Well, here's the rest of the story. When my son was 12yo, his dad suddenly took interest in him and he and his wife conned him into living with them and they won him over. After the honeymoon, I think it is 6 months that the child has to change his mind before custody is final, things changed drasticly. Suddenly, he was their house boy. Wife would even MAKE him rub her back. She hid food, marked the level in the milk carton, he wasn't allowed to have. I could go on, it was evil. Fortunaltely, my son lived close and I got him EVERY weekend and then some. However, he didn't want to move back because in spite of the ill treatment, he was pretty turned loose on his own because they were too uncaring enough to monitor his activities. That kind of freedom to a pre-teen is like a drug. My dgtr, who still lived with me, got next to no attn at all from dad. Incidently, dad is now paying chicken feed child support cause he was off work for for a few months for back surgery. I think like 40.$ a week. Nevermind I never took him back to have it raised when he went back to work and resumed making 50,000+ OT. By 2yrs after returning to work, his attn to my dgtr is nil, and son is used, then left to his own devices. I tell the dad to shape up and give his dgtr some attn, or else I would just get it from his wallet. He totally abandoned her. She was 16yo, dad dropped 100% out of her life. Went to court, got the raise in support. Meanwhile, my son goes in the military. The day before he left, dad brought up some past transgression son had committed and told him he was angry with him, stated, "you put my family at risk when you did such and such."(meaning wife and new kids) Told son, don't call, write or contact me for 2 yrs; (the amnt of time he would be paying the increased child support).
Well, wifey#2 has some kind of bone disorder and someday may require amputation of a limb. At this time, the only impairment is a mild limp, she pretty much does anything she wants, even went to step aerobics etc. BUT she collects a huge disability check. That check along with all the money they saved in child suport went to buy them a fancy shmancy home a few yrs ago. My kids do not hear from them.
Anyway, I think Teshiee is correct. I don't want to be bitter but sometimes it just spews out. Revenge isn't mine to seek. But I want to, OH HOW I WANT TO!!! and I am not proud of that either.
So thanks for listening. I don't post much here. Thanks anyway.