Quote from kitty29
Ok this is about that friend of mine who was so upset with me...well she is again talking to me. As it turns out it was just the ussual stuff overwelming her...but she is so totally overwelmed that I am concerned about her.
She mentioned the word suicide, feeling alone, overwhelmed...ect....I had written and told her I thought she should see a professional and why.
Well she wrote back and said she thought about what I said but couldn't see how it would help...she'd still have everything to deal with, still be the only child, still be all alone...ect.
I replied I was glad she was thinking about it. And said I still thought she should see someone...that they couldn't change your life but how you respond to the stresses in your life. And if medications needed to be adjusted they could help with that. That no one should ever feel this alone and down...ect.
Now my question...how can you convince someone to do what you know they should do? She said she just keeps getting pulled lower and lower and doesn't know when she'll hit bottom.
Why would you want to hit bottom...what can I do...I work night the next 7! Yes 7 in a row!!!
Why would you think she WANTS to hit bottom?
Is this friend a nurse by any chance? Or related field?
I went through a depression back when my mom was sick and slowly dying. At first, I recognized I was starting to founder a bit, and told myself, hey, I aced all those psych classes, I deal with depressed people every day in my job, I know how to take care of this.
And before long, I was too sick to even realize just how low I'd sunk. I honestly got to the point where I didn't feel I was depressed anymore. Not only that, but it literally took every ounce of energy I had to climb out of bed and actually make it through a day. The thought of seeking treatment on my own was simply overwhelming. If you haven't experienced that, it's hard to understand. I had reached the point where I was unable to do it on my own. It took a friend's intervention to get me into treatment for situational depression...thank God for that. At the time, I was angry that someone would think I was "crazy" or suicidal. Now I look back and realize they probably saved my life.
You say your friend mentioned suicide. Make a pact with her. Make her promise not to do anything at all before contacting you. If you live in the same town, and you can't convince her to go for treatment voluntarily (or better yet take her in yourself), then you should consider going to the magistrate for a TDO order. Extreme, and she will probably hate you for it. But she will get the treatment she needs, and more importantly, be alive.