Never mind the husband, I'll keep him........who wants a MIL????1

  1. Demon has been fighting us since I packed away her bottles....she hasn't had any milk in nearly a week. All the grandparents have been informed and were instructed not to give in. MIL watched her for a couple of hours tonight, and when I went to pick her up, I saw a half-empty bottle of milk on the counter.

    Explanation: "I asked her if she wanted it in her cup or bottle, and she said 'Bottle'."









    *sitting on couch trying to figure out a hangman's knot*
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  2. 23 Comments

  3. by   leslie :-D
    i can't wait to be a grandma.
    grandma's don't have any rules, so to speak.
    we can just spoil our grandchildren like there's no tomorrow.
    and we leave our kids to clean up the mess.
    and i can escape a hangman's knot.
    i didn't get to be my age w/o having a few tricks up my sleeve.
    at least demon knows the rules at home.

    leslie
  4. by   TazziRN
    Hubs and I spent the ride home discussing the best way to handle her......give her salted nuts, high-sugar cookies..........succs is non-traceable, right?



    We don't mind the spoiling, it's the blatant disregard for parental wishes that causes the blood to boil.........
  5. by   prmenrs
    My mother's marital advice: marry an orphan!!
  6. by   muffie
    your daily life brings me chuckles miss tazzi
  7. by   Tweety
    That's what's so fun about going to Grandma's house don't you know.
  8. by   UM Review RN
    Quote from TazziRN
    Hubs and I spent the ride home discussing the best way to handle her......give her salted nuts, high-sugar cookies..........succs is non-traceable, right?



    We don't mind the spoiling, it's the blatant disregard for parental wishes that causes the blood to boil.........

    I wouldn't dream of doing something like that! What was she thinking?!

    So if you decide you need a good substitute G'ma, well, just let me know. I'll be happy to fill in.
  9. by   Fun2, RN, BSN
    Doesn't that just chap your hide?




    I don't understand why anyone does that, especially grandma.
  10. by   Spidey's mom
    I LOVE my mother-in-law . . . . . but she does things opposite of the way we do them. She thinks milk spoils children's appetites and so does not let our son drink milk except at meals. Our son loves milk and drinks it all day long at home, whenever he is thirsty and he eats just fine. I also keep bottled water with fluoride for him. She also withheld milk from him last week when he was sick because she said it was bad for people with colds - I told her that has been disproven but she still withheld the milk.

    I just let it go . . . . there are so many wonderful things they bring into my son's life.

    Leslie and I are on the same page regarding being grandmas . . .

    Now, if we were talking about mothers . . .I'd be right with ya Tazzi . . .

    steph
  11. by   babynurselsa
    Hey Angie, my little ones need a good grandma.........
    Tazzi, I know this does indeed chap the hide but at least you got a grandma to spoil and sit with your little one.
    My younger two have both grandmothers living but neither of them are much of a presence in their lives and it makes me sooooo sad.
  12. by   Jolie
    Tazzi,

    I know just where you are coming from. We lived near my parents for a number of years, and had problems with my mom outwardly defying certain requests. At times, we overlooked it, if it wasn't really a big deal. But we were forced to go to the mat on one occasion when her defiance was particularly destructive. I guess you have to decide just how important this issue is to you.

    We ultimately took the easy way out, and moved. I have found 500 miles to be the perfect buffer zone!

    Good luck!
  13. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from Jolie
    Tazzi,

    I know just where you are coming from. We lived near my parents for a number of years, and had problems with my mom outwardly defying certain requests. At times, we overlooked it, if it wasn't really a big deal. But we were forced to go to the mat on one occasion when her defiance was particularly destructive. I guess you have to decide just how important this issue is to you.

    We ultimately took the easy way out, and moved. I have found 500 miles to be the perfect buffer zone!

    Good luck!
    My mom defied us in many ways - #1 was to continue to smoke around the kids. She lived with us for over 5 years and all my older kids continually had ear infections and all now have bouts of asthma. My youngest has never been around her and has had two ear infections and no asthma so far.

    She even told our doc she would do whatever she pleased regarding smoking because he was FOS regarding the link between smoking and ear infections.

    We are estranged - but not over this - worse stuff.

    And she just lives across the river from me . . . about 1/8 of a mile.

    steph
  14. by   MLF
    Tazzi: I can SOOO relate to your complaint-but I have no solution. When my kiddos were young (under a year) I didn't feed them cow's milk because I am allergic to it. I breast fed them and supplemented with soy. And, so, what did grandma do when I wasn't around? She fed them cow's milk. They would then proceed to vomit so heavily it would almost hit the ceiling. Her response? Gee, must be a touch of the "stomach bug" (or,or,or) She had no regard for parent's wishes. She fed her other grandkids candy and all kinds of sugar even though the mother forbade her to. She operated on the theory that what someone didn't know didn't hurt them. Good luck, Donna

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