OK, Heather's gonna beat me if I don't tell you guys........

  1. I was being stalked. This guy that asked me out like 2 years ago (I told him no) Since he saw me at my work place, (he stared at me the entire time he was in there, causing me to go out back because I felt very uncomfortable) Friday, when I was working, I found out from 2 very trustworthy people and also my work manager that this guy has been going into my work place trying to get my work schdule.

    He also goes in almost everynight looking for me. He talks to his brother who I work with and trys to get my schdule from him. Well, I went to the manager and asked about it and he confirmed it.

    Sooooo.....my guy friend called and just told this guy that he had been hearing that he has been trying to get my schdule and has gone in to look for me and what not. He basically told this stalker guy that if he found out that it happened it again, then we would be calling the police.

    Well. The stalker called the cops yesterday and said that my friend threatened his life.....WHATEVER YOU LITTLE WIMP!!! Anywho........cops call my mom.....which we don't see the point to. My mom FREAKS out, calls my friends mom says that the cops are going to tap their phone lines.....blah blah blah......

    So, I get to my friends house, call my mom to find out what's going on. She wants us to go to the police station so that I can put on a restraining order on this guy to keep him away from me. Cops say that they can't do that unless the guy actually physically harms me or threatens me........(ok so, my mom has to wait until the guy kills me for them to do something) WHATEVER! I just want to feel safe. I don't feel safe. I don't want to go into public by myself. This guy is sick and could seriously try to do something. He comes from a long line of welll........sick-o's.

    I just don't have any trust for this guy. It makes me sick to think about him and this whole situation. When my mom freaked out, I just broke down. I couldn't stand to be around her because she just made me feel worse, and she made it so hard for me to stay calm. I know she is just worried for me but, it would of helped if she could of stayed calm.

    I am just really afraid of being by myself. I have pepper spray, but that dosn't make me feel any more safe . I feel so emotionally drained, I'm tired, feel so sick to my stomach......I wish I had body guards.........but I don't......... I don't understand why the guy just didn't come up to me and ask me if I had a boyfriend or something, then stopped. But, I know that isn't what he wants to know. He just want's to look.........

    People like this SUCK!!!

    That felt good to vent.....................
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  2. 36 Comments

  3. by   nurseleigh
    I am sorry this is happening to you. Do you think having the restraining order would make you feel any safer? To me, that is just a flimsy piece of paper, but that is me.

    I had an incident like this long ago. I used to work at a retail store and this guy would come in and talk to me like he was an old friend, even using my name when he would first say hi. The first time I thought that maybe I did know him and just didn't remember him. Then I realized that he just read my nametag because I just couldn't place who he was.

    I told my boss about it and he told me that any time I see him in the store to go to the stock room or find another co-worker to stay with me while he was there. Anything to not be alone with him, even though we were in a public store. He also told me, actually forced me, to change the name on my nametag to anything but my real name.
    This would be harder for you since his brother works with you.

    It is very scary. I mean, he could be in the parking lot after work or anything.

    Anyways, take care of yourself and be very cautious of your surroundings. That is the best, and only, advice I really have.
    ((((((((((((kristi915)))))))))))

    Leigh
  4. by   Tweety
    Thanks for sharing.

    I think it should be against the law to follow someone around like that and stare at them, and make them feel unsafe to where they don't want to go out. Even if they don't make a move, it's a violation IMHO. Rant over.

    Take care. Hopefully, he harmless and will leave you alone now that's he has been found out.
  5. by   Rustyhammer
    Keep your gun close at hand.
    You DO have a gun don't you??
    -Russell
  6. by   kristi915
    No but I have this knife thing. It's very sharp and has jagged edges on one side of it so that it will rip right through their skin when you rip it out........................I should get that back.....just for safetly feeling I guess.

    Atleast with a restraining order, if he did try anything, he would have an even more harsh punishment, which would hopefully keep him away and from doing it to some other girl.

    Thanks for replying everyone.....it helps to have someone to talk to.
  7. by   nurseleigh
    After some consideration, do you work in a hospital? If this guy has no business on the floor besides making you uncomfortable, can't you call security and have him removed from the floor? Even if his brother works there?

    Leigh
  8. by   shygirl
    How terrible! You are so young and sweet to have to worry about stuff like this. Unfortunately, creeps are everywhere.
    Why don't you look into some self-defense classes?
    Do not go anywhere alone at night and always check under your car and your back seat before entering your vehicle. Keep your cell phone charged up, get a whistle.
    Be safe!
    Shygirl
  9. by   hoolahan
    Kristi, maybe you should seriously consider a Karate class, or at least a self-defense class. Look out for yourself! Cell phone and whistle are great ideas from ShyGirl!
  10. by   nursedawn67
    Originally posted by shygirl
    How terrible! You are so young and sweet to have to worry about stuff like this. Unfortunately, creeps are everywhere.
    Why don't you look into some self-defense classes?
    Do not go anywhere alone at night and always check under your car and your back seat before entering your vehicle. Keep your cell phone charged up, get a whistle.
    Be safe!
    Shygirl
    I agree with Shygirl...also get some pepperspray and one of those horn things that they use at sporting events....that might blow his drums out and scare him off. Keep yourself safe....get yourself a "buddy" anytime you may have to be alone for a moment. Make sure others know where you are. Trust me your coworkers will help you out.

    Take care.
  11. by   NurseDianne
    Originally posted by Rustyhammer
    Keep your gun close at hand.
    You DO have a gun don't you??
    -Russell
    Oh I'm w/ Russell........get a GUN! That way you won't have to get so close! Every man and woman should own a gun, know how to clean it, use it , etc.........Nothing better to make you feel safe!
  12. by   New CCU RN
    So scary!!!!!! I dont know that I agree about the gun.... doubt you can carry a gun into work but at least be sure to use the "buddy system" when you are walking out to your car and such. Pepper spray is definitely a good idea. Be careful....
  13. by   adrienurse
    Kristi, be careful. Don't take any chances, even if it bugs you that you can't go anywhere by yourself. You don't know just how crazy this dude is. (((((((((((((Kristi))))))))))))))).

    Have a buddy with you at all times, carry a phone.
  14. by   aus nurse
    Stay safe

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