Poll Honesty required

  1. My wife and I were discussing the splitting of household duties. I remember my father never did dishes laundry etc. and yes Mom worked too.

    In dual fulltime employed households, with 2 or more children how does the division of chores work?

    How much do children do and starting at what age?

    Do the working husbands assist, or do any of the house keeping tasks?

    What percentage of tasks and which tasks do the men do?

    ps don't forget the Sopranos new season begins tonight, I will be watching while my wife cleans yea right!
    Last edit by CCU NRS on Mar 7, '04 : Reason: edited to add wife and I are also both RNs
  2. 5 Comments

  3. by   renerian
    Hubby and I are both nurses. Unfortunately I have a higher set of standards for what clean is or is not. I have 5 kids/2 still here. I am still feeling most days like the maid and do the majority of the housework even though I work alot more hours than my hubby does. He does help if I ask him though.

  4. by   Darchild77
    I work full time nights, hubby is laid off right now. We have 1 five yo. Our house is a pig pen. I do ALL of the cleaning- Laundry, grocery shopping.....The only thing hubby does is take out the garbage, and check the oil. All the nagging, fighting, pleading, suggesting in the world won't change this situation.:angryfire And I'm Drowning in the Laundry piles as we speak
  5. by   Altra
    Quote from CCU NRS
    ps don't forget the Sopranos new season begins tonight, I will be watching while my wife cleans yea right!

    Everything, and I mean everything stops tonight while the Sopranos is on! :chuckle

    Hubby & I have one child. His household chores are mostly limited to "fixing" stuff and yard work. This has more to do with his work schedule (in excess of 60 hrs./wk) than his willingness. I'm also primarily responsible for my elderly grandparents who live nearby.

    It does wear on me, with the time I need to put into my studies. Studying for 10 min. here and there can work some of the time, but other times I need to be able to concentrate for a few hours uninterrupted, and it seems that the only way to do that is in the middle of the night.

    My daughter just turned 10. She does help when asked - loading/unloading the dishwasher, clearing the dining room table, sorting laundry, and other odd jobs. I've been thinking about a more "formal" set of responsibilities for her as we head into this summer ... my class/clinical time will double, and I may have an externship as well.

    I guess we're doing the best we can.
  6. by   H ynnoD
    I do the Dishes,all the yard work and repairs on the cars.My kids keep their rooms clean and help out where ever Mommy makes them.
  7. by   SmilingBluEyes
    it starts young in my house. my kids have been taught to pick up after themselves in the living room.....

    during the day it's a mess. but at night, before bed, we all put away all our stuff, toys, books, newspapers, dishes etc.......

    it starts at less then 2 where i am.

    as they get older, more is expected. my 12 year old has to scoop the poop out of the yard everyday, clean his room (at least so I can see his bedroom floor and bed), and clean and feed the guinea pig each day. He is also expected to help clear the table and put away food after dinner. It's a team thing, usually we all do it, so it' s done faster. He gets paid varying amounts for extras, like today. We did the yardwork (it was 60 and not rainy woohoo). He got paid to rake out and pick up leaves and garbage./paper waste out of our gardens. He can earn extra money by doing extra chores, we offer that up all the time. Also, he is expected to help watch his sister when I run SHORT errands (less then an hour). She is 5.

    My 5 year old is expected to clean her own room and get herself dressed and ready for the day on her own. She is also paid a bit of money to do things like help pick weeds. Its her job each day to set our kitchen table for dinner. As she gets older, more will be expected of her, too.

    In my family everyone pitches in in a crisis. When I was hospitalized in January, my son did the dishes w/o being asked and vacuumed and dusted the whole house before I was discharged home. My daughter helped her daddy in the kitchen and also with straightening the living room. Both tend to pitch in when I am sick or unable to do my usual chores. My son even did the laundry for me when I was on bedrest.

    I guess, it's up to each family as to how much responsibility to assign to each child at a given age. What we do SEEMS to work out ok so far. They do gripe, but they know that won't change it; their chores are done daily, period, before any going out to play or watching TV. Period.