Recurring dream...

  1. Ok, I know this is a nursing website, but I have to share this rather odd thing that keeps happening. I keep having this dream that my father is about to pass away, and I HAVE to get there to see him before he does. In reality, my father passed away in 1993. I have been having this dream for a few months. I have not been successful at passing the NCLEX twice now, and wonder if this dream is some underlying something related to that. My husband is very logical...and says this dream is what it is, a dream, with no rhyme or reason. Just wanted to share that, because it's a little odd to me.
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  3. by   Katnip
    I think it's a way of expressing your stress.

    When we are stressed like that we can have dreams that frighten us like that. When I was a kid I was abused, and I kept having several dreams that I was being abandoned by my Mom. She didn't leave us, kept us together, but it was just a way I think of my mind releasing fears during sleep when it was safer, I guess.
  4. by   live4today
    ((((pie123)))) i'm so sorry to hear about you not passing the nclex. don't give up! keep taking that test! if it is something you really feel passionate about, it will happen for you. i know of a very good nurse who sat for boards eight times before she passed, and she was an honor student all the way through her masters program. now that is sheer determination! :kiss

    now...about that occurring dream of yours? i thought i had an answer for you, but as soon as i read that your father passed away in 1993 i no longer had an answer. sooooooooooooooooo thought #2:

    is it possible that the stress you feel over not passing the nclex somehow relates to the relationship you had or missed out on having with your father??? how did your father react to you when you didn't succeed at something, or pass test in school when you were growing up? do you feel that you failed him in some way by not passing?

    if you were close to him, perhaps your inner child is calling out to him for comfort or a hug that would ordinarily reassure you things would be okay???

    those are just my humble thoughts.
  5. by   CCU NRS
    I Like Cheerfuls thoughts

    I would take this angle, think about your father, did you make it to see him before he passed? Was there some issue surrounding this? Look for details, perhaps this is your subconscious trying to help you figure out how to make it to the place you want to be? Why do you equate this dream with anything about your Dad?
    Look for comparisons.
    Best of Luck
  6. by   Antikigirl
    I am far from a dream analyst...but did you go into nursing for the same reasons I did? To be there and have some way to have power to change things for my friends and family when they are ill or dying????

    My mother was so sick...it happened so suddenly! One moment fine, the next screaming in pain on the floor unable to move. Her head hurt so bad she said her head and neck where on fire! She screamed for help...and I was helpless for her! I called 9-11 but I was only 14...they treated me like I was an infant! They arrived and they kept asking my poor father what was wrong..he just got home when I called 9-11, and didn't know what the heck was going on! He knew nothing..and there I was...never a medical thought in my mind..but holding her meds and the information on what she took that day, her signs/symptoms, and her complaints! No one listened to me...I felt like I was letting my mother down, and I have never felt so insignificant in my life!

    Finally one paramedic listened to me..and that insignificant feeling went away...okay now I was helpful! That is all it took, but reflecting back..it is the reason for me being a nurse...to never feel that stupid, insignificant or powerless ever again when it comes to my own loved ones!

    The dreams haunt me to this day! I still see myself screaming medical info and no one listening...watching my mother die in front of me and no one listening!

    She lived thank GOD! And she had one of the first confirmed cases of Viral Menengitis in over 20 years in Oregon! No one believed her symptoms, no one believed the pain meds were not working...untill I insisted...then that wonderful paramedic spoke to her nurse and said.."listen to her..she is a natural!".... The nurse brought up the idea of menengitis to the doc...he laughed it off..then thought a bit more..sure enough..it was confirmed. The power came to me, I did make a difference but it was far from enough! I was still stupid and ingnorant!

    The passion was there to pass...for my family..and it will be for you once you come to terms with the reasons, the foundation of why...you want to be a nurse. It is different for all...but embrace it! It will fuel you forever!

    Good luck to you!!!!!!!!

    Just a odd perspective from a very odd nurse..LOL!

