Prayers needed

  1. Many of you know that my MIL died in July. I had some concerns about DD's school behavior (antisocial) and I talked with her guidance counselor who in turn spoke with her. It turns out DD is still having a very hard time with this and she feels that we have all moved on and she hasn't. She hid this very well. I'm working with her as much as I can and the guidance counselor is helping her make a memory box. I feel like a bad parent for not recognizing this. I've been so tied up in school, work and family that I haven't made a lot of one on one time for her. Now I'm trying to make up for that, but I don't know how much help I'll be to her. They were very close.
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  2. 8 Comments

  3. by   JentheRN05
    My thoughts are with you. I have the same exact problem with my 17 yo boy. Between the tragic unexpected loss of his very close cousin and losing all of his great grandparents all in a two year span. He has punched holes in walls, and lately has become mouthy. My DH and I are doing are best to spend more time with each of the kids but allow my oldest to have his space but make ourselves available to talk. He doesn't like to be crowded. It's been really rough, but it is something we will get through.
    Keeping you in my thoughts for as long as needed.
  4. by   nursemary9
    Dear Southernlpn

    You, you're DD and you're whole Family wil be in my thoughts and prayers.

    Please, Don't be so hard on yourself.

    Mary Ann
  5. by   MLF
    Southern: Prayers going out. A memory box IS a great idea. Also, be thankful that they were that close. I lost two of my grandparents before I was born. One when I was 6 months old, and one when I was 6 yrs old. I had always hoped my kids could have grandparents buk it never worked out. Donna
  6. by   akcarmean
    southern: we have gone through a loss of a daughter that effected my other children. my oldest 14 had very hard time (still sometimes) a memory box is great. go with her to your mil gravesite take flowers, allow her to vent her emotions, let her know u are there whenever she needs to talk.

    hope this helps,
    angie

    ps my thoughts and prayers are with you all.
  7. by   texas_lvn
    Southern, prayers to you and your family.

    Please do not feel like a bad parent. You went to the school when asked, you are doing something now, you are being the best. Good Luck.
  8. by   SmilingBluEyes
    we all grieve in different ways and at differing times. I am so sorry ...you and your dd are in my thoughts.
  9. by   bethin
    Prayers for you and your family. Try not to be so hard on yourself. Everyone grieves differently. Now that you recognize it you can work with her.
  10. by   CHATSDALE
    blessings for you and for your family . grief is such difficult thing for teenagers to share

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