My baby is growing up! Sniff, Sniff...

  1. today my 13 years old started his first day as an 8th grader. he didn't want mom to take him in to the school as she has done since he started pre-school. i did go in but i just went to pay for his p.e. uniform. yes, i know, i could have let him do it but mom felt left out as my child is "out growing" his mom now.

    to be honest, i felt sad, but i know i have to let go of my last child too. my daughter starts her first day on thursday as a 10th grader and i just will not bother taking her in.

    i do however, meet all the teachers of both my children and do visit as often as time allows me to.

    has anyone else felt like this when your children didn't any longer need you to go in on their first day back to school?

    i am having an empty feeling and wanted to share.
    Last edit by Love-A-Nurse on Aug 12, '02
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  2. 16 Comments

  3. by   amblessing
    I have a 13-year old son who starts 8th grade on Wednesday. He will not kiss or hug me goodbye in the car, because I'm sure he's afraid someone will see him! BUT, when he gets home from school I get LOTS of hugs and "I love you's" - makes up for everything :kiss
  4. by   GPatty
    *SIGH*
    Boy, I can relate too!
    I have a 16 y/o in 11th grade, a 14 y/o in 8th, a 9 y/o in 4th and my little one, she's 7 in 2nd.
    I know they are growing up and I miss the things we used to do, but I know they are growing up and being raised right...I pray....
  5. by   kristi915
    I'm 17, and I'm ready to go back to school. This is my senior year and I'm really excited for it. The last time I missed my mom when I was at school was last year, I do miss being around my mom. She works everyday though. Sometimes last year she would take an afternoon off and I would skip and go shopping with her. BUT, those days changed.

    We grow up, and become more independant, but we will always need our moms!! So, moms don't forget that!!
  6. by   WashYaHands
    We grow up, and become more independant, but we will always need our moms!! So, moms don't forget that!!
    That is so sweet, Kristi :kiss

    The Whisper of a Child

    A child's love is like a whisper,
    given in little ways we do not hear.
    But if you listen closely
    it will be very clear.

    They often do not say it loud,
    but in how they come to you...
    Daddy, will you play with me?
    Mommy, tie my shoe?

    The many ways the tell you,
    changes as they grow.
    Dad, I made the team today!
    Mom, I've got to go!

    Pop, I need some money,
    you see, there's....this girl at school.
    Mama, I met a boy today
    and wow, he's so cool!

    Dad, I've got something to tell you...
    I think she is the one!
    Mom, he asked me to marry him.
    Would you love him as your son?

    Dad, I've got some news for you...
    It's going to be a boy!
    Mom, I'm kind of scared of this,
    yet I'm filled with joy!

    A child's love is like a whisper,
    given in little ways we do not hear.
    But if you listen closely,
    it will be very clear.

    They often do not say it loud,
    but in how they come to you...
    Grandpa, will you play with me?
    Grandma, tie my shoe?

    author unknown

    Linda
  7. by   Love-A-Nurse
    originally posted by washyahands

    that is so sweet, kristi :kiss

    i agree. thanks for the post, kristi!




    the whisper of a child

    a child's love is like a whisper,
    given in little ways we do not hear.
    but if you listen closely
    it will be very clear.

    they often do not say it loud,
    but in how they come to you...
    daddy, will you play with me?
    mommy, tie my shoe?

    the many ways the tell you,
    changes as they grow.
    dad, i made the team today!
    mom, i've got to go!

    pop, i need some money,
    you see, there's....this girl at school.
    mama, i met a boy today
    and wow, he's so cool!

    dad, i've got something to tell you...
    i think she is the one!
    mom, he asked me to marry him.
    would you love him as your son?

    dad, i've got some news for you...
    it's going to be a boy!
    mom, i'm kind of scared of this,
    yet i'm filled with joy!

    a child's love is like a whisper,
    given in little ways we do not hear.
    but if you listen closely,
    it will be very clear.

    they often do not say it loud,
    but in how they come to you...
    grandpa, will you play with me?
    grandma, tie my shoe?

    author unknown

    linda
    linda, thanks for sharing!
  8. by   pkmom
    *what* I have to send him to school!!!My baby is about to get a big boy bed and I don't know how to handle that. WHew, okay, baby steps...
  9. by   OBNURSEHEATHER


    My baby will be in second grade this year. The time just flies by. I looked at him the other day, and I know how old he is, but it just struck me as old, too old, not right. Like, maybe I miscalculated and he was really still a 3 year old? So I said to him, "how old will you be on your birthday?" Remember, I know how old he is, it was just surreal. And he looks at me weird and says "8." And I couldn't believe it! When the h*ll did that happen? Where was I?

