My brother is an IV addict and I'm heartbroken

  1. my brother used to be a very, very good man. he was in the construction field. he had his own construction business. he did very well. had a beautiful home which he built himself, a lovely wife and darling sons who couldn't get enough of him. my brother was the type of man that most folks instantly came to love due to his magnetic personality, so giving, so loving. then he became involved with oxycontin, secretly of coarse. the drugs took over. somewhere along the line, he began shooting up. when? the family doesn't know. he lost his business, lost his wife and family, lost his friends, and lost even some of his family. he sold everything, i mean everything, to supply his habit. my brother. oh my brother, he is so gone. he is like a living dead man now. i and the family don't know where he is at and if he is still alive. my father has essentially accepted his demise, sort of speak, and awaits for a phone call to confirm that it indeed has occurred. i'm so heart broken. i barely have the words. my brother who was so full of life, energy, and love...for all intensive purposes is no more. i've worked in detox in the past with heroin users...which i'm sure my brother has gravitated to. the hope is bleak. i'm so sad. i lost my brother. i lost him.
  2. 26 Comments

  3. by   Hellllllo Nurse
    My brother actually is dead from a drug overdose. My beloved brother died in 1995.
    I will never get over losing him.

    You have my empathy.
  4. by   moonchild20002000
    My brother was addicted to drugs all of his adult life.

    He died at age 46 of cancer.

    It is so painful for families to have to go through . I used to wonder the same things about my brother.My heart just goes out to all of you.

    I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
  5. by   Thunderwolf
    HelllllloNurse and MoonChild, thank you. You have my return empathy for your own brothers. It tears my heart apart. I think of him daily, and it just kills me. It is hard to be joyous this year for Christmas when all I think about is that my brother could be lying in a ditch somewhere. My God, what has happened to my brother? Where is he? Why did this have to happen? I know no one can answer this. My heart feels so empty right now. It is like someone just ripped off my arm and I'm trying to hold a glass of water without it. How can I get through this? This is just too much for me.
    Last edit by Thunderwolf on Dec 17, '04
  6. by   Tweety
    I'm so sorry to hear that.
  7. by   vwgirl
    Try going to a Nar-Anon meeting; it is for relatives and friends of addicts. You will find others who have been where you are and will be able to tell you how you will get thru it, and somehow, you will get through. Just a note from someone whose parents had basically planned to bury me: your brother isn't gone yet; there is hope for recovery from drug addiction; I know because I am living proof. True, many don't make it, but just like any disease, some people manage to survive. You and your brother are in my prayers.
  8. by   GPatty
    I know it is hard. Just keep praying daily.
    My daughter almost died from an OD back in September. Cocaine, alcohol and ibuprofen. She made it, and your brother will too.
    Have faith and push on.....
    God bless you and yours. take care.
  9. by   traumaRUs
    Am so very sorry for you. Like one poster said though that while he is still alive there is always hope. Can you find a way to have some peace in your life? The only person you can take care of is yourself - please.
  10. by   renerian
    I am very sorry your having this experience and having to live with the pain. I am working with a child on alcohol issues and it stinks. I feel pretty much on the brink watching her getting ready to jump over the edge. She is getting help but sometimes it is not enough. I pray alot.


  11. by   lisamc1RN
    I'm so sorry. What a heartbreaking thing to have happen for your whole family.
  12. by   chris_at_lucas_RN
    The best--the only way--to do anything for him is to do the best for yourself.

    Go to Nar-Anon or Al-Anon. My experience (18 year of it) is with the latter.

    Changed my life. Love and peace to you.
  13. by   z's playa
    I'm so sorry to hear that. I've known many drug addicts mostly by accident and I know how hard it can be but can't imagine how hard it is for you to have a loved one in that predicament. Make sure you also get some help and support by either a therapist or a support group because this will be very draining. I hope for the best outcome. Stay strong!
  14. by   Katnip
    Thunderwolf, I'm so sorry to hear this.

    I can't give any good advice. Only my sympathy and gentle hugs.