I just want an answer, not lookin' for a showdown here (LOL).
On GMA today, they profiled a husband and wife who were both at the front; they have 3 teenage sons at home. Now, I didn't think that the military would take BOTH parents at the same time. I'm just not understanding why they would take both parents, putting the kids in the position of potentially becoming orphans.
Just wondering...no flaming meant
Mar 20, '03
I may not be Kevin, but as a 10-year Air Force vet, I feel qualified and compelled to answer. I was in during the first Gulf War and yes, husbands and wives deployed, leaving kids to friends and family. It was a fact that was very clear all around. And it was why I got out of the Air Force in 1992. (before my first child was born).
You see, I did not elect to place the military and its duties first before my family. I knew if I remained, it was likely both my husband and myself could be called up, (both of us were deployable); our kids would have to be shipped back home to relatives to worry if they would lose both parents in a war. I elected NOT to allow this to happen, ever.
One thing civilians who have no military experience need to understand is, when one raises his/her right hand and swears that oath, he/she gives their life first and foremost to the military, government, and its whims. Period. No one is exempt from deployment when needed. You don't take exception cause your spouse is also deployable (or brother, sister whatever). You make plans for the provision of your kids in the horrible event you both die in service (the military sees to it you do, trust me; I witnessed wills being hurriedly written in deployment lines in 1991.) It was sobering.
It is a personal decision, and no right answer exists for everyone.....but you make NO mistake about it. When you swear your allegiance and life to the military, you meant to uphold your end of the bargain. I saw so many people scramble, shoving kids on air planes and trains, to relatives' homes, with 24 hours' notice. They did not stop to believe they and their spouse would ever be asked to deploy at the same time, but they were regardless. It was a hard lesson for us all.
The military does not discriminate that way. You are needed, you go; really it is simple as that. In so doing, you realize the military and its duties come first, not your family. You accept it and so must your family members. It is not an easy way of life, obviously. But, That is the way it is. It's not for everyone but if you swear you will go, you go. Or you separate, like I did.
Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Mar 20, '03