Props to God, ignore the nurses

  1. My sister recently went through a horrible systemic group A strep infection and was not expected to live. Very long story short, she defied long-shot odds and today is mostly better, except for tinnitus d/t ABTs and rheumatoid joint pain from the antibodies. Her story has recently been getting picked up all around all the news circuits, in the wake of highly-publicized news stories of flesh-eating bacteria, which as you know is also a GAS infection.

    What's been bothering me more and more, since the beginning of this nightmare, is that all the friends, family, neighbors, strangers, etc. that have been commenting on her FB, news comment feeds, etc. have been giving the glory of her miraculous survival to God. While that's great, and perhaps should be done, I have yet to see anyone continuing that thought to say anything about the huge team of nurses and doctors who stayed at her bedside in the ICU 24/7, monitoring her ventilator, dialyzing her, prescribing and administering the life-saving meds, washing her, and putting every ounce of effort, intelligence, and education into keeping this mother of two small children alive so she can one day see her grandchildren.

    I understand that religion is extremely important to a great deal of people, but it disappoints me that when people proclaim a survival story is God's miracle and she survived by the power of prayer, I wish they'd give a nod to the medical professionals through whom God worked. My sister got the right treatments and medicines, and to those who do not understand all the work, brains, and science that goes into a tricky recovery, it may seem like magic. But the true miracle, in my opinion, is that God gave humanity the physical and intellectual tools to discover the secrets to cure the sick. So why can't people just take their praises one more step, and recognize the people who worked as God's hands?
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  3. by   itsnowornever
    Not that I am a believer in God, BUT I do love your post! It's the nurses, doctors, cnas, and even the house keepers who all work to make people better. Maybe not all directly, BUT if linen wasn't clean, floors weren't crystal clean and the like there'd be germs a plenty! I am so glad your sister pulled through!
  4. by   CloudySue
    Oops, yes, now I'm doing the same thing by forgetting everyone else! If that room wasn't clean, who knows what else she would have picked up! Of course I should have taken this idea much further. However as a nurse I guess I sympathize with the lack of thanks to my "peeps" the most.
  5. by   BlueDevil,DNP
    Since I don't believe in god(s), that sort of thing just always makes me roll me eyes. It would be equally silly if they gave all the credit to elves. People are just weird. The less you try to make sense of it, the happier you will be!
  6. by   CloudySue
  7. by   fromtheseaRN
    I always wonder why people come to the hospital if it's god who did all the work... but, I keep my mouth shut.
  8. by   suanniam4
    So glad to hear your sister will be okay. After a whole summer of hell, last month I lost my brother to liver disease. He received
    a liver but became septic post-op. It was the ICU nurses that cared for him and us that kept my sanity. As I said his eulogy, which
    took me a week to write, I thanked the nurses of University of Minnesota MIU and SICU for there dedication, hard work and caring
    they gave my brother. I also wrote a letter to the unit manager regarding her wonderful staff.
  9. by   npoprn
    Let me first say that I am so glad that your sister is surviving such a challenging illness. Your sister must have an excellent team at the hospital. They deserve your appreciation, which I can see you have by your post. 17 years ago my brother beat the odds when he experienced an 8 month hospital stay after a car wreck that caused brain injury and other fractures. His situation was so grave that we had several days where organ donation was discussed. I can identify with the minute to minute stress of not knowing how long your loved one can continue with treatments and rehab. I saw teamwork AND the power of prayer save my brother.

    Believing in a higher power and positive thinking have a place for some of the healthcare team too. I think it would be impossible to commit to saving lives if they didn't have hope. As humans, we need daily renewal of our strength when all we see is illness around us. I don't think a day goes by when I don't pray for one of the patients I see in a day. It certainly helps me to be a positive, hopeful nurse. I am sure some of the healthcare team is praising their God daily for all the "miracles" they see everyday along with everybody else.
    Last edit by npoprn on Oct 4, '12 : Reason: grammar
  10. by   enchantmentdis
    I've noticed not many folks give thanks, publicly, to the nurses who cared for their loved ones. Usually in newspaper articles they rave about the doctors, instead--even if said doctor only spent 5 mins at a time with the patient. Tough nuts. People really don'tseem to appreciate the work nurses do; or they expect us to be great, so why bother thanking us? Who knows. All i know is the harder a nurse works the less recognition she gets, though management and other staff just love dumping on her/him because they can get the job done. My give a whit's busted. I do good work, but if no one notices it or mentions it, that is okay. I just need my paycheck. Please let me keep my job even though i get no recognition in a newspaper article. That is thanks enough.
  11. by   enchantmentdis
    Quote from BlueDevil,DNP
    Since I don't believe in god(s), that sort of thing just always makes me roll me eyes. It would be equally silly if they gave all the credit to elves. People are just weird. The less you try to make sense of it, the happier you will be!
    Though i do believe in god i think your post is on point.
  12. by   CloudySue
    I have seen props given several times in obituaries, mostly to nurses in LTC facilities or private duty agencies, where families develop closer relationships with the nurses. Hospital nurses are more like anonymous angels.
  13. by   ProgressiveActivist
    if only all you had to do is pray. if only it were that easy.
  14. by   nursel56
    Thanks for sharing that Cloudy Sue. I was struck by her mentioning it was the sound of the little girl's voices that began to bring her around. Motherhood is very powerful, too. I follow a blog written by a family where the wife and mother survived a pneumococcal sepsis and ended up blind with multiple amputations as a result. She was 7 mo along when she got sick, they delivered the baby who ended up doing fine.

    I know in my case when my Dad passed away there was one nurse working in the ER that night who took as much time as I needed to answer all of my questions - I knew how hard they tried and her concern made the grieving process a little less jagged-edged.