okay, my heart was broken on mother's day. Long story short, hubby out of town, spent Sat. with my mom and kids to celebrate with her as I was working Sunday night. The kids decided to sleep over her house.
Well sunday, alone.. alone.. not even a phone call! Kids 10, 12, 16. Now I didn't even want GIFTS, just a home made card, a picture drawn, sappy poem...M is for ...
hmmm. spent my 75 minute ride to work (mind you 5pm), trying not to cry.. trying to figure out what on earth I have messed up so terribly as a mom that I was snubbed by all three... They're old enough to know that even a phone call would hae been great.
Well I came home from work this morning, (grandpa stayed overnight at home with them), so I thought maybe a note or a card would be on the table...NOTHING! But a messy house, after I had left it clean.
So what do you do? They'll be home after school, I'll just be waking up, then off to work again... should I say that I'm sad, even mention it at all?
I know you guys don't know me very well, but every one of my friends and family say that I'm such a great mom, with terrific kids without me asking for validation. They ARE GREAT kids, just don't understand it!
doesn't this just bite the big one?....
Would you say something if these kids were yours, and hurt your feelings like this? Aside from just crying again, I don't know what good would come of it.
...hurt and let down
May 10, '04
Since you celebrated the day before with your mother due to your working Sunday, they probably didn't give it another thought.
I can understand your being disappointed if you had other expectations, but heartbroken?
Regardless of their being 'old enough', your kids probably are not psychic. I doubt that they intended to hurt you. They probably were not aware of your expectations since you had celebrated the day before.
You say you were alone all day Sunday until you went to work... Did you call your mother Sunday even though you had celebrated with her the day prior. If you did and your kids were there, why didn't you talk to them then? If you didn't, then your kids would have had reason to think it wasn't important to you. Just a thought...
Last edit by jemb on May 10, '04