I saw the thread about having kids in your 30s and suddenly felt the need to vent about recent pressures to get married and have a family. I'm 25 (which I consider young even though my friends swear we are getting old) and have a large group of friends that are the same age and all but 2 are married w/ children--great kids I might add, one of which is my god daughter. The thing that I hate is when I go to birthday parties etc. and some of the adults that are older than me start saying "When are you getting married?" or sometimes even say "Awww....do you need a baby?" as I'm sitting by myself enjoying my food. It's so irritating! There is so much pressure on twentysomethings to get married and have children. It's no wonder the divorce rate is so high. (and I'm not trying to offend people who are in their 20s and married-I know that the right timing is different for everyone-I'm just sick of being pressured because I'm not) Don't get me wrong I worry about my parents being around to meet their grandchildren and my dad walking me down the aisle etc, but they've told me several times that they don't want me rushing into things on their account. The whole having a baby in your 30s thing brought back all of the pressure that I've been feeling on this topic lately---so I needed to vent. For the record, I've been a bridesmaid 4 times---5th time in August 04 and a 6th
time in Oct. 05. According to the superstition I'm screwed anyway
What I want to ask everyone is how did you meet the love of your life? Or even if you've gone through a divorce--what would you have done differently if anything? What is love supposed to feel like? I want to do the marriage and family thing, but I refuse to do it unless I meet someone who I really fall deeply in love with. I was in a 5 year relationship w/ someone who I had luke warm feelings for because I though it was love--but when he broke up w/ me instead of proposing I learned my lesson and have decided never to settle again. So any words of wisdom would be great because I'm starting to lose hope.