Parents make daughter stand on street corner

  1. I have mixed feelings about this. No way, no how could I ever make my kid do it. OTOH, if these parents saw the handwriting on the wall, and felt like their daughter was about to head down the wrong path, I'm not sure this was such a terrible thing. I believe their intentions were good, especially since Mom stood right next to the daughter the whole time. And, sometimes the outcry about stuff like this reminds me of our outrage when Singapore caned that American teenager a number of years ago. I totally understood why Singapore wasn't looking for advice on how to curtail crime and vandalism from the United States. Sometimes the harshest critics have the least room to talk.

    http://www.freep.com/apps/pbcs.dll/a...81/1009/NEWS07
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  3. by   Spidey's mom
    Oh my gosh . . . . . . I'm making the sign now for my 16 year old daughter!!:hatparty: :chuckle


    Seriously - somehow you have to get their attention. I don't think it was abuse . . . it was making a point. I've said to my kids many times that school is important and college is the goal, otherwise they might end up on the streets. Saying it . . . .. actually portraying it . . . . .what's the harm?

    Today I helped deliver a little tiny baby whose mom used meth and pot and who knows what else during her pregnancy and then cried when she was told she might not be able to keep the baby because CPS was on the way (duh, then don't be selfish and take drugs while you are pregnant).

    Who loves their child more?

    steph
  4. by   Tweety
    At that age it really matters what her peers think, so maybe it will shape her up. On the other hand, the humilation and attention may cause such anger it might backfire.
  5. by   ZASHAGALKA
    In any case, I bet you she got the point.

    ~faith,
    Timothy.
  6. by   Roy Fokker
    Quote from ZASHAGALKA
    In any case, I bet you she got the point.

    ~faith,
    Timothy.
    Right.

    When I used to come home late beyond curfews, father would simply not open the door. "Since you like spending time outside and don't really care, you can stay out as long as you wish".

    I got the message after one freezing night outside.
  7. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from Roy Fokker
    Right.

    When I used to come home late beyond curfews, father would simply not open the door. "Since you like spending time outside and don't really care, you can stay out as long as you wish".

    I got the message after one freezing night outside.
    I might have mentioned this . . .but my #2 son told me last week when I took him out to dinner at the Olive Garden . . .. . that my dh and I let him off the hook too much. Didn't follow through all the time with punishments. He said he is not blaming us for his choices at all. But he did know that he might not have to suffer the consequences of his actions. And he got in alot of trouble.

    This of course was when I was in the nursing program and very distracted. Something I truly regret.

    I dunno . . . .I think this mom has her daughter's best interests at heart.

    steph
  8. by   Jessy_RN
    I can see both sides of the coin, however, like the mother said she gave it a try.

    Best wishes to her and her child
  9. by   Grace Oz
    phew! i'm ever so glad i read the entire article! from the title of the thread, i was thinking.... you know! :chuckle

    personally, i'm more in favour of rewarding positive behaviour and trying to seek reasons/answers for negative behaviour/outcomes.

    still, each to their own and ...
    never judge another man or woman until you've walked a mile in their shoes!

    i wish both mother and daughter all the best.
    Last edit by Grace Oz on Nov 20, '05
  10. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I am not into humiliation to get my point across to my kids....but then my kids are not 16 yet. I can't say "never"...I do think removing EVERYthing works. Have done it w/the 13 year old. AND I mean EVERYthing, including the door from his room. (he was able to dress/undress in the privacy of the bathroom, but other than that, no privacy til he he earned it back)....

    yep, NO Privacy, NO gadgets, NO electronics, NO rights except to his own BED----NO fun....EVERYTHING gone.... and NO humiliation to get the point across. And it works....fast.
  11. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    I am not into humiliation to get my point across to my kids....but then my kids are not 16 yet. I can't say "never"...I do think removing EVERYthing works. Have done it w/the 13 year old. AND I mean EVERYthing, including the door from his room. (he was able to dress/undress in the privacy of the bathroom, but other than that, no privacy til he he earned it back)....

    yep, NO Privacy, NO gadgets, NO electronics, NO rights except to his own BED----NO fun....EVERYTHING gone.... and NO humiliation to get the point across. And it works....fast.
    It works for some kids.

    I did that exact thing and did not back down (learning from my #2 son) and when the punishment was over and the trust starting to be earned back, the SAME EXACT THING WOULD HAPPEN AGAIN.

    I dunno - I'm hitting my head against a brick wall when it comes to one particular child who happens to live in my house and is reading the comics over the wood stove as I type . . .

    A little shame might go a long way . . . .I'm not so sure this was humiliation . . .I think it was a taste of "real life" if you make bad choices.

    All kids are different . ... . I'm giving this mom the benefit of the doubt.

    Probably cause I'm frustrated though . . .

    steph
  12. by   KrisRNwannabe
    Good for her!!!! Some kids don't understand what will happen when they make poor choices. maybe this one will.
  13. by   Someday-C.R.N.A.
    I say Good For Her!!

    She thought this might have an impact on her kid, and she gave it a shot. She was right there the whole time. Sounds like a concerned, well meaning parent to me.





    What about the Lady who felt the need to report this "psychological abuse" to the police after driving by? Apparently, she had no trouble making a full diagnosis and deciding what was best for someone else's child in the time it took her to drive past. There's a problem.
  14. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I am frustrated too, Steph. But my parents humiliating ME had the opposite effect of the desired and my behavior became sneakier and worse. I am not too eager to try this on my own kids for that reason.

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