Offline for a day or so

  1. Hey all I'm going to be offline for a day or so, my 60 year old Aunt passed away last saturday from cancer so I am going to her funeral. I just told work I won't be in, my close aunt passed. I didn't dare ask cause they could have said no, so I just told them. If they are not immediate family it's hard to get off work. At least my Aunt is not suffering anymore. Last summer she had had back surgery to relieve pain in her back, but was also have slight problems with her breathing. Before surgery she had no chest xray, even though her chart was marked with CHEST X-RAY NEEDED right on it, no chest x-ray was done. The nurse asked her "when was your last mammogram?" My aunt said "a year ago" The nurse told her good enough. Chest xrays are not done when you have a mammogram! So surgery was done........ A month or so after surgery she couldn't breathe and was taken to ER by ambulance. After several tests and xrays, they discover she has a mass on her esophagus extending into one lung. Over the next several months as she did her tx's... Then they discovered she was diabetic. Then low and behold they discover that the back surgery had been unnecessary, because the pain she was feeling really was not her back it was the hip full of cancer she had not known about! What burns me is, if they had done the simple chest xray, the mass in her chest would have been detected and then surgery would have been halted and the other cancer found. Yes the outcome could have been the same but, chances were better that they could have caught it too. And my Aunt tried telling them things, she was a nurse, she was not practicing anymore d/t a car accident years ago that left her hands kind of numb. My aunt was cool, she was a real nut (I say the with utmost love)...she can make any situation light and better. Even through all this.....through all the pain meds (duragesic patches...oxycontin...and some others) she still made jokes and she still made light of the situation. I'm really going to miss her........

    Thanks for letting me vent ya'll, be back online soon........
  2. 8 Comments

  3. by   live4today
    Dear Greer, my prayers are with you and your family during this time of loss and great grief in your lives. I will be thinking of you over the next couple days, and pray safe travel for you and your loved ones. May God comfort you all in this time of great loss to your family. Amen. (((HUGS))) and :kiss


    "There is no sorrow that Heaven cannot heal". May you feel God's loving arms around you at this time. :kiss
  4. by   Mary Dover
    Oh Greer, ((((((((((((())))))))))))))
    Sounds as if your aunt was a wonderful inspiration for you. I am so sorry for your loss.
    Good for you for telling -not asking- about the time off from work. I like your style there. Take care of yourself and God bless you.
  5. by   hoolahan
    {{{{{{Greer}}}}}} So sorry to hear about your aunt. Take care of yourself. I will keep you in my prayers.
  6. by   aus nurse
    My thoughts are with you Greer. Your aunt sounds like she was a lovely woman.

    Take care, hugs to you and your family.
  7. by   kaycee
    Sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
  8. by   LTC-LPN
    Dear greer, It sounds like you have lost a lovely auntie and you are so right to go to the funeral. I'm glad you told the place you work that you were going...You need to be with the other members of your family that loved your aunt too. Prayers to you at this time. God Bless, Jane Ann
  9. by   BigC
    May god comfort you in this time of loss...My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
  10. by   Brownms46
    Dear greer,

    What a shame it is for anyone to have went thru as your caring Aunt did... I know there is no way that any expression of sorrow on my part will take away the deep lost you must be feeling. It seems so unfair, that someone who cared for others, as I'm sure she did for others, should have lost her fight, because she wasn't give a chance by those who cared for her
    My heart reaches out to you, your family and friends. May there be a peace that passes all understanding, as you go to say goodbye to her earthly presence, but not the spirit of who she was and is in your heart. . You do not go alone, but carry the thoughts and prayers of us all....peace
    Last edit by Brownms46 on Mar 13, '02