praying for strength and fortitude

  1. as my grandmother used to say...Like many of you all my family is a bit on the simple side (I can't even call us dysfunctional-just plain stoopid) So anyway-an elderly aunt died this week.I initially told my sister today that I would not go to the festivities (oops-I mean funeral) next week.I thought about it and I know I should,so I am...However-over the years there have been various rifts in this side of the family(my father's side) and I am going to be in the same room with my cousin and her daughter.They were HORRID when my mother died after an 18 month illness (cancer) and I have not seen them since.Right before my mom died my grandmother died (my father's mother) My mom and dad had a falling out with his family when he was diagnosed at 50 with cancer(many,many years ago) and never spoke again until a few years after he died.My mother went to my grandmother (her mother in law) and made ammends and they remained close until their deaths.So-in mom's honor I'll go to Aunt Joanna's funeral-only one of my dad's siblings is surviving so I guess I'll wait until she is gone before I tell me cousin and her daughter what I really think of them......I know there are 2 sides to every story-my cousin's mom was either schizo or bi-polar back in the 40's and 50's before psych really knew what to do with people like her.Then she married an abusive alcoholic so I know my cousin is a product of her up-bringing but I can't tolerate the attention seeking lying manipulating behaviors.Anyhoo-she is a whole thread herself.Really -really nuts.Mom's been gone almost 13 years-you'd think I'd let go of some of this bitter crap.......... .So-pray that I can be a lady with grace on Tuesday morning..thank you...
  2. 6 Comments

  3. by   SuesquatchRN
    Of course you can be a gracious lady. I wouldn't expect anything else.
  4. by   Joe NightingMale
    Inter-family tensions are always bad. I hope things turn out OK
  5. by   leslie :-D
    i am sure you will be nothing less than grace under pressure.
    keep your grandma and mom close to you, esp on tuesday.
    they will guide you, for sure.
    gentle hugs.

  6. by   compassion1
    You'll be in my prayers that God will give you the tolerance and grace you'll need on Tusday. And I'll also pray that He gives you the peace that can come by letting go of those harmful memories. I realize that is easier said than done but "been there, done that". He'll give you all the strength you'll need. (((((((hugs))))))) (((((((more hugs)))))))
    Last edit by compassion1 on Nov 14, '07
  7. by   CHATSDALE
    i am facing a similiar situation on saturday
    not as drastic but i know i have to go and that it will be have some uncomfortable moments
    just remember you don't regret angry words if they are not spoken
    good luck
  8. by   compassion1
    Prayers for you, too, Dale. (((((((hugs)))))))