My new mantra:

  1. [font=book antiqua]i saw this on a magnet at a pt's house and i've been saying this to my parents and mil ever since:
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    [font=book antiqua]children are spoiled because you can't spank grandparents.
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  3. by   VivaLasViejas
    Quote from tazzirn
    [font=book antiqua]i saw this on a magnet at a pt's house and i've been saying this to my parents and mil ever since:
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    [font=book antiqua]children are spoiled because you can't spank grandparents.
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  4. by   TazziRN
    Quote from mjlrn97
    :d:d:d

    wipe that smirk off your face!!!!
  5. by   Spidey's mom
    My in-laws would have a problem with that. They are making sure our children have SOME discipline in their lives.

    No jumping on the sofa at their house. No back sassing at their house. No milk with dinner at their house.

    Actually, they are wonderful people and I'm grateful for them but it does drive my mil crazy to see our son do some of the things we let him do here. And last week at his soccer game, I guess he spoke rudely to his dad and I . .I don't remember it .. but dd says grandma leaned over and told her "that would get him a spanking at MY house". And dd said "Good!".

    So, she would say:

    Children are spoiled because you can't spank their parents~!



    steph
  6. by   Spidey's mom
    P.S. I plan to spoil my grandkids too . ..


    steph
  7. by   VivaLasViejas
    Yep, that's what it's all about---spoiling 'em rotten!

    Actually, though, I don't let my grandchildren get away with everything. At age 2, Eli is very typical for his stage of life, and he throws fits and tries to hit/kick anything---or anyONE---within reach when he's PO'd. The other day, he got upset with me for some reason that I didn't understand, and he stomped on my foot. I immediately grabbed his arm, swung him around to face me, and in a very firm voice I told him that he was NOT allowed to hurt Grandma, and furthermore, it was not OK to hurt anybody in my house.

    The child was understandably miffed, but he didn't cry---just turned and stomped out of the dining room. But in the time it took for him to walk out of the kitchen, through the living room, and back into the dining room, he'd evidently decided to play by the rules, for he climbed up on a chair and began chatting with me in a most charming manner. He also wouldn't leave that night without giving me FOUR hugs and kisses, and for a two-year-old, he's been the model of propriety ever since. And while I'm under no illusions that it will last forever, I know he learned some respect that day.

    I never tolerated disrespect from my own kids, and as much as I adore them, I won't tolerate it from the grandkids either. And I never have laid a finger on Eli in anger, although I felt like letting his dad have it for calling him a "little jerk" when all this occurred. I've never been one to call children names---my mother once called me a "dumbbell" when I struggled to learn how to tie my shoes, and I never forgot it.

    Each generation has to find its own way, I guess. I'm just glad I'm at the end of the active child-rearing years myself..........it was tough, and it lasted a long time (nine-year age difference between youngest and oldest, although Steph's got me beat by a mile). I'm content being the grandma!
  8. by   Spidey's mom
    Not a mile . . . 12 years.

    I don't tolerate disrespect either and won't put up with a tantrum. I've never been the sort to walk away from a tantrum and just take away their audience. I pick them up and look them in the eye and say "STOP".

    I don't like namecalling either . . . I'd want to spank your sil too . .

    I really don't know what it is that bothered my mil at the soccer game . . . it may have been frustration displayed on Danny's part. He kept falling down - the field was full of holes. I'll have to ask her.

    As to jumping on the bed or getting his own glass of milk from the fridge or making his own jelly sandwich . . .I've always let my kids do things like that.

    steph
  9. by   NursesRmofun
    Mine is very close to that. Mine is; You (my dd) drove me nuts and I swore to get even one day...so, now, as your children grow up, I am going to spoil them rotten! haha!
    Last edit by NursesRmofun on Sep 16, '07
  10. by   VivaLasViejas
    I was really uptight when my daughters were little. I'd get upset when they knocked over their milk at the table, or had playground accidents that ruined their clothes. Part of that was money---we didn't have much and couldn't afford to waste ANYTHING---but part of it was also the way I myself had been brought up. I was a rambuctious child, but my mother was very particular about the house and her possessions, so I learned to tiptoe around the house not touching anything, not flopping on the sofa, etc. and save all my energy for the outdoors.

    Thankfully, as I grew older, had more kids, and learned how to choose my battles, I stopped caring so much about the petty little things they did, and even learned to laugh at their klutziness sometimes. The grandkids are permitted to bounce on Amma's and PaPa's bed, shout in the hall to hear their voices echo, and ride the tricycle through the living room. I even let the family put their feet up on the coffee table---it's well-worn from 40-plus years of use, and a few more scratches won't matter.

    :roll
  11. by   CHATSDALE
    NO JUMPING ON THE BED!! not my kids not my grandkids..always had milk with meals but my kids never lacked appetite
    children and grandchildren were pretty spoiled but i think it was because at that time i did not a lot of material stuff to give them so i made up for it by being too lenient
  12. by   TazziRN
    when i was growing up: "no snacks/sodas until after lunch, and not for an hour before dinner."

    monster: "you want a tootsie roll?" (this is at 0800 in the morning!)

    my mom to me: "she's eating chips and i told her to stop because it's almost dinner time but she said no."

    me: "take them away from her."

    mom: "ohhhh, i can't do that!"
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

    potty training

    my mom: "she won't go in the potty. i tell her to try and she cries."

    me: "make her sit on it anyway."

    mom: "i can't do that, i can't stand to hear her cry!"
  13. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from CHATSDALE
    NO JUMPING ON THE BED!! not my kids not my grandkids..always had milk with meals but my kids never lacked appetite
    children and grandchildren were pretty spoiled but i think it was because at that time i did not a lot of material stuff to give them so i made up for it by being too lenient
    My kids always have an appetite that a glass of milk does not spoil but I think it is an old wives' tale that milk is thicker than water and fills you up and you aren't hungry for your meal. Not true with my kids. In fact, my son drinks milk constantly all day long and eats very well. All my kids did that and still do - we go through at least 1 1/2 gallons of milk a day.

    As to jumping on beds . . .. well, I join him. Also when making the bed, I make a big billowing pillow of the sheets and my son jumps on top of it . . .

    steph
  14. by   ElvishDNP
    You sound like a fun mom, steph!


    My son (who, I believe shares a name with steph's) drinks a lot of milk too and does not have an appetite issue at all. He is almost 3 and drinks at least 24 oz milk on most days. Gotta build them bones and teeth.

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