    My baby..... He looks more like his dad, like a little man. Some days, when he lets me put a little gel in his hair and spike it up in the front a little, I can see the young man he will be. If I blur my eyes a little, I would swear he was 14.

    My heart is so heavy. I seriously think I could benefit from some medication during the months of August and September.

    My heart and thoughts are with all of you that are watching your babies grow. How can something be so wonderful and hurtful at the same time?

    Heather
  10. by   Rustyhammer
    I have a 15 yo girl, 11 yo boy and 9 yo boy and
    I CAN'T WAIT FOR SCHOOL TO START!!
    -Russell
  11. by   live4today
    originally posted by lpn,future, rn
    today my 13 years old started his first day as an 8th grader. he didn't want mom to take him in to the school as she has done since he started pre-school. i did go in but i just went to pay for his p.e. uniform. yes, i know, i could have let him do it but mom felt left out as my child is "out growing" his mom now.

    to be honest, i felt sad, but i know i have to let go of my last child too. my daughter starts her first day on thursday as a 10th grader and i just will not bother taking her in.

    i do however, meet all the teachers of both my children and do visit as often as time allows me to.

    has anyone else felt like this when your children didn't any longer need you to go in on their first day back to school?

    i am having an empty feeling and wanted to share.
    (((((((((((((stephany))))))))))) i feel you girlfriend. although my girls are all grown up and mommies of their own, i still miss them so very much.

    when my youngest girl started kindergarten, she told me i didn't need to walk her to school anymore because she was a big girl now. so...i stood on the front porch of our home and watched her hold her new best friend's hand as they crossed the street together to the school. fortunately for her....the only way she got to do that was because i could see her reach the schoolground from where we lived....otherwise...i would have had to break her little heart and tell her mommy has to take you to school anyway. :chuckle this post makes me tearful because i am soooooo missing my girls...their smells...their noise...their laughter...their smiles...their kids. at least we all are planning to be together for thanksgiving. :kiss
  12. by   NurseDennie
    OMG, I know just how you feel. MY baby is packing up to go off to university this week. Sheeeesh

    It just happens so bloody fast, just like everybody here said. When I was still working at CMA, I was woobly because my older daughter was going away on her 6th grade class trip. I told somebody at work that I was pretty unhappy about that class trip, I wasn't sure how I was going to act when she goes off to uni. The co-worker (who WAS a child, much less not understanding HAVING a child) said "what's the big deal? She won't be going off to college for 6 years yet." I explained that it WAS a big deal because the time between her 6th grade class and her going off to uni was a blink of the eye. In my mind, she'd been a toddler just last week.

    Well, she in fact did *not* go off to uni, so that's where it all falls down for me. But the other child is heading off this week. It's hard on a mum, isn't it?

    Love

    Dennie
  13. by   DebsZoo
    originally posted by rustyhammer
    i have a 15 yo girl, 11 yo boy and 9 yo boy and
    i can't wait for school to start!!
    -russell
    i just knew there was a reason i liked ya, rusty :chuckle
    i am planning to kiss that big yellow creature when it pulls up out front sept. 3rd
  14. by   DebsZoo
    Now, to address the topic more seriously.........
    When I look at my children, I see young adults now......all are 11 or older. I miss the babies, toddlers, 3's, 4's, and 5's <sigh> I understand my mother WAY too much these days. It goes by so very quick, and it seems like yesterday we were bringing Kyle home from the hospital........or making up yet another bed for another addition.
    I am not overly fond of getting to the age that I DO understand my mom, lol.
    Though, I have to admit, I somtimes dream of the day hubby and I have a quiet house.
    I wonder, sometimes, if I am a bad person for looking forward to them all having their own homes, and we can run around buck naked if we want.
    I know about 'empty nest'..............................but, with these guys at the stages they are all at right now..............this "bird" is looking forward to it...........LOL, at least for a little while anyway.
    THEN, I can be the grandma!!!!!!!!!!!

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