Some of you are aware of the fact that "DPlear" ("Dave") was planning to meet hubby and I this Saturday morning. Well.....sad to say......hubby vetoed the idea
For two weeks now...maybe three (can't remember right now)...I've been prepping hubby for Dave's visit. He never said he objected to meeting him. He even laughed one time when I said that I told Dave to bring his lawnmower to help him mow the lawn since hubby usually mows the lawn on Saturday mornings.
Well...Dave left a message on our answer machine yesterday to see if we wanted him to come Saturday or Sunday morning between 0830 and 0900.
Anyway....after I listen to Dave's message on the answer machine, I immediately call hubby at work to see which day he preferred for Dave to come visit us. That's when the "heat hit the fan".
, "That is on you entirely! I want nothing to do with that, and I don't want some strange man coming to our home because I don't believe in meeting people on the internet. You don't know if that guy is for real or not. I don't trust situations like that."
, "So, what I hear you saying is you do not want him to come then?"
, "That's right.....I don't. How do you know the guy is who he says he is, Renee?" Now.....that's a good question to ponder!
I sent Dave an email to let him know hubby's response. So.....to make a messy story less messy....Dave and I will not be meeting after all.
I could meet him myself, but I find that to be very inappropriate since we are both married. I don't know what Dave's spouse thinks of the idea....or even if he has told her about it.......but...I do know that I would never meet a strange man without my hubby present which is why I did not hide any of this from him from day one. Hubby could have let me know weeks ago that he was not into this "meeting anyone from Allnurses in person thingy".
What do you guys think? I could really use some logic here with this situation.
Dave......I hope you are really who you say you are and not what my hubby thinks about all people on the internet. He doesn't think that you are "for real" with me. Are you???
Dave and I have NEVER talked on the phone. He's left one message and that was yesterday late afternoon. I did try calling Dave's cell, but.......no one would talk to me after they answered the phone. I could hear someone on the other end as if they were eating something, but no one would talk. Dont' know what's up with that?
Then, after I placed a call to "his cell phone number"......"someone" called my home from that same number FIVE TIMES IN A ROW
then one more time using a different number......and I haven't heard from "DPlear" since....not even by email as I sent him messages.
When hubby got home from work.....shortly after our heated phone conversation about "Dave's visit", he asked me if I had given Dave our home address, and I told him no....which is the truth. I wasn't going to give it to him until he arrived in S.A. and called us to let us know he was indeed "in town". Hubby goes on to say "Well.....at least you had that much sense! Don't do that again, Renee. Please!" Then, he kissed me and went bowling (he's on a bowling league once or twice a week now).
HELP!!!!!! WHAT DID I DO WRONG, SIBLINGS??? WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE DONE??? HOW WOULD YOU HAVE HANDLED THIS SITUATION???
Sep 6, '02
Thank you, delirium for your very wise comments. After talking to my hubby more about it, I feel like I was being too trusting, but giving Dave the benefit of the doubt, which I have a tendency to do with EVERYONE for some human reason.
I had a gut feeling weeks ago that maybe this guy isn't for real, but maybe he is.
That's why I told Dave from the very start that his meeting me INCLUDED
meeting my husband, too. NEVER
would I have met him.....or any other man.....without my husband present.
Live and learn something new everyday.....regardless of how old we become in a chronological sense.
For the past couple days, I have felt like crawling under a chair
due to extreme emotional overload anyway....so this situation really tops the icing on the cake.....and not in a good way, either. :imbar
Last edit by live4today on Sep 6, '02
Sep 6, '02
originally posted by lpn,future, rn
if it were me, i would meet in a public place and not my home and would take my husband. i would have suggested to speak with his wife and with the understanding that she was coming too. this is not a reflexion on dave, but anyone. your husband's wishes should be taken into consideration.
hi lpn,future, rn
actually, i have never sent dave a message that indicated that i would be meeting him alone, and i always spoke of him bringing his wife along......now i'm wondering if he really has a wife?
when i asked about his wife, he said he was coming with male friends of his as they were going to a concert together, therefore that weekend was a weekend for the guys, and the girls had their own weekend planned. he mentioned that they would be staying in a hotel, and he would leave his buddies at the hotel while he came to meet us. red flag perhaps???
dave never said he objected to meeting us both.....as i made that perfectly clear to him from the git-go. i even mentioned to him that hubby and i could meet him for breakfast somewhere. he said he'd just come to our place. another red flag...possibly???
hubby never said he objected.......until yesterday.
now...if dave were really 'on the up and up'......why oh why oh why does he not answer his cell phone.....unless...the wife is getting the messages and thinking i'm "the other woman".......oh god, help us all in that case! i would be the first person to tell her that aint so.
Last edit by live4today on Sep 6, '02