Originally posted by suni
if worse comes to worse and she quits school she will just have to find a job to pay back student loans but unemployment is hight here and i hate to think of that when we are only 7 monthes from graduating
Suni, please don't think I'm being harsh here, but think about what I'm saying. I do know how much it hurts to see your daughter in pain and making bad decisions right now.
I'm having to learn the hard way that "we" are not going to college; my son and daughter are; and they are now grown up enough that they make their own mistakes and they have to live with their own consequences. This is a hard thing for me as both of my kids are still ADHD; but my son is now 23 and my daughter is 20; it is time for me to back off and let them learn some hard lessons on their own.
My son has screwed up his credit ratings; my daughter has dropped enough classes that she may not get her student loan. We could afford to help both of them; but it would (once again) mean I won't be going back to school.
I'm learning to back off (DANG! It's such a HARD thing to do!); offer emotional support and encouragement, but also put the responsibility on THEIR shoulders. I told my daughter that if she drops out of school she has to get a job and live on her own-- she won't be allowed to move back home and live off us at this point again. Our son does live on his own, and has learned some hard lessons because of that. Both of them know that they can come here and work and earn $$ from us for the work they do, but the free ride is now over.
Good luck and I will be thinking of you. I hope your daughter likes LV's motto that "The best revenge is success".