looooong story short, i was dx with gyne cancer, had hysterectomy, radiation, and now found out that some lymph nodes are involved. i have a lot of other health problems, the most severe being lupus and chronic back pain from DDD, four herniations etc. my employer is denying my FMLA papers because i took leave last year (apparently i don't have the 1250 hours). GRRR.
okay, my parents have been taking care of a lot of things i just can't do right now. my ex husband has been calling every day wanting to get back with me. he was very abusive (physically and verbally) for most of the marriage, which is why i left. i don't know why he's so insistent that he wants to get back with me, esp NOW. i'm very sick right now. i've tried many times to tell him i'm not interested, but he's not accepting that. he shows up to my condo, sends me flowers, emails, etc. it's driving me crazy. i don't want to get back with him. he's even telling my kids (6 and 4) to tell me to get back with him, and that's making me angry. my kids are scared enough right now with me being so sick, and my daughter is already having issues at school since i had surgery and has been staying with my parents. and my son is autistic and is NOT handling the changes very well either.
we did separate on amicable terms, but only because of the kids. anyway, i am in no way interested in getting back with him. no way. my mother, of course, is encouraging his behavior. she never did accept that i left him (because he beat me black and blue, choked me until i became unconscious, etc). she's very religious and doesn't believe in divorce. (i never understood that she could accept the guy who tried to kill her own daughter, but anyway).
sorry, i really needed to get this off my chest. i don't know WHAT to say to him to make him leave me alone. i don't have the energy to deal with this right now. i have enough problems. thanks for letting me vent!!!
sorry so long...