to the detrement of the patient that their ignorance does not allow them to see past the race, color, or orientation of that person. For example, in our class, one of our openly gay males is one I would absolutely trust with my life in a hairy situation. He is that cool, composed, and knowledgable. So, again, ignorance in America is the #1 problem we are facing, the #2 problem being that there is no acknowledgement of the fact that the ignorance is a problem. I was raised in a religion that taught that homosexuality was a sin, yet when I first met a homosexual person decades ago, I couldn't help but see the wonderful gifts and attributes this person had to give to the world, in spite of my religious upbringing.
I don't understand, and never will, the hatred that brings someone to kill another because they are different. I say the more male nurses the better, sexual orientation notwithstanding. They are competent, smart, fun, and every bit as deserving of the opportunitieis as everyone else who wants to be a nurse.
I have also noticed a few of the hetero males in our class mentioning that they took harassment from others saying "why don't you just go to medical school?" Well, these people don't understand that nursing offers more opportunities, better and different patheways to get to different jobs, and overall, is just a more flexible career option. Plus, there is the patient interaction, which none of them would trade for anything--they are all wonderful.
I try to explain this, as I am a female, but still get the "but you're so smart--you should have gone to medical school" I try to tell them that brains have nothing to do with it, it is what you want out of life, and the type of career you want-patient-focused with lots of patient interaction, or lots of responsibility but little contact. Many people don't get this, taking their medical career info from TV shows. Well, they deserve what they get.
Any male who goes into nursing is smarter than any male who goes into medicine, in my opinion--more career opportunities, more career flexibility, and lots of respect from the women, because lord knows we need some Y chromosomes to delete the estrogen!
I am all for males in nursing. I wish there were more, and I advocate to anyone who shows the slightest bit of interest about the perks, the various career paths, the flexibility, and the many, many things you can do with a nursing degree, as well as the graduate programs to pursue.
Those who give you trouble are just compensating for their own insecurities about their own penis size and/or sexual orientation. Just my opinion after lots of years of dealing with men with SPS (short penis syndrome), and the IMNG (I'm Not Gay- really) syndrome.
Go men, don't let the losers stand in your way. The profession needs you to bring us to order, bring us a common voice and a common purpose, so that we can organize ourselves for better working conditions, standardized working conditions, etc. Without you, there's just too much estrogen, and no offence to my fellow sisters, we just need the cool, detached decision-making of a male to help us in these times of change!
I realized I just focused on homosexual males, but the same goes for homosexual females--should make no difference. I would be proud to work by any competent homosexual nurse, female, male, transgender, etc. The focus is on competency and work ethic. Personally, I could care less about your personal predilicetions, as long as they are not illegal (child molestation, for example), and as long as they don't interfere with your job, and you are happy. I consider you all my friends, colleagues, and am proud to know you.
Thanks for reading,
A Pro-Gay Mormon nurse