Oh poo, here we go again... advice?

  1. Hubby's been feeling the pressure bigtime lately, with all that's been going on. I know that fishing relaxes him, so a couple of months ago, I figured, well, if I die soon (this was when I'd just seen my CT scans and figured I only had a few months left), he'll have some happy birthday memories.
    So we went deep-sea fishing. Costs about $50 a person. I barfed the ENTIRE day; I don't ever remember being so sick in my life.

    I thought he would "get the hint" from that. He didn't. He loved it and wants us all to go again. This time, take some dramamine, he says. I've tried to be game about it, but I really really dread this.

    So guess what he wants to do tomorrow. I've been trying to be polite, while suggesting that I'm not up for it yet--my shoulder and chest are still sore enough to be taking pain pills at least once a day, and I still can't drive or work. He says there are seats if I need to sit down (true), seasick pills for the seasickness, and he'll drive, the seas have been way calmer than the day we were out there, and all that.


    I just thought, geez, I can think of a bunch more ways to blow $200 in a day; why does he have to pick something I don't wanna do???

    And then I think, this man has been under so much pressure lately, it's better to spend the $200 on something he wants to do with his whole family instead of going off to the nearest bar and blowing it there. Isn't it? :stone:

    I'll probably go, but I'm sick to my stomach just thinking about it. Can anyone think of any way for me to gracefully get out of it without causing a divorce?

    Or should I just shut up and go and possibly have a really good time with the man I love?
    Last edit by Sleepyeyes on Aug 26, '02
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  2. 16 Comments

  3. by   live4today
    Go and BARF all over him.......that will give him a rude wake up call to listen to you the next time. :chuckle :kiss
  4. by   Sleepyeyes
    I thought of that the last time but I couldn't do it.

    Frankly there are so few things that he really enjoys doing, that's why I'm having this lil tizzy. I'm flattered that he wants to share this passion with me--unlike the $1500 riding mower phase

    but on the other hand.....

    Maybe I'll just tell him the truth and say, "This trip had better be sooooo butt-kicking enjoyable that i'll want to do it again--otherwise, I'm not gonna go again. I gave it 2 tries, and to me, it's just not worth it to get that sick over catching one poor lil ol' 3 pound fish....."

    Which would also nip the whole "I wanna buy a cabin cruiser" kick right in the bud too --for a year or two anyhow.... :chuckle:
  5. by   kewlnurse
    Suggest he may have a better time if one of his buddies went with, use the term "male bonding"
  6. by   shygirl
    No, I think you should go.
    Then I think he should do something you like to do the next time!
    Shygirl

    GIVE & TAKE, GIVE & TAKE, GIVE & TAKE
  7. by   Brownms46
    Sleepyeyes...I would pray about it, and then go with my heart. You never know how God will answer. He could change your husband's heart...or give you a break from the nausea..and pain. Either way...I'm sure it will work out...
  8. by   Sleepyeyes
    Update:
    I found that I had a doctor appt that I nearly forgot I had to go to. I suggested to hubby that we do the 1/2 day trip, instead of the all-day trip, and he nixed it.

    (((yay!! )))))
  9. by   Brownms46
    Originally posted by Sleepyeyes
    Update:
    I found that I had a doctor appt that I nearly forgot I had to go to. I suggested to hubby that we do the 1/2 day trip, instead of the all-day trip, and he nixed it.

    (((yay!! )))))
    Wow...it did work out...fantastic...
  10. by   hoolahan
    OH you poor thing, I have chummed up for the crew on several occasions. They really don't get it, ("Hey, Linda, you're missing the best fishing...!" DUH!!!)

    I would discuss it with him honestly, before he arranges another trip, suggest he take a buddy instead for some male bonding, then meet him in a negligee when he gets home, ready to do some cooking...LOL!
  11. by   Jenny P
    My hubby is a fishing fiend also; his fishing buddy became wierd and nuts and started making terrible remarks about me (and all women), and DH told him to F*** O** and got up and walked out of that 18 year friendship! Now he wants ME to go fishing with him; up to Lake Superior etc. to fish on day launches. We don't have a boat- I tried to buy him a small pontoon boat (to use here in the city) and he talked me out of it so we could pay off all bills so he could retire sooner.

    Love the guy dearly, but not crazy about fishing. Used to take a camera and shoot pictures instead; but that's not what he wants me to do. I know we will go fishing again; but how does one not get bored with it? PLUS, I'm the one that gets all the bug bites!
  12. by   caroladybelle
    I will fish - I will drive the boat - I will enjoy the ride, take care of the equipment, I will even bait my own hook.

    I will not cook the fish, eat the fish, clean the fish, cleanup after cooking the fish, store the fish or smell the fish. Those are the rules.

    THERE ARE NO EXCEPTIONS!!!!!!!!
  13. by   Rustyhammer
    I LOVE to fish...the wife hates it.
    So what do we do?
    I either go alone (I also LOVE alone time), take the boys with me,
    or go with my buddies.
    She has her days off alone (no me, no kids) with either herself or her girlfriends.
    We have learned to relish our time without each other almost as much as we love to be JUST together.
    -Russell
  14. by   schrandt
    [QUOTE]Originally posted by Rustyhammer
    [B]I LOVE to fish...the wife hates it.
    So what do we do?
    I either go alone (I also LOVE alone time), take the boys with me,
    or go with my buddies.
    She has her days off alone (no me, no kids) with either herself or her girlfriends.
    We have learned to relish our time without each other almost as much as we love to be JUST together.
    -Russell
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    You know there is a lot to be said for time away from each other. Gives us a chance to regroup, put our lives in perspective. My husband used to bowl (thank God he doesn't fish) twice a week, got to be too much & gave it up. But he didn't pressure me to join (crazy schedules wouldn't allow it anyway) & it gave him time to relax with friends. Vacations are something else entirely. We love to get away from home, he always drives (so I don't get lost) but getting ready to go is a bit dicey-there are times I've come close to leaving him behind. By the way Russell, you sound like a gem!

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