1. Wow, can I relate! I spent today "deep cleaning" my kitchen. I still have to mop, clean the bathrooms, and vacuum befor my in-laws get here on Wed afternoon. Oh, and paln out dinner ideas and go grocery shopping. I get along fine with my in-laws too, but I get very nervous when they come to visit. They are leaving on Sunday though so I will have to just do my best until then! Let's hope we both get through this relatively unscathed!!
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  3. by   fiestynurse
    Need support! My mother-in-law is coming to visit for a week. Even though I get along with her fine and she is very supportive of me, I still get nervous when she comes. I run around frantically cleaning my house, trying to make everything perfect. My husband and her are very close. I guess everything will be O.K., It's only a week!
  4. by   leesonlpn
    feistynurse, you need to borrow my fridge magnet. It says, "You may look at my dust but please don't write in it".
  5. by   fiestynurse
    lol. That's just what I needed!
  6. by   hoolahan
    Fiestynurse, from the time my kids were toddlers, I voted myself, superwoman, to make xmas dinner. My hubby was usually working, so I was home with a two year old and a three-and-a-half year old, making a turkey with all the fixin's.

    Now I LOVE my in-laws, but it burns my a$$ that they are always late for dinner!!! They know darn well, I am there by myself with these two babies, slaving for THEM, and they can't even show up 30 minutes early to help me by keeping the kids out of my hair.

    So, the next year, I told them dinner would be served 2 hours earlier than planned and made them come early. The following year, the must have caught on, b/c they showed up 5 minutes before I was ready to put food on the table. But, it was cool, b/c I had asked my nephew and his girlfriend to help me entertain the little ones.

    The following year, and all subsequent years, I now keep a bottle of Asti Spumante chilled in the fridge. I drink a toast to me for every 30 minutes they are late. When they arrive, I am usually feeling very happy, with a beautiful glow on my cheeks!!

    I recommend it!
  7. by   AnaJane
    Hoolahan, I'd have BURNED DOWN THE HOUSE if I drank a toast to myself every 30 minutes! lol good idea though if it works for you. As I recall I'm one of those irish drinkers, once I get a buzz I start looking for someone to fight. yikes. None for me thanks. Feistynurse, good luck, hope the visit is wonderful. I'd give up all my material goods to have my mother in law back; I miss her terribly, especially today. Happy Mothers day all!
  8. by   neonnurse2
    My future mother-in-law is the most wonderful, generous lady I've ever met, after all, she is letting me marry her son!!! Yet the thought of her coming for a visit sends me in hysterics! I clean my place from top to bottom and am a nervous wreck. I need to get over this because she says she so happy about me becoming her daughter-in-law.
  9. by   Q.
    Wow I CANNOT relate to you guys.

    My mother-in-law, while very nice, is a slob who is going through a mid-life crisis. She is dating a man 18 years her junior (ok no big deal) wears leather pants and calls my husband to come pick her up because she is trashed at the local white-trash bar.

    She freaks out and frantically cleans when WE come over!!

    WOW Suzy K! I think your mother in law may be MY mother in law!!!

    Alcoholic, white trash, lying s**t...

    I could go on & on, but my hubby's home! (LOL)


    [ May 24, 2001: Message edited by: OBNURSEHEATHER ]
  11. by   sharann
    Ha! My mother-in-law is a doll, but SHE cleans MY house when she comes over.If I say not to she says ok then sneaks by me.My house is clean,really!She just likes to be helpful.Heck,if that's the worst thing in my life,I'll live with it
  12. by   sharann
    OH! Feisty I forgot to give YOU support here.Just RELAX.Your MIL loves you and I am sure she isn't even thinking about the state of your home(unless you truly live as slobs which you don't sound like you do!).Just do a "light" and quick straightening up and close the rest of the houses doors if they are not clean enough.ENJOY her visit and she will too I bet.
  13. by   fiestynurse
    Thanks for the great feedback. I survived the week!! The first day she was here she started to rearrange things in my kitchen, but my husband firmly told her "not to cause trouble" and things were good the rest of the week. She only commented on my dust with a general question to my husband about how this must be a dusty part of the country to live. Husband rescued me again by telling her how difficult it is to keep it under control. Bless him for always being on my side!! She grew-up during the depression so spending money is a big issue. I had to come up with things to do that did not cost anything. A bit of a challenge, but she enjoyed the walks on the beach and the botanical gardens. I was glad the kids got to spend some time with her, because she is getting old and will not be around for much longer. I do love her very much!
  14. by   moni rn
    Feisty, I am so glad your mil's visit went well!

    I live in the same town as mine! We absolutely do not get along. We have never gotten along! I dated her son for almost 10 years before getting married, and we fought the whole time. She is a doctor, and obviously she has her PhD is every subject possible (or at least she thinks she does!) I went to a public school and my parents live in a house that is worth a 1/3 of what her house is, so I am white trash. Currently, my husband and I are dealing with male infertility (confirmed by 3 doctors and approx 25 different medical tests and exams), however it is still my fault that we haven't conceived. I am obsessing too much according to her. Also, my brother-in-law, which is doctor, is in a very "delicate" state of mind, according to her. Yes, he is married to either a complete idiot or the biggest b*tch that has ever walked the earth! We all agree on that! My husband's and my philosophy is: He is a grown man, and he knows where the door is, if he is so "miserable". By the way, they have 2 kids together. My mil thinks he can say whatever he wants to us (sometimes very hurtful and insulting), but we have to watch what we say to them (we don't want to upset him! My mil also tells us one thing, and then goes to my bil & sil and tells them something else! Shouldn't we be out of grade school?!?!

    To say the very least, we are looking to move out of town at our earliest opportunity! The ONLY thing my husband and I argue about is his family.

    Sorry for the "novel", but this is one subject that really gets me going!