My Daughter's Off To Boot Camp!

  1. My precious child is leaving Monday for Army basic training in South Carolina, and even though I've had a year to get used to the idea, I'm NOT doing well.

    I feel so many conflicting emotions.......I'm so proud of her I can hardly stand it, but at the same time I'm sad at the prospect of the first bird leaving the nest, happy that she's escaping this nice but boring little town, and terrified that she could end up in Iraq. It wouldn't be so bad if she were closer, instead of completely across the country, and if we could at least see or talk to her every now and then. But I hear they're really strict about not allowing phone calls the first few weeks of basic, and I can't imagine not hearing Melanie's sweet voice for that long!

    I guess I'll have to get used to it though, because her last 48 hours at home are going fast, and I need to be strong when I leave her at the recruiting office Monday afternoon to be driven up to Portland and then to the airport early the next morning. I know it's normal for children to grow up and leave one......that's what my mind says.........I just wish someone would explain it to my heart.
  2. 61 Comments

  3. by   Tweety
    hugs sweetness. best of luck to your daughter. I'm sure she'll do us proud.
  4. by   leslie :-D
    write her a love letter marla; something that melanie can take with her. so many emotions now...our babies will always be our babies. as tweety said, she'll do us proud.

    love to you and yours.

    leslie xo
  5. by   nekhismom
    I went to Ft. Jackson myself at the tender age of 17. I made it, and grew up IMMENSELY when I was there. She will definately appreciate a love letter. Anything to encourage her and let her know that you love and support her, and that YOU KNOW that she can do IT (whatever IT may be at the moment, because basic training can cause LOTS of self-doubt at first), and you will always be proud.

    (((((HUGS))))) to you. I still remember the look on my mom's face when I actually got on that van to go off to basic. Even though I hadn't been living with her for a while, she was devastated. She was bawling her eyes out before the van even left the parking lot, and doing her best to wave me off at the same time. You'll be ok, MJ. You're a strong woman. Feel free to cry on our shoulders here.
  6. by   dianah
    The letter sounds like a great idea, something of you that she can hold and cherish. Good advice, Leslie and Nekhismom. Marla, is there a Military Moms Support Group or something like it in your area??? Can you start one?
    Keep us informed, you're both in our prayers. -- D
    Last edit by dianah on Jul 11, '04
  7. by   EarthChild1130
    Thank your daughter for me!! My husband is a career military guy! He spent 6 years in the Army, and is now in his 5th year in the Coast Guard, so he went through boot camp TWICE! It is very hard to watch a loved one get on the plane to go, but she's doing a great thing and it's a wonderful career. Wish her best of luck for me!
  8. by   SmilingBluEyes
    ((((((((Marla)))))))))) I know you must be running a gamut of emotion. Hugs to you. Please thank your daughter for me, for her service, from a veteran of 10 years myself. Hang in there.
  9. by   Energizer Bunny
    ((((((((((Marla))))))))) It HAS to be tough sweetie. I'll be thinking of you......
  10. by   jnette
    ((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))) Marla.

    Truly. Warmest and tightest of hugs.

    The first weeks of basic will be the toughest... both on her and on you.

    After that it will be easier as you will begin hearing from her.

    Adam goes in three weeks. I'm here for you and we'll hold each other up, ok?

    I do find comfort in the fact that going Navy, I don't see him going to Iraq anytime soon. Army, however is a different story. I will keep your precious dtr. in my prayers.

    Take advantage of the Military Mom's site I referred you to. There are many moms in your very same state of mind there... and moms who have been there and know just how to comfort, console, advise, and encourage you.

    Warmest hugs again, dear Marla. :kiss

    Slip her a picture (wallet size) of you and her together to tuck behind her license/ID. She can pull it out and place it at her heart when times are tough.
    Last edit by jnette on Jul 11, '04
  11. by   NRSKarenRN
    Hugs to you from PA...

    Many offered great advice. Take out the tape recorder and sit around the table recalling growing up years and those funny you can listen to their voices over the comming weeks. Better is videotaping this gab session: pics and words.

    Wishing you and your daughter the best.
  12. by   VivaLasViejas
    Thank you all for your kind words and prayers.....they do help! :kiss

    I think the idea of the love letter is wonderful; in fact, I already did something like this.......I bought a card that said a lot of the things I wanted to communicate to her about how proud I am of her and how she can do ANYTHING she puts her mind to. Of course I added a few words of my own, and I've put it aside to give to her tomorrow when she leaves. I only wish there were words enough to describe how in 18 1/2 years, this child has never done anything but make me proud and happy......and how very much she is loved and will be missed.

    sigh........only 29 hours left.......!
  13. by   nurseygrrl
    (((((big warm hugs))))) My daughter is going to be 9 in August and I can only imagine the pain you must be feeling. I started to cry the other day because I looked at my daughter and it was as is all of a sudden she'd grown 5 inches and she looked like a 'young lady'. Ever have one of those moments? *sigh*

    Take pride in the fact that you raised your daughter well and know that you have given her all the tools to grow into a wonderful woman.
  14. by   Hellllllo Nurse

    I will say prayers for your daughter's security and safety.

    But- I have to ask- Why did she choose to enlist now?