Request for prayer--my DH newly dx'd with metastatic disease

  1. A few of the memberhship here with whom I correspond off site are aware of some of what we have been experiencing.

    About 3-1/2 weeks ago, I discovered that my DH Brian was ever so slightly more jowly on one side than the other. I really thought I was imagining it, it was so slight. Felt like there was a firm piece of broccoli in there. He doesn't eat vegetables (joke, but he doesn't), and I dragged him to our NP the next morning, first thing.

    Long story short, we had the CT, saw a surgeon, had a fine needle aspiration, saw the surgeon again (meantime, Brian the DH got a new job, thank you God, and told the surgeon to put off the excision because he didn't want to lose time from work!), had it excised, and the final pathology report came in on Wednesday.

    I didn't get it until yesterday, and I would not have it still if I had not actively pursued it--despite calling the surgeon on Thursday, who told me that the report wasn't finished yet.

    Poorly differentiated/undifferentiated metastatic disease to submandibular lymph node. The only good news is that it was encapsulated (hard to know why, since that's apparently quite a rare thing, encapsulation of a metastatic growth) and that the adjacent salivary gland and area lymph nodes were all negative.

    The site of the primary is "unknown," so I see a PET scan in our immediate future.

    We also rejected the oncologist lined up by the ENT because (it appeared) the oncologist was going to treat something that he didn't have a diagnosis on. We opted instead for the group (ENT/onco, onco/rad and chemo) of physicians who treated our good friend across town last year (inoperable squamous cell carcinoma of tongue--and that friend is alive and clear of cancer today).

    Please put us in your prayers--and wherever you are, notice the people around you, particularly the people that you care about (which I guess should technically be all of them, right?).

    The American Cancer Society has talked for years about "lumps and thickenings." This would be a "thickening."

    Take care, and please keep us in your prayers.
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  3. by   Tweety
    I'm sorry to hear this. Best wishes.
  4. by   SuesquatchRN
    Oh, my. I'll be thinking of you.
  5. by   Spidey's mom
    Hi Chris Miss you.

    You and your husband will be in my prayers.

    As will the all the medical folks who are involved in your husband's care.

  6. by   dianah
    chris, Steph said it well.

    Hugs and prayers from me too.
  7. by   leslie :-D
    aw, chris...:icon_hug:
    i'm really sorry.
    but encapsulated is very encouraging, yes?
    much love to you and brian.
    (i miss you.)

  8. by   ghillbert
    All the best to you and your dear husband. It's shocking news, isn't it? Even when you're investigating, most of you doesn't think it'll be the worst news.

    I found out a month ago that my mum has incurable cancer with a very poor prognosis, so I know what it feels like, unfortunately.

    Best wishes that you'll have a defined treatment plan and great results.
  9. by   jnette
    Terrible news, for sure. But encapsulated is reason for hope. Definately encouraging.

    So sorry to hear this, Chris. You all will certainly be kept in my thoughts and prayers.

    Keep hope alive. (((Chris)))
  10. by   loricatus

    I didn't know. Call me if you need some help or just someone to talk to.
  11. by   prmenrs
    I am so sorry to hear this, Chris. I will include him (and you) in my prayers. :icon_hug:
  12. by   Silverdragon102
    So sorry to hear this Chris, my thoughts are will you both
  13. by   pattylpn54

    praying for dh, you, and
    his entire medical team.
  14. by   sirI
    Prayers for your dh and for you, chris...