Outing myself

  1. Did I get your attention??!!

    The board is active and I'm feeling a little naughty. Feel like stirring up a little controversy.

    In the immortal words of Margaret Cho, I am the world's biggest faghag (please no censoring!). And oh what a stable of boys I have.

    I really do believe that I was a gay man in a past life. They glom onto me like you wouldn't believe and they're always the first ones I move towards in a room. This is both a curse and a blessing. It's no wonder my romantic life is nonexistant. I have a lot of wonderful and exciting friends though. I have even considered dressing up as Debbie from Queer as Folk for pride.

    It all started when I was 18 and fell for a wonderful guy, who I was later dissapointed to find out he was not into girls (whole n'other story, I'll share it sometimes). Anyway I would not let him go cause I was still drawn to him. 8 years later he is still my best friend I have been introduced into the whole gay culture and I love it. What a wonderful support system there is in my community (our mayor is openly gay). I have been the only straight person at the thanksgiving table. My life is richer for it.

    Just wanted to share.:kiss

    BTW I also work at a very gay-positive facility.
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  3. by   LasVegasRN
    My very first boyfriend turned out to be gay. He never fully came "out" about it, and I wish I could convey to him in some way that it is okay to talk about it. We were each others first real dates when I was 16 and he was 17. I didn't keep in touch with him after his school paper published an article saying he was going to enter the priesthood. I was teased so badly by my friends and hurt that he didn't tell me. Turns out he didn't enter the priesthood after all, but we still fell out of touch.
    Now, he lives alone, has gone blind from renal failure, and the kidney transplant he has is failing. I tried to reach out a few years when he went on dialysis, but he never answered my letters. His mother still keeps in touch with me and I consider her a second Mom, but I feel like I lost a great friend.

    I still have the "love" letters he wrote to me that first summer and I had the honor of wearing his class ring then. Those are great memories I'll never forget.

    :angel2:
  4. by   delirium
    Where do you work?
    There's no such thing as a gay-friendly facility here. It must be the area. There are a few of us at work, and most are closeted. I'm not, but then I'm not liked far and wide either.
    Sorry, but I have to be me. I'm not going to pretend to be like someone else to make someone else more comfortable.

    Forget about it.

    Anyway, I know a lot of faghags. LOL! I have some male friends who hang around lesbians all the time... we commiserate over female problems and drink beer.... we call em dyke dudes.
  5. by   studentOH
    NO SUBSTITUTIONS, CAN'T YOU READ?!?!?!?

    I *love* Margaret.

    I'm a gay guy that hangs around lesbians most of the time...wonder if there's a name for that.

    Bri
  6. by   Mattigan
    Don't come where I live- not gay friendly. I'm not gay but have gay friends of both sexes.

    The last minister we had was convinced I was gay.My passenger side car door did not open from the inside after it got out of the body shop(from one of my freq. mishaps) I pick up a friend that goes to same church as her house is on the way and he saw me open the car door for her (she had neck and shoulder surgery and couldn't roll down the window- not electric). That's all it took. He also said "... you have short hair and you are not married".

    For some reason he never believed me. Got mad when I wouldn't go to a church workshop on how to welcome gay people to church. I said ".. how about saying - ' Glad you are here. Have a seat'."
  7. by   delirium
    *Sigh*
    That sounds like here, Mattigan. Its horrible.
    We live a pretty low-key lifestyle, own a home, make a valuable contribution to society... and still we're not comfortable.
    Now, I haven't actually been threatened here, like I have been in other places, but I guess its just the underlying animosity that comes from living in a closed-minded community.
    I mean, they still think interracial dating is scandalous here. And there are large families that intermarry. It sounds like something off the X-Files now that I read it.
    I need to get out of here.
    I'm going to work with adrienurse.
  8. by   adrienurse
    Sounds like I'm leaving the lesbians out, doesn't it. I have an aunt and a cousin who are lesbians, and I like them just fine too.

    *)
  9. by   Stargazer
    I love Margaret too! I just rented "I'm The One That I Want" a few weeks ago and laughed my ass off.

    I'm not a true faghag, but I've always had loads of gay friends. One of my best friends came out after high school and he and his boyfriend used to have me over to their house for dinner all the time. Mmm, men who cook for me....I went to a BBQ at the house of one of their friends and was the only female among 18 gay men. I had a wonderful time!

    I'm glad I live in a gay-friendly city and have always worked in very tolerant places. I just truly have no patience for nor understanding of people who want to make a huge deal out of another person's sexuality, as long as it 's between consenting adults. Isn't that supposed to be private, anyway? What difference does it make in terms of what kind of person they are? Some people just have waaaay too much time on their hands.


    p.s. Sometimes gay men make the best girlfriends!
  10. by   LasVegasRN
    Originally posted by Stargazer
    p.s. Sometimes gay men make the best girlfriends!
    So true!!!
  11. by   live4today
    Originally posted by LasVegasRN
    My very first boyfriend turned out to be gay. He never fully came "out" about it, and I wish I could convey to him in some way that it is okay to talk about it. We were each others first real dates when I was 16 and he was 17. I didn't keep in touch with him after his school paper published an article saying he was going to enter the priesthood. I was teased so badly by my friends and hurt that he didn't tell me. Turns out he didn't enter the priesthood after all, but we still fell out of touch.
    Now, he lives alone, has gone blind from renal failure, and the kidney transplant he has is failing. I tried to reach out a few years when he went on dialysis, but he never answered my letters. His mother still keeps in touch with me and I consider her a second Mom, but I feel like I lost a great friend.

    I still have the "love" letters he wrote to me that first summer and I had the honor of wearing his class ring then. Those are great memories I'll never forget.

    :angel2:
    ((((((hugs))))))) This really brings tears to my eyes, and places a sadness in my heart for you and your friend. :kiss
  12. by   LasVegasRN
    Thanks, Renee.
  13. by   BadBird
    Well I am not gay but I do have a very dear friend who is, I remember the night he came out of the closet, I was studying for a fine. I was so glad he finally realized he was gay, they rest of his friends knew anyway it was 8 years ago, He was worried that I would think less of him, how wrong he was, he is a great friend and always will be. I gave him a card telling him how much his friendship meant to me and then I forgot about it for years, I got a e-mail from him the other day and he mentioned the card and how it helped him.
  14. by   fedupnurse
    I agree Stargazer! I couldn't care less what my colleagues sexual prefernces, food prefernences, religious preferences, whatever are! I don't walk around and say HI, I'm a heterosexual. Why should people have to divulge their sexuality at all. And if they do, WHO CARES????? As long as they show up and provide good quality care for their patients that is all I as a colleague care about. As long as they are a good neighbor and are nice caring people, WHO CARES???
    I firmly believe I have a sign over my head that only jerk men can read that says rip my heart out and stomp on it! If there is a jerk out there I will find and date him!!!!
    Last edit by fedupnurse on Aug 6, '02

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