Question for Couples: What are your "Signals"?

  1. You're at a party. You and your partner are there together. You are bored out of your mind. How do you secretly signal your partner that you are ready to go?

    I'm interested in those secret verbal/non-verbal signals couples develop between themselves that convey the following:

    - "This food sucks, let's leave and go out to eat"
    - "If I have to stand here and listen to this crap another minute, I'm going to blow!"
    - "Sweetie, honey-poo, you need a tic-tac. BAD!"
    - "I am ready to go. NOW."
    - "Can you believe how incredibly stupid this conversation is?"

    :chuckle

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  3. by   cindyln
    my signal is me getting my purse and coat and dangling the keys lol
  4. by   Q.
    I sit and stare at my husband while very noisily sipping the very last drop of my drink, all while noisily clanking the ice - making it quite obvious that my drink is empty and having no intentions of getting it refilled.
  5. by   KC CHICK
    Originally posted by LasVegasRN
    You're at a party. You and your partner are there together. You are bored out of your mind. How do you secretly signal your partner that you are ready to go?

    I'm interested in those secret verbal/non-verbal signals couples develop between themselves that convey the following:

    - "This food sucks, let's leave and go out to eat"
    - "If I have to stand here and listen to this crap another minute, I'm going to blow!"
    - "Sweetie, honey-poo, you need a tic-tac. BAD!"
    - "I am ready to go. NOW."
    - "Can you believe how incredibly stupid this conversation is?"

    :chuckle

    C'mon... SHARE!!
    Let's see.....

    1.) Hubby asks "where do you want to eat tonight?". Kinda hinting that he doesn't want either me or himself to cook any of the nasty food we have at home. At a party, we'd probly just say we'd want to go somewhere else.
    2) Mmmmmm. That would have to be the daggers I shoot from my eyes.
    3) "No nookie till you brush your teeth."
    4) Again, daggers from the eyes. Maybe a sigh or two. 'Cause by this time, it's been an hour since I last told him that I was ready to leave.
    5) Eye rolling, definately eye rolling!!
    Last edit by KC CHICK on Feb 17, '03
  6. by   maureeno
    I know we must be sending non-verbal cues but so far as we can tell our thoughts are leaked into the others mind.
  7. by   Beach_RN
    The eyes.... He reads mine.... I read his! I just know when it is time to go!

    Also since he works midnights... usually we use that as an excuse even if it's his night off..... We say..... gotta go.... John has to go to work tonight!

    Or the ole he get's my coat!

    Or Brenda, do you have to go to the bathroom it's a long ride home! (

    or the BEST is ... gotta get the kids...... even if they are sleeping over at my mom's..... we never tell anybody that...!
  8. by   EmeraldNYL
    I prefer verbal cues.... I just pull him aside to a semi-quiet area and tell him that I want to leave.... sometimes he even listens!!
  9. by   debyan
    We do pretty good at knowing by most likely body language. If I get figity he knows I want to go. If his eyes are glazed over I know he is wanting to strangle somebody for talking on and on and on. Sometimes a slight grab of the arse can get either of us out the door. Mostly I think we have been together so long think alike OMG did I say that? deb
  10. by   Tweety
    I'm always the first ready to go. John always loves to stay and stay at parties and even help clean up.

    I don't have any signals other than walking up to him and saying "Let's Go! I'm Tired"
  11. by   kids
    With my husband and I it is kind of a matter of knowing each other really well...both of us will eat just about anything so if there is food and one of us sees the other isn't eating it means it sucks (and that the non-eater needs to be fed soon).

    We do have a kind of a "code" involving my (really shytty) back:

    him: "this has got to be hard on your back" (do you want to leave?)
    me: "I am OK so far" (this is not to bad, lets stay for now)

    him: "how is your back holding up?"
    me: "its not to bad right now" (we can go in a little while)

    him: "is your back hurting?" (we can leave anytime you want to)
    me: "I am getting pretty sore" (lets start saying our good byes and edge toward the door)

    him: "you look uncomfortable" (PLEASE get me out of here before I choke this moron!)
    me: "I am getting really uncomfortable" (PLEASE get me out of here before I slap this mindless bimbo!)

    him: "you look like you need your heating pad" (if we leave now I'll curl your toes)
    me: "I really need my heating pad" (if we leave now I'll let you curl my toes)

    me: "my back is killing me" (I'll be in the car done here, someone has pizzed me off and it may be you)
    him: "Nancy's back is really acting up" (and I better get in the car because if its not me shes pizzed at now she will be)
    Last edit by kids on Feb 18, '03
  12. by   emily_mom
    My eyes tend to glaze over when I'm bored out of my gourd, and my eyes roll back in my head when I can't take it anymore. Otherwise, I just tell him if we don't leave in 5 minutes, I'm leaving without him (and I have...)
  13. by   Sleepyeyes
    Hubs is not into social graces. He just stands up, holds out his hand and says, "Wups, time to go!" and heads for the door while I apologise, throw on my jacket, and bolt after him.

    The scary part is, I'm usually just as bored, and he knows it, but I lack the guts to do anything about it... :chuckle
  14. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    It's just completely non-verbal with us. Just a look, eye contact that lasts just a second or two too long. Sometimes a little sarcastic phony smile that says "this is so lame, can we go yet?"

    Heather

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