Missing My Husband

  1. I know I am new here, and most of you don't even know who I am, so maybe I shouldn't be posting this. But sometimes it's easier to talk about this kind of thing in a more "anonymous" environment, than it is with family and friends
    This week is the fourth anniversary of my husband's death. I have been going through some of his things today, and I'm really missing him. The first anniversary was horrible, I cried all day. Each year it has gotten a little easier. There isn't a day I don't remember him, but I no longer miss him constantly. Now just days like our anniversary, his birthday, and the day he died are hard to get through. I see so much of him in our son. He not only looks like his Dad, but has the same gestures and voice inflections. The kids and my sister didn't want me to be alone today, but I preferred it that way. Tomorrow I will have lunch with my sister, and go shopping or to a movie, but today I need to be alone.
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  3. by   jnette
    Quote from Teacher Sue
    I know I am new here, and most of you don't even know who I am, so maybe I shouldn't be posting this. But sometimes it's easier to talk about this kind of thing in a more "anonymous" environment, than it is with family and friends
    This week is the fourth anniversary of my husband's death. I have been going through some of his things today, and I'm really missing him. The first anniversary was horrible, I cried all day. Each year it has gotten a little easier. There isn't a day I don't remember him, but I no longer miss him constantly. Now just days like our anniversary, his birthday, and the day he died are hard to get through. I see so much of him in our son. He not only looks like his Dad, but has the same gestures and voice inflections. The kids and my sister didn't want me to be alone today, but I preferred it that way. Tomorrow I will have lunch with my sister, and go shopping or to a movie, but today I need to be alone.
    ((((((((Gentle Hugs)))))))) coming your way, Sue.

    I'm glad you came here and shared. Nothing I can say could ever make things easier.. just know my heart is with you in this moment of pain and grieving.

    May the pain ease with each passing year, but the memories grow stronger.

    Extending warmest thoughts your way.
  4. by   Shamrock
    I am so sorry for your pain and loss, please feel free to talk about it here. There are some wonderful and supportive people on this board.
  5. by   kc ccurn
    I am very sorry for your loss! I pray that your day alone is filled with wonderful memories of your husband and hopes for the future. God's peace to you!
  6. by   LesJenRN
    Sue, I am glad you felt you could share here. Please know that I am sending you my thoughts and prayers....
  7. by   nurseygrrl
    {{{{{{Sue}}}}}}}

    I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. The 4 year anniversary of my dad's death just passed in Feb. so I know what your going through. My mom and I still have a hard time with it. It's good to be alone sometimes if that's what you need. Everyone grieves in their own way. I hope as time goes on your grief is eased and replaced moreso by the happy memories you have of him. :kiss
  8. by   SmilingBluEyes
    (((((((((((((((((((((sue))))))))))))))))))))))
  9. by   dianah
    Thinking of you. I'm glad you have your son as well as those precious but painful memories. So how did the day go? Was it what you expected? Perhaps you found a little memento that touched you and comforted you in some way.
    Peace to you. -- Diana
  10. by   nursedawn67
    (((hugs)))
  11. by   Tweety
    Another hug coming at ya!
  12. by   rn-jane
    I'm sorry for your loss. My sister lost her husband tragically almost 20 years ago. Eventhough she has since moved on with another spouse she thinks of him often. I hope good memories will eventually overcome the sad memories..will be thinking and praying for you and your son.
  13. by   traumaRUs
    So very sorry for your loss Sue.
  14. by   seanymph
    ((((((((((((Sue)))))))))))

    My thoughts and prayers are with you. I lost my husband very suddenly in a tragic auto accident in '98. I think of him everyday and know that he is looking down on me and watching over me. I remember our good times. The pain eases and the memories replace them. You are blessed to have a part of him still with you in your son.

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