Prayed today

  1. I said a prayer today for wisdom, guidence, and endurance. For the first time in almost 20 years I saw my hubby's exwife. She is divorcing another again, is going to be in this area more, and decided to pay a surprise visit to SIL. I was visiting while hubby was in Physical therapy because BIL is very ill. She saw me, got her back up, and left in a short while, almost in a huff. Seems like she was offended to find me there. Now, I asked the good Lord for wisdom to understand why she would think to just drop in on SIL without calling, Guidence to walk that line between anger and pity. But mostly I asked for endurance, I promised that lady a butt kicking about 20 years ago and if she keeps messing around here I am going to give her one. :angryfire
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  2. 12 Comments

  3. by   live4today
    Don't let her cause you to act on the anger you may still feel towards her. It will only disturb your own inner peace. Hold your head high, and keep on keeping on with your life as you live it, and let her work out her own "issues" if she can't be kind to you. ((((hugs)))) :kiss
  4. by   Tweety
    She's powerless. Don't let her rent space in your head. But just in case, better dust off them butt kicking boots and keep them near by.
  5. by   dianah
    :Melody: These boots are made for walkin'
    :Melody: And that's just what they'll do :Melody:
    One of these days these boots
    Are gonna walk all over YOU :Melody:

    Thanks, Nancy Sinatra!
  6. by   dianah
    Sorry, the mood just struck and there I went!

    Keep to the high road and heap coals of fire on her head (not literally, dear!). You don't HAVE to be best buds, either. You are empowered to take control and not relinquish it.

    Tweety said it best: don't let her rent space in your head.

    I like it!
  7. by   barefootlady
    I really am not going to do anything to this person. She is sad and sort of silly. But I sure did enjoy the thought for a minute or two. Thanks for the support and laughs.
  8. by   Roy Fokker
    Quote from barefootlady
    I really am not going to do anything to this person. She is sad and sort of silly. But I sure did enjoy the thought for a minute or two. Thanks for the support and laughs.
    If I may interject with my immature and youthful thoughts with your kind permission::

    Please don't let this person affect you so.

    Indifference is probably the strongest weapon in your arsenal with these kind of people.

    I also make a special request to SMILE when you face them - throws them into confusion and really confuses them!

    Hey! Worst comes to worst, you get to keep your smiley face on for the people who DO matter

    Again, I'm sorry you have to face this, especially at trying times like these... but please don't let them affect you!

    regards,
    Roy
  9. by   SmilingBluEyes
    YOU are definately the better person. You have my respect, completely. Keep on praying!
  10. by   jnette
    awwwwwwww... Barefoot... they've all said it above !


    You are # one to dh... and if one has to fight to keep what one has, the battle has already been lost !

    Don't let her ruffle YOUR feathers.. just 'cuz you manageed to ruffle hers.

