Recently my dad was admitted to a nursing home, leaving my mother alone for the first time in 58 yrs. of marriage.
Two weeks ago, I noticed Mom was looking rather thin, and asked her to get on the scale. She was down to 105 lbs. (She was 5' 8" tall at one time but has shrunk a bit due to kyphosis.)
Tonight, she was trying a blouse on. It looked miles too big for her. She asked me if I want it. I asked what size it was (we both usually wear a size 12.) I was shocked to find it was a size 10!
Onto the scale again. She's lost another 3 lbs! I tell ya, I had to fight back the tears at seeing her so skinny! I didn't want her to know how much it upset me. She would start to feel badly too...no use having us both bawling!
I just don't know what to do. Both my brother and I have offered to take her in, but she refuses to leave the house she's lived in for 40 years. She gets Meals on Wheels 5 days a week, but she doesn't like anyone's cooking but her own ('I eat them (MOW) with long teeth', she says!)
The problem, IMO, is the lack of companionship. Meals eaten alone lose their savour. I try to spend a good chunk of time with her at least once a week, so we can have both lunch and supper together, but it just isn't realistic for me to be there for her every day. I live too far away.
Arrggh....what to do for a stubborn old woman, whom I dearly love??