Quote from CHATSDALE
dear leslie my heart goes out to you...i am glad that you are there for tiff right now this is a very important thing that this is done right at this time..it will effect the rest of her life
make sure that the staff does their job and that they see her and the others as individuals.. to try to make each little peg fit in the proper hole is not a beneficial goal
making people see that they can be happy in their own skin is more difficult but this will achieve better long lasting goals
some people need to be on meds long time, sometimes life long, just as some people can graduate from crutches to cane to indepentent walking does not make them better thatn those who must use a crutch from now on it is very hard to accept sometimes
but that is part of the hurdle
she really needs you as an advocate..but do not see the staff as the enemy . . you will have very good dedicated people as well as those who only want to collect a paycheck with the least amount of effort
and kids lister to the other kids too who may have been surviving the sytem for a long while and they learn tricks from each other
my prayrs are with you...keep us in touch
chattsy, as usual, that was wonderful and helpful input.
no, i do not see the staff as the enemy, as i have met some
wonderful nurses; like the nurse last evening, who removed tiff's 45/15 restrictions- he was very empathetic and listened to what my contentions were.
yet this morning when i called, i asked the nurse if tiff had gotten a tox screening per my request, and rather than answer my question, she defiantly said " all the nurses do very thorough mouth checks on this unit" and i responded with "obviously not" and repeated my question about the tox screen. she said nothing had been done since her dr. hadn't been in yet. i asked her why she couldn't call any doctor for an order....so i think (maybe not) they're waiting for any of these drugs she took, to be excreted.
and yes about the kids that have been there a loooong time; these are kids that don't have a home to go to and are awaiting placement into foster care. so they do indeed, know how to play the system.
tiff did tell me today she took her lithium which we'll be able to determine when they draw levels.
i've already spoken with a crisis counselor from a facility right near our house and the program is called "safe at home" where a team comprised of psychiatrists, therapists, social workers, tutors come to your house and you also go to the facility for INTENSIVE 1:1 therapy.....that seems like an option when tiff gets stabilized on her meds. over my dead body, i will not allow her to go to another in-pt facility.
the only obstacle is tiff's father will probably still be here when she gets home as he won't be leaving until i've settled into a job and i don't need anything triggering tiff.
she hung up on my last noc, very irritated because her father was in the background yelling "tell her i am fighting for her" and as soon as she heard his voice, total change of attitude-very upset/angry.
but the dept. of social services visited w/tiffany today, as children's hospital filed a 51a against her father. they'll be meeting w/me and the boys tomorrow and w/ed on thurs.
so i'll get a better sense of tiff's discharge and her coming home from dss.
ed's on his 4th day w/o drinking and is now being father of the year, since he found out he has charges against him. unfortunately the damage has been done.
and yeah, i was telling one of my friends, that i do feel an inner strength filled with determination and hope. it's a good place to be. i'll do whatever it takes to get my dtr well again. and i also warned her that for awhile, i will be watching her like a hawk. but if the meds help along w/therapy, hopefully she won't rebel but rather will understand.
thanks chattsy. i found your response very comforting.
tell me i don't need to vent, yes? :chuckle