    (((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))
  11. by   Blackcat99
    Good grief! It sounds like your husband's ex-wife needs a good butt kicking!
    Unfortunately, that would just cause more problems in the long run. Perhaps saying the "Serenity Prayer" at least 100 times a day might be helpful? Good luck and my prayers are with you.
  12. by   barefootlady
    Hey folks, don't get me wrong. I know I have hubby's love, respect, and faithfullness. This woman has told so many lies for so long to so many that I do get angry. No one can truly fight a lier, you just have to live the life and pray for the lier. But the human side of me, the butt kicking, beer drinking, girl from the right side of the holler does come out sometimes. I was raised to take care of my own and look after business, so sometimes, I just want to put on my boots and kick.
    Sad part is stepdaughter, she is so upset, feels like mother is pulling her into this mess, even though she tries and tries to stay clear of it. She has called her Dad and me several times, just in the last few weeks crying. I don't have the whole story, don't really want it, but I do know that several people will be hurt before the latest escapade the "EX" pulls is over.
    I was careful to plan visits with stepdaughter and grandkids, so this woman could feel like a grandmother and mother too. I just recently found out she has not visited but twice in two years to see her own daugher but used daughter as an excuse to see new fellow. I won't tell stepdaughter to go to her stepfather and tell him all she has found out. Not my business, but I do understand the hurt and pressure she is under. This man was a pretty good stepfather, given the situation and her mother's feelings, to my stepdaughter, he is really a nice man and I like him, but he should have been more mindful of his wife's coming and going's. She even tried to use hubby's cardiac surgery as an excuse. Said she wanted to be close to daughter in case hubby died. Come to find out, she spent the weekend in a motel with "friend" and after daughter went home asked her to tell stepfather she was with her. Now, people, I feel like I am sort of in this when she bring hubby into the picture. Afterall, I was there and there constantly for days, so if I am ever asked, what do I say?
    Trouble is, everyone here knows everyone else and usually what is going on. I can't say I want people to think she has been coming around, giving support to hubby or me or daughter. People who have been around know the truth, but things get twisted easily. She even stopped by physical therapy yesterday, did not see hubby, nor me, but was asking what days he took therapy. Girl at the window told her that was HIPPA and if she needed to know she would have to ask us. I was coming around the corner and heard the whole thing. I almost jumped her bones, but I ducked into a little alcove when I heard her walking out the door. My question is, what does she want to know his therapy days for? Is she going to tell present hubby some lie? All of this is getting too deep and too mysterious for common people.
    Anyway, I will just keep on watching the situation until I am truly pressed to the wall. God listens and He has laid it upon my heart and soul to pray for her and see that she needs help, the psychiatric kind, so I am trusting He will take care of the problem. Thanks for the support and allowing me to vent. Sometimes I feel like this is Peyton Place revisited. LOL
    I hope everyone has a blessed and safe weekend. :angel2:
  13. by   NurseFirst
    Quote from barefootlady
    Hey folks, don't get me wrong. I know I have hubby's love, respect, and faithfullness. This woman has told so many lies for so long to so many that I do get angry. No one can truly fight a lier, you just have to live the life and pray for the lier. But the human side of me, the butt kicking, beer drinking, girl from the right side of the holler does come out sometimes. I was raised to take care of my own and look after business, so sometimes, I just want to put on my boots and kick.
    Sad part is stepdaughter, she is so upset, feels like mother is pulling her into this mess, even though she tries and tries to stay clear of it. She has called her Dad and me several times, just in the last few weeks crying. I don't have the whole story, don't really want it, but I do know that several people will be hurt before the latest escapade the "EX" pulls is over.
    I was careful to plan visits with stepdaughter and grandkids, so this woman could feel like a grandmother and mother too. I just recently found out she has not visited but twice in two years to see her own daugher but used daughter as an excuse to see new fellow. I won't tell stepdaughter to go to her stepfather and tell him all she has found out. Not my business, but I do understand the hurt and pressure she is under. This man was a pretty good stepfather, given the situation and her mother's feelings, to my stepdaughter, he is really a nice man and I like him, but he should have been more mindful of his wife's coming and going's. She even tried to use hubby's cardiac surgery as an excuse. Said she wanted to be close to daughter in case hubby died. Come to find out, she spent the weekend in a motel with "friend" and after daughter went home asked her to tell stepfather she was with her. Now, people, I feel like I am sort of in this when she bring hubby into the picture. Afterall, I was there and there constantly for days, so if I am ever asked, what do I say?
    Trouble is, everyone here knows everyone else and usually what is going on. I can't say I want people to think she has been coming around, giving support to hubby or me or daughter. People who have been around know the truth, but things get twisted easily. She even stopped by physical therapy yesterday, did not see hubby, nor me, but was asking what days he took therapy. Girl at the window told her that was HIPPA and if she needed to know she would have to ask us. I was coming around the corner and heard the whole thing. I almost jumped her bones, but I ducked into a little alcove when I heard her walking out the door. My question is, what does she want to know his therapy days for? Is she going to tell present hubby some lie? All of this is getting too deep and too mysterious for common people.
    Anyway, I will just keep on watching the situation until I am truly pressed to the wall. God listens and He has laid it upon my heart and soul to pray for her and see that she needs help, the psychiatric kind, so I am trusting He will take care of the problem. Thanks for the support and allowing me to vent. Sometimes I feel like this is Peyton Place revisited. LOL
    I hope everyone has a blessed and safe weekend. :angel2:
    Oh wow. I was wondering if I would ever have a chance to use this emoticon:

    This is how I see you, barefootlady: :innerconf

    Actually, bless you...I see your good heart. It takes a heap o' maturity to pray for those who abuse you!!! You are definitely lopsided to the angel's side!!!

    NurseFirst
    Student Nurse
  14. by   cwazycwissyRN
    Quote from barefootlady
    i said a prayer today for wisdom, guidence, and endurance. for the first time in almost 20 years i saw my hubby's exwife. she is divorcing another again, is going to be in this area more, and decided to pay a surprise visit to sil. i was visiting while hubby was in physical therapy because bil is very ill. she saw me, got her back up, and left in a short while, almost in a huff. seems like she was offended to find me there. now, i asked the good lord for wisdom to understand why she would think to just drop in on sil without calling, guidence to walk that line between anger and pity. but mostly i asked for endurance, i promised that lady a butt kicking about 20 years ago and if she keeps messing around here i am going to give her one. :angryfire
    just your presence seems to have kicked her keester someone must have given you some wisdom, guidence and endurance.......then expressed his own........in a silent manner.

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