Lost my Grandma today....

  1. Today, my Grandma passed on due to massive organ failure at 96. She lived a long, productive life but died with little Faith in any Afterlife. I hope she is cradled specially by the Lord and shown the way to the Other Side by Gramps and all the loved ones gone before her.

    I will miss her desperately; she was such a HUGE part of my growing up and always had faith I would make something of myself even when others lost all hope in me. Anyhow, her long period of suffering on Earth is over and I celebrate that at least. But right now, the tears won't stop so I have to go; I can't see my computer screen. Thanks to all for your thoughts; I know there are so many good people here will have my family in thoughts today and that means a lot.
  2. 51 Comments

  3. by   LauraF, RN
    I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother. I lost both of my grandmothers. I had a newborn preemie who was very ill. The doctors were still not allowing me to leave the hospital. I couldn't travel for the funeral. I cried that whole day. I miss her so much. She was 98 and was still wise until the last couple of months. She had always told us that if something should ever happen to her she didn't want to live if she didn't have her mind....she had had a stroke and her mind wasn't working....
    I still miss her and it has been almost 3 years. I often remember the times we enjoyed together.
  4. by   dianah
    Thinking of you in your time of loss. I lost my grandma last year, after a couple of years of decline. I'm glad I have good memories of her.
  5. by   Nurse Ratched
    I'm sorry for your loss, Deb. We are thinking of you. 96 - what an amazing life. The things she had seen to be born in 1907 - she lived though both the world wars and who knows what else.

    If you feel like it later, maybe you can share a little more about her and her life and any stories she may have told.

  6. by   Shamrock
    Smiling - so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved grandmother. As Nurse Ratched said above - what an amazing story she must have!
  7. by   karenG

    dont have any wise words but I lost my gran at the age of 92 two years ago- I still miss her and talk to her- she has only gone next door.

  8. by   nursemouse
    Thinking of you and praying for you, Deb.
  9. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I will tell you one thing that makes me smile: ( am smiling right now thru my tears):

    When she was young in Chicago in the bootlegging days of Al Capone.----- Yes, she remembers ole Scarface Al walking the streets, all dapper and people LOVED HIM.....She was in awe and fear of him. She remembers how he ran that town with an iron fist, always winning over others by giving to the right charitable causes. People loved, feared, and fell in love with Al Capone she said. She glanced him MANY times as one of his gal pals lived near her.

    She remembers making bathtub gin and the backdoor speakeasies---(none of which she ever went to, wink-wink). she remembers dancing her legs off at the parties during the roaring 20s when she was very young....
    Oh yes they were fun times,she said....

    She saw the WWs; came to the USA before WWII and Hitler's reign of terror. She emigrated from Austria in her young teens, learned English very quicky and went to work as a secretary to support her non-English speaking family. She worked hard but played hard, too. She survived the Great Depression by working twice as hard as ever. She told so many stories I can't even fill up the bandwidth here to tell. She was something else.

    She was a tough, demanding old bird (driving both my parents mad/crazy at times)---- married to Grampa for 63 years before he passed in 1996. She was sharp til about a year ago when she apparantly had TIAs affecting her thinking and personality. (TIAs tend to bring out some very nasty traits in my experience and she was no different) . As much as I do NOT get along with my parents, I have to admire them being there for her til the end---they saw to it she did not get dumped in some nursing facility they did approve of. They tried to keep her independent as possible til she was unable to be. I was not there to see this much, living in Seattle, so I was spared some tough times my family back home had to deal with.

    I guess you can say I have it easy....

    Bu most of all!!!!! I will always, always remember her letters to me in USAF basic training, when my family had disowned me. She said:

    "I know you and you will make us proud. You will someone important and do great things. I believe in you and I love you. Stay strong". Those letters sustained a 19 year old girl thru some tough times in her initial days/weeks of military training and service, 1500 miles from home.

    Anyhow thank you for permitting me to share memories of her. It does help and feel cathartic somehow. Take care and thanks for your thoughts; you are a great group. And I have diarrhea of the mouth. sorry
    Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Jul 29, '03
  10. by   JedsMom
    I'm so sorry to hear about your grandma. I lost mine 3 weeks ago. She too was a MAJOR force in my growing up. I miss her very much. I'll keep you in my prayers. God bless.
  11. by   NICU_Nurse
    Oh, Deb, I'm so, so very sorry to hear this. You will definitely be in my thoughts. I lost my grandmother in January- it was very sudden and she went very quickly, and there is no way to prepare for losing someone you love so much, even when you know they are sick or declining. I still want to call her and I have to remind myself that I can't. Not on the phone, anyway. I miss her every day, and if you need someone to talk to, please let me know. Her death shook my perspective on the world, and I totally understand what you're probably feeling right now. Please let me know if you need anything. Your grandmother sounded like a wonderful, fiesty woman. Mine was as well. They just don't make 'em like that anymore. Please take care of yourself, and let us know if we can help, okay?

    ((((((((((((((((((((huge hugs for you))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
  12. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I am so sorry Jedsmom. I know your pain. My heart goes out to you in your grief. How nice of you to extend your thoughts to me in a time when you are so sad.
  13. by   JedsMom
    Thanks so much. This is such a wonderful place full of so many compasionate people. I hope your pain eases soon.
  14. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Kristi, I am sorry about your loss, too. Gosh so much loss. So much pain. But so much strength taken from this board for me. You all are a presence for me that is strong, supplementing my real-life friends/family. Thank you.