Midlife crisis

  1. gail sheehy (1976 from a fundaments of nursing book), suggests that the transition into middle life is as critical as adolescence. she outlines characteristics of the midlife crisis and calls the decade between the ages of 35-45 the "deadline decade." according to sheehy, most women pass through the midlife crisis between 35-40; most men, between 40-45. this crisis occur when individuals recognize that they have reached the half way mark of life. although people of these ages are reaching their prime, there is a beginning recognition that time is at a premium and that life is finite. youthfulness and physical strength can no longer be taken for granted.

    my midlife crisis is actually happening now more so than ever and i am nearing 42 (next month). i worry about finishing rn school and having time to work and then enjoy life a little before it is all said and done.

    what, if any, are some of your "midlife crisis" concerns or have you already gone through this phase of your life and how old are you?
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  3. by   LasVegasRN
    36, will be 37 next month. Dropped the luggage 3 years ago. Oops, I meant to say, I divorced 3 years ago. My crisis is I just pictured more from my life at this age. Hoped to have had at least 3 kids. But, can't do that being alone.
    My daughter asks for a brother and sister, but, I have to tell her it's not going to happen.

    Maybe I'll drop my teeth at the nursing home and some guy will fall out of his wheelchair to help me and we will fall in love.
  4. by   Mkue
    The way I figure it, my room isn't ready upstairs (Heaven), so I'm going to do what I've wanted to do for years It's never too late, crisis or not.

    So until my room is ready, I'll keep on using Este Lauder anti-aging cream...lol..

    Seriously.. 40's are great

    Hi Stephany and Vegas RN !!!:angel2:
  5. by   Rustyhammer
    I'm looking forward to my midlife crisis.
    I'll be tooling around the country on my Harley picking up babes left and right.
    OK OK...so it's a fantasy !
  6. by   debralynn
    My ex is having a mid life crisis. Thats how he became my ex! A Little over a year now. So I guess you can say his mid life crisis is mine! Never wanted to be divorced. But this is what led me to go to nursing school. So I guess there is good in everything, even though it would have been nice to get there thru another route!!! I will be 43 and he is 42. Am still having problems getting over this SURPRISE that occured in my life. So if his midie has become mine, I will be darn glad when its over with!!!!!!
  7. by   Mkue
    Gosh, I wonder if I have ENOUGH posts on this thread...lol..

    Last edit by aimeee on Jul 30, '02
  8. by   aimeee
    Originally posted by mkue
    Gosh, I wonder if I have ENOUGH posts on this thread...lol..

    All better now, Marie. :chuckle I fixed it.
  9. by   vettech
    originally posted by lpn,future, rn
    what, if any, are some of your "midlife crisis" concerns or have you already gone through this phase of your life and how old are you? [/b]
    even though i'm only 33 and male, i have been accused of going through a midlife crisis in recent months. in november 2001 i finally quit smoking after 18 years. in december i got rid of my generic boxy subaru and bought a lil' mazda mx-3 sports car. in march i started a diet and exercise program (dropped from 221lbs to 184lbs and now going back up due to muscle gain). plus i'm changing careers from veterinary to human medicine. my best friend joked that all i'd need is a new young girlfriend and i'd fit the stereotype perfectly.

    if this is a midlife crisis, i'll take it. i think the word "crisis" is poorly appllied in this instance because every one of the things i've done that my friends call elements of my "midlife crisis" have been beneficial. yes, even the sports car - it has improved my self esteem a bit as well as my responsibility level since i take better care of that car than any car i'd owned previously.
  10. by   Mkue
    thank you aimee super moderator !!

    i agree with the above poster, sorry i can't see your user name right now... "crisis" isn't exactly the best word for it, maybe

    "midlife challenge" or midlife reorganization, anything but crisis for me.

  11. by   bagladyrn
    My reaction to the midlife thing was a sports car and a younger man! Eventually got rid of both but lots of fun for a while : )
  12. by   Love-A-Nurse
    , marie! "...i'll keep on using este lauder anti-aging cream...lol.." :chuckle that's funny! :kiss
  13. by   WashYaHands
    "midlife challenge" or midlife reorganization, anything but crisis for me.
    How about mid-life metamorphasis

  14. by   Mattigan
    I have started having a crisis thing now at 48.(I have always been a late bloomer). I feel really disconnected and wonder if the second half will be better and what can I do to change things.I'm really in a rut and it is scary to think the best is over or that this is as good as it gets.