My son ... a Marine?

  1. Hi everyone,

    My oldest son who is 20 and a sophomore in college is thinking about joining a branch of service, the Marines.

    I'm in shock, but then again not too surprised, he has been dropping hints about not knowing what he wants to do (major)and not having a "passion" for anything. He told me he's been thinking about this for awhile.

    I would like to see him stay in college but then again, he can learn a skill in the military too right? He's going tomorrow to talk to a recruiter.

    Any thoughts or opinions would be appreciated.

    Marie
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  2. 42 Comments

  3. by   sunnygirl272
    <shivers>...now is not the time i would want a child to join-up.....
  4. by   CountrifiedRN
    Maybe he can finish college and go in as an officer instead of enlisted. Makes a big difference in pay and what kind of assignment he will get.
  5. by   l.rae
    Marie, my son joined the Navy right out of high school...signed up for submariners....anyway, l said a prayer and trusted that whatever happened was best. l told myself he could stay here and go to college and that was no gaurentee he would be safe, or not get hung up with the wrong crowd.....maybe l am not making much sense, l just trusted however it turned out was meant to be. He has been home 2 yrs and is still on reserve till this Sept....he could be called back. Marie, feel free to pm me if you need to talk....there is a lot more l could share .....if it will help....been there kiddo...........LR
  6. by   SmilingBluEyes
    can he do ROTC first? I would advise STRONGLY he try this....get the Gov't to PAY FOR SCHOOL and then be COMMISSIONED in the Marine Corps as an officer. His career will look much brighter, options be greater pay MUCH MUCH BETTER, and if he does not care for it, he comes out with experience AND a college degree. To me, that is the ONLY way to go and the way I am advising MY son to do....(he wants to join the Air Force like his dad). This is one heck of a time to join the marines...when we are on the brink of war...I would do all I could to talk him into finishing school FIRST before becoming an armed forces member. Oh, and I am a 10 year AF vet, myself, so a bit of experience talking. Good luck, sweetie, whatever he decides! How torn you must feel!
  7. by   Mkue
    Sunny- I know (shivers) and disbelief, the timing is awful.

    RN2bNC and SmilingBlueEyes- I'm going to make sure that he checks into that area too. I know that there is an ROTC at his college now.

    l.rae- You do make sense to me, trusting whatever happens will happen. I will probably PM you later after I know for sure.

    I almost feel like I want to go with him when he talks to a recruiter, but then he's 20, he's mature, responsible, he makes his own car payments, etc..

    I will definately share the ROTC info with him tonight so he can ask about that.

    Thank you all, I don't feel so alone in this now.


    Marie
  8. by   SmilingBluEyes
    YOU are NOT alone, Marie. You sound like a very reasonable, wonderful mom. I don't want my son to join when the time comes, but like you said, it will be HIS choice. All I can do is show him the best options and hope he chooses them. Recruiters CAN be slick. (not all of them). Be sure your son has CLEAR in his MIND his GOALS and how military service FIT INTO THEM, not the OTHER WAY AROUND! If you want to talk, let me know. Like I said, I am a vet and married to active duty AF right now. I can speak volumes about military life, both from active duty experience and the feeling we have as family members with loved ones in service. Let me know if I can be of any help to you at any time.
  9. by   renerian
    I am sorry but I would be pooping bricks if my son wanted to join now. While I think it is noble, and very honorable, he must know he would go to war.

    JMHO,

    Hugs,

    renerian
  10. by   hapeewendy
    great advice from our knowledgable allnurses cohorts
    ur a great supportive mom marie and ur never alone
  11. by   Mkue
    Originally posted by SmilingBluEyes
    YOU are NOT alone, Marie. You sound like a very reasonable, wonderful mom. I don't want my son to join when the time comes, but like you said, it will be HIS choice. All I can do is show him the best options and hope he chooses them. Recruiters CAN be slick. (not all of them). Be sure your son has CLEAR in his MIND his GOALS and how military service FIT INTO THEM, not the OTHER WAY AROUND! If you want to talk, let me know. Like I said, I am a vet and married to active duty AF right now. I can speak volumes about military life, both from active duty experience and the feeling we have as family members with loved ones in service. Let me know if I can be of any help to you at any time.
    Thanks Deb. He has been talking to a high school buddy who has been in the Marines for 2-3 years now, this guy has told him some good and BAD of his experience. I also mentioned the AF to him. I hope he doesn't get a "slick" recruiter. I will definately PM you as I know I will have a lot of questions.

    Thanks ! Marie
  12. by   Tweety
    I'm an Army brat, both my BIL's are in the military. Being in the military can provide many opportunities. They are the most benefited young people in the world. (This is a fact).

    But the other fact that people forget in times of peace (which isn't now) is that the military prepares for war. The time may come when it's time to go to war. That's what the military is for.

    I know you guys have thought about it, but you would be amazed that the people who go into the military and don't think of this. I used to live in a military town and during the Gulf War, all those people who were in the reserves for the extra money and education benefits and whatnot were flabergasted when they called to fight....duh!

    There was a mom in Tampa whose son died in Afghanistan and was so appalled that her son got sent over there, that the President didn't come to the funeral, that it wasn't fair that her son had to go to war. Not to be harsh, but baby that's what the military does. It's not for play, not just for something to do until one grows up, not just to save money for college, but to fight and defend.
  13. by   2banurse
    Mkue, not having any children I could not even understand what it would mean to have a child enlist at this time. But Lrae makes a very good point. There is no guarantee that someone would be safer in college versus in the military. True the risk is increased, but there are many benefits. If he has any special skill (ie, languages?) he might be assigned to a position that is out of harms way.

    Best wishes,
    Kris
  14. by   Mkue
    Originally posted by hapeewendy
    great advice from our knowledgable allnurses cohorts
    ur a great supportive mom marie and ur never alone
    Thanks Wendy, knew I could count on allnurses cohorts !

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