Names

  1. How important is it that people get your name right? I've been called all sorts of nicknames, then there are people who don't refer to my by my name at all but by "Hey you" or "hey ya". (I'm not taking about patients or customers but co-workers).

    For me, I want people to call me by the proper form of the name that I give people to call my but no one does that. In fact, people like singing my name. I'm surrounded by losers. :angryfire

    No, but really, I wish people didn't do that. It doesn't drive me crazy but it pinches a little nerve in my brain every time. Is anyone else picky about being called by the name that you give people? Its a personal space thing, isnt it?
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  3. by   cursenurse
    i can totally understand why you get frustrated. people butcher my name all the time. i have considered just having my last name on my badge so that people can call me "ms. jones," or "nurse jones." i think that you just have to keep a sense of humor about it. my name is biblical and very hard to pronounce so i dont usually get an attitude unless the person is obviously not even trying to pronounce it correctly. it can be irritating when someone you work with wont take the time to learn the correct pronunciation-an md i used to work with butchered my name and apologized saying that he just could not remember how to pronounce it. i said in my most pitying, condescending voice that it was ok, some people just have a hard time pronouncing words. he got it right from that day forward.
  4. by   kids
    I can appreciate your feelings.

    My daughter's name is Andrea, pronounced An-dree-a. It is not An-dray-a, On-dray-a, On-dree-a and is sure as heck isn't Andy. It drives her stark raving mad when people get it wrong. She corrects them one time, after that she stops answering to anything other pronounciation.

    I introduce myself by the name I want to be called by that person or group (and by golly if I introduce myself as Mrs. H---- I darn well better be called it!)
  5. by   leslie :-D
    and what's so embarrassing is that i am horrible at remembering names yet i do place much significance on spelling and saying it correctly. it's your own personal stamp.
  6. by   Energizer Bunny
    Well, I'm gonna slightly disagree.....I would really get upset at people not using some form of my name and I don't much like it when they call me "Kimberly" formally, but Kimmy or Kimmers, or other things such as that warm my heart. It makes me feel sorta special.

    "hey you" or another form like that would really bother me and I certainly respect your right to feel like you want people to use your given name. It's just not me....and if I were you, I would speak up about it! Let them know that they aren't being cute.
  7. by   camay1221_RN
    I understand your frustration!

    My first name is Cynthia, but I go by my middle name, Renee. On all of my legal documents, I list my full name.

    There is nothing more aggrevating to me than to have someone see my name and assume they can call me Cindy. It's a very big assumption, at that!



    Quote from susanna
    How important is it that people get your name right? I've been called all sorts of nicknames, then there are people who don't refer to my by my name at all but by "Hey you" or "hey ya". (I'm not taking about patients or customers but co-workers).

    For me, I want people to call me by the proper form of the name that I give people to call my but no one does that. In fact, people like singing my name. I'm surrounded by losers. :angryfire

    No, but really, I wish people didn't do that. It doesn't drive me crazy but it pinches a little nerve in my brain every time. Is anyone else picky about being called by the name that you give people? Its a personal space thing, isnt it?
  8. by   karenG
    bane of my life........... my name is Karen- easy enough name except being scots I pronounce it cairn! sigh. Im surrounded by the heathen english who just dont get it!! so my name is pronounce wrongly all the time........... just let my friends get it wrong!!!

    Karen
  9. by   Saved_by_Grace
    [font=lucida sans unicode]my daughter's name is andrea as well and she is constantly getting called onndrea. i hate that too. as for me my name is melanie and people constantly call me melody or melinda. they're 2 completely different names....my biggest pet peeve of all though, this has happened to me twice is people have called me melanoma. they laugh and think it's a joke but my mother died of melanoma and it really infuriates me to be called that.:angryfire :angryfire course they didn't know that but you know i have a name and it's not the title of a disease. grrrr oh well.....................

    Quote from kids-r-fun
    i can appreciate your feelings.

    my daughter's name is andrea, pronounced an-dree-a. it is not an-dray-a, on-dray-a, on-dree-a and is sure as heck isn't andy. it drives her stark raving mad when people get it wrong. she corrects them one time, after that she stops answering to anything other pronounciation.

    i introduce myself by the name i want to be called by that person or group (and by golly if i introduce myself as mrs. h---- i darn well better be called it!)
  10. by   Tweety
    I like to be called the shortended name Don. I've had a couple of people insist on calling me Donald. And if I have to tell them a million times I tell them a million times it's Don. Luckily those people are few and far between.

    But you guys can call me Tweety.
  11. by   nurseygrrl
    Quote from camay1221_RN
    I understand your frustration!

    My first name is Cynthia, but I go by my middle name, Renee. On all of my legal documents, I list my full name.

    There is nothing more aggrevating to me than to have someone see my name and assume they can call me Cindy. It's a very big assumption, at that!
    I know what you mean. My husband's name is Jonathan and he can't stand being called 'Jon' yet everyone does it. Even if he is introduced as Jonathan, the person will reach out to shake his hand and say 'Hey, Jon' hates that! :chuckle

    My name is Alicia...pronounced Aleesha. Some people call me Aleecia which I don't mind because my aunt, from Spain whom I was named after, pronounces her name like that and all of my Spanish family calls me Aleecia.
  12. by   traumaRUs
    Funny story - oldest son's name is Todd. When he was about 10 or so - I asked him to do the dishes. Well, he whined and whined and whined some more so I called him Todderella! Then (years later) when he was about 20 his girlfriend was over at the house and I just reminded him (very gently) to clean up after themselves. He whined and so I (accidentally) came out with: "Okay, todderella - the evil stepmother is back!" Tee hee hee. He has never whined once since then.
  13. by   LauraF, RN
    This may sound silly to some of you. But.....my name is Laura. Note LAUra. I get so furious when people call me Lora. Ok folks, there is an A there. My in-laws do it all the time. I do not mind though when my Daddy calls me "Lori-Beth" But Daddy only!!!!
  14. by   EarthChild1130
    I have given up trying to teach folks how to pronounce my name LOL...It's Letitia, which is pronounced Latisha. I don't mind that people can't pronounce it, but what really aggravates me is that once they hear my name they look at me and say 'but that's a "black girl" name and you're a "white girl"...to me that is a very crude statement...why should it matter if I'm black or white or what my name is??

    But that's for a whole other topic LOL...I'm doing my psych clinicals right now and my patient has opted to call me Tish as my family does, since it's hard for him to remember Letitia.

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