Married people no fun...

  1. I'm part of a large, voluntary group & I attend a lot of social events. At an informal post-meeting grub fest, word got around that Jen X (suitable pseudonym) was having a birthday party at Yummiez (not-so-suitable pseudonym). A couple of people invited me & my husband. Since Jen was right there & heard us get invited, my husband asked for details.

    Jen told him that there is limited room at the restaurant & well, you know, not everybody can be invited & we're not on the list, Sorry.



    WTF. Yummiez hosts Quizzo on Thursday nights... they are used to volume. AND on top of that, I heard that everybody pays their own way at the restaurant so it's not a cost thing. AND while Jen & I aren't bestest friends, I do have her phone number, have socialized with her, & she even dished dirt about her life to me. I'm at least warm acquaintaince material here.

    To parlay this snub into an episode of Oprah (not Jerry Springer, please) my husband & I have relayed this story to a few friends (ahem, anybody who will listen) & they respond in disbelief and say:

    1) Jen is kidding.
    2) Of course you are invited, I'm invited. Isn't everybody invited?

    Somebody said that me & spousie being married might be nauseating to our single b-day girl. You could say I am a GOOMPY (get out of my party).



    Frankly, I'm not so egotistical to think there would ever be lines to go to my birthday, on the Saturday after July 4th no less. I'm tempted to show up anyway...or if I was really mean, show up with a tasteful gift & card, present it to Jen & announce loudly that I was leaving because Jen told me I wasn't invited.

    Knowing me I'll do what married people do on a Saturday night--

    Stay home...

    & watch Real Sex on HBO & boink all night

    --Caroline
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  2. 9 Comments

  3. by   passing thru
    I'm guessing Jenn is preferring a singles only or singles mostly Saturday night birthday party.

    Marrieds are duds to celebratory singles.....
    married men are usually ogling the "young things"
    ....etc....

    And the female singles wanta have FUN...........
    "what's the options with married men around? "

    not much chance for a future there.....

    and what do the singles have in common to discuss with you and spouser?

    No , singles prefer singles....especially on Saturday nights,
    after all , they are still looking for their soul mates,.so,

    why take up two seats with an old married couple when a
    couple of singles could be sitting there?
  4. by   caroladybelle
    Originally posted by passing thru
    I'm guessing Jenn is preferring a singles only or singles mostly Saturday night birthday party. Marrieds are duds to celebratory singles.....married men are usually ogling the "young things"...etc....And the female singles wanta have FUN...........
    "what's the options with married men around? "not much chance for a future there.....and what do the singles have in common to discuss with you and spouser?No , singles prefer singles....especially on Saturday nights,after all , they are still looking for their soul mates,.so,why take up two seats with an old married couple when a couple of singles could be sitting there?
    Uuhh are you speaking for yourself, passin thru. Because you certainly aren't speaking for all of us, especially not this single girl. A married man can be a valued dance partner, if he mixes well. And his wife knows better than to be jealous of me. "Fun" does not require "single eligible guys for our future soulmate" most of us a sick and tired of that complete and utter bull dust.

    And if singles "have nothing in common" with marrieds, well maybe both groups need to get a grip. The only time in recent history that I had difficulty with a married friend, was when she could make absolutely no move without her husband with her and they kept trying to fix me up with the most inappropriate guys (friends of his).

    In answer to the question, you might tell JenX, "I'm sorry, I regret that I was under the impression that my husband and I were invited to your party." She will either say you are or accept your regrets. There is no telling about why she is like this. Let it roll over and remember that you have a lovely home, a good, spouse, etal. We cannot be all things to all people, nor should we even try to be all things to all people. If you wish to be gracious, send a card. And personally, the individuals that invited you, without permit to do so, are seriously wrong in that behavior. They are the ones that deserve the brunt of your bad feelings, not JenX.

    Regards,

    Carolina
  5. by   Nurse Ratched
    Originally posted by caroladybelle
    If you wish to be gracious, send a card. And personally, the individuals that invited you, without permit to do so, are seriously wrong in that behavior.
    I agree with Carolina that Miss Manners would not want you ro show up at a party where (1) you have not been invited and (2) you have specifically been uninvited by the host. Don't take it too personally - it's hard to say what the reasoning was, but all you can do is accept what she said. Send her a card with warm wishes and let it roll.

    And we marrieds are lots of fun!
  6. by   BadBird
    Wow, how rude of her!!! Ok, let it go, invite some of your closer friends to your house the same night and have a great time. Little Brat that she is doesn't deserve your company.
  7. by   Cynthiann
    Originally posted by BadBird
    Wow, how rude of her!!! Ok, let it go, invite some of your closer friends to your house the same night and have a great time. Little Brat that she is doesn't deserve your company.
    I totally agree with you. Obviously, if she's has that attitude about it then she wasn't even a friend after all.

    I know how you feel about the married thing. Since I have been, my friends don't even call me as much since I can't go out to the clubs with them anymore because I have responsibilities, a husband and kids. But if any of my friend specifically told me I couldn't come to one of their parties, than I would no longer consider that person a friend.
  8. by   LauraF, RN
    I think Jen needs to get a life. I guess if it is her party and she doesn't want you there, then I would not want to be there, if I were you. That is not to say don't send an awesome singing telegram or something totally obnoxious. I guess it depends on how much you thought of this person. It is fun when I get together with my friends, married and single. When I was single I also went and did things with a group including married couples. Friends are friends whether they are married or not. Maybe Jen needs to have her party without you, but I sure as heck would not be there to listen to her life stories anymore!
    Good luck and have fun boinking like bunnies!:chuckle
  9. by   nowplayingEDRN
    Originally posted by passing thru


    Marrieds are duds to celebratory singles.....
    married men are usually ogling the "young things"
    ....etc....

    And the female singles wanta have FUN...........
    "what's the options with married men around? "

    not much chance for a future there.....

    and what do the singles have in common to discuss with you and spouser?

    Funny.....A large portion of my friends are single and we(the hubster and me) and/or I celebrate and party with them.....never a lack of a good time and there is never a lack of conversation.......Sounds like the crowd you are refering to, passing is a dud......

    Caroline.....I agree with Ratched.....send the card...let it slide and boink with the hubby all night long....Boinking definitely gets my vote over a bunch of stick in the mud singles.....see a bottle of wine, soft music, candle light and a nice steamy bubble bath promise of more fun to me.... But then I am a perverse sex fiend..... :chuckle
  10. by   funnygirl_rn
    [QUOTE]Originally posted by UntamedSpirit
    [Caroline.....I agree with Ratched.....send the card...let it slide and boink with the hubby all night long....Boinking definitely gets my vote over a bunch of stick in the mud singles.....see a bottle of wine, soft music, candle light and a nice steamy bubble bath promise of more fun to me.... But then I am a perverse sex fiend..... :chuckle /QUOTE]


    I agree with what Untamed said. Besides, life is too short to be bummed out...you & hubby can enjoy your own company. Just send a card.
  11. by   NRSKarenRN
    Skip card, follow through with boink---no friend here, just aquaintence and NOT worth your time this weekend.

    Enjoy the fireworks--at home

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