    (oh yeah..this is a hoot..today I had an old lady actute resp distress..and who came when I called 9-11..that very same paramedic who listened to me (I know him now...and this was our first call since that day...my first time being the nurse with him being the paramedic..he said he felt old..but that I still was a natural..HE REMEMBERED!!!!!!)!!!!! And guess what..he still listened to me...funny I saw this post today! What a wierd circle we travel in!)
    Last edit by Antikigirl on Dec 18, '04
  7. by   abundantjoy07
    Some people think dreams have no bearing in reality, others think dreams are a mixture of random thoughts, ideas and expressions, while others think dreams are our window to our fears, hopes and dreams.

    My dreams that I have been having since college are all different however they share one common thread...they are incredibly realistic. I can remember every detail that I dream for about 3 hours after the dream. My dreams are wonderful. They are just so vivid that it is just wonderful to me. I personally feel that those dreams are tied into the fact that I wish life were more exciting for me sometimes. It's like my mind creates a wonder zone to help me accomplish what my heart wants. Even though they don't tie into any particular aspect of my life in general...they do pertain to my thoughts and wishes.

    You should look inside yourself and really think through your dreams. If there are any details write them down when you wake up and just reflect. Like I said earlier...every person interprets dreams differently. Maybe it's just a random mixture of stuff...but since they are reoccuring I'm sure that there is something deeper to explore.
  8. by   pie123
    Quote from cheerfuldoer
    ((((pie123)))) i'm so sorry to hear about you not passing the nclex. don't give up! keep taking that test! if it is something you really feel passionate about, it will happen for you. i know of a very good nurse who sat for boards eight times before she passed, and she was an honor student all the way through her masters program. now that is sheer determination! :kiss

    now...about that occurring dream of yours? i thought i had an answer for you, but as soon as i read that your father passed away in 1993 i no longer had an answer. sooooooooooooooooo thought #2:

    is it possible that the stress you feel over not passing the nclex somehow relates to the relationship you had or missed out on having with your father??? how did your father react to you when you didn't succeed at something, or pass test in school when you were growing up? do you feel that you failed him in some way by not passing?

    if you were close to him, perhaps your inner child is calling out to him for comfort or a hug that would ordinarily reassure you things would be okay???

    those are just my humble thoughts.
    my father was awesome, my mother was the beast of the family :chuckle
  9. by   live4today
    Quote from pie123
    My father was awesome, my mother was the beast of the family :chuckle
    Then perhaps it's your mom that is causing you to dream about your father? Perhaps you are in need of comfort from your dad that your mom didn't give you, or can't give you??? (these are just thoughts...not truths or facts). Just something to get your mind thinking about why you are dreaming about your father over and over.
  10. by   mariedoreen
    Speaking of dreams: anyone ever have a moment in their everyday lives where they all of the sudden stop and think, "ohmygod, i dreamed this moment before..." has happened to me a few times now and always makes me hyperventilate (not really) when it happens. one time when i was going through pre-reqs i had this dream that i was in the nursing program and was sitting at my desk studying for a nursing exam. my daughter came into the room and asked for something and i turned around to hand it to her. nothing big right? but the exact scene replayed itself out down to the littlest of details a couple of years later (when i really was a nursing student) and i was completely overcome by that sense of deja vu and i instantly remembered the dream i'd had. why i would even remember such an innocuous dream... who knows. frea... ky.

    anyway, to the op. i have dreams kind of like that too, they're urgency-type dreams. i don't know why i have them but the one that i have the most is where i have to dial 911 and i just can't do it. i hit 912, or 921, or 199, or 911 and it's busy... whatever, but i just can't make that call go through and i am just overcome with anxiety about it. i have no clue what yours means, but i do not believe that our dreams are just random misfires of our neurons... there's more going on there than that.

    just my crazy .02 !!
    Last edit by mariedoreen on Dec 18, '04
  11. by   meownsmile
    mariedoreen,, thats called de-ja-vue. Many people have these instances. I've had them before.
  12. by   CCU NRS
    1st I want to invite you all to come and check my old thread We're off to see the Wizard!
    http://allnurses.com/forums/showthread.php?t=54252
    It involves recurring dreams and all things supernatural!


    To the OP I think you and only you can determine what your dreams mean!

    To who ever mentoned Deja Vu' see the thread above

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