I could not have said it better then Hoolahan. Here is her post on the other forum:
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Me again. Please try to remember that there are over 20,000 members on this BB. As a former Off Topic moderator, I can say it is IMPOSSIBLE to read every single post in that forum, sometimes 200 posts a day in that forum alone!! That is a FT job to read that, and being a moderator is a volunteer thing, no one has THAT much free time to donate! (Not complaining Bossman, just stating the facts.)
For that reason, moderators have to really rely on people reporting objectionable posts. Sometimes a questionable post is deleted and then put back after the moderators discuss it. We really do try to permit as much free speech as Brian's advertisers can tolerate, remember this is his business, and even if the agreement states the posts are not a reflection on allnurses, in a way they are if not moderated.
My personal feeling lately is... what a person posts is a reflection of their character. Sure we can be playful, we can be angry, etc... but eventually, and we can usually only get to "know" the person by what they post, we can form our own conclusions and decide if a particular person is someone we wish or do not wish to respond to. Some people consistly post supportively, some consistently post bluntly, it is sometimes just a lack of good communication skills. Eventually when a sour apple is discovered, people will stop biting.
All I can leave you with is this. If you are finding a particular person is getting on your nerves, and it happens, we are all only human, use the ignore button. If there is something you find objectionable, PLEASE use the report this post to a moderator link. It's in every single post. Do not assume moderators are reading every post on the BB at one time. Even though a post may not conflict with the posting agreement, if enough complaints are received, it may be deleted by a majority rule.
Hope that helps.
Here is the link: