losses

  1. Seems like there has been much loss and sorrow surrounding our allnurses family...
    Last night I went to calling hours for a man who had worked with my dad...my dad dies of cancer when i was 10...
    Both families had moved to this area around the same time..i was about a yr-& 1/2....we came from another area of NY state..they came from Canada...
    He and my dad were union electricians...worked, hung out, drank, and everything together..our families did holidays together...the whole 9yards...His 3 kids were from 4-8 yrs older than me...I was the annoying little tagalong sister...but i came in handy for sweet talking the grownups outa candy!!!
    when my dad died we still stayed close,...still were invited to holidays there...
    over recent yrs, still were intermittantly close...His middle child and I became good friends...she set me up on a horrrid blind date..ugh...

    anyway..Ray was 64..had quit drinking awhile back...was very into his grandkids..especially after he retired...those kids were his life,....
    he had procrastinated on his needed hip replacement...went in for it...and died a few hours post-op..with his daughters there with him...must've thrown a clot...
    so horrible...so sad....so fairly young,...

    funeral services are today at the state university's chapel..i have volunteered to go to the post-services gathering place to help setup...i cannot go to the services...can't do it...
    anyway,,,just needed to share...
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  2. 3 Comments

  3. by   baseline
    Big hug and a shoulder for leaning any time.
  4. by   2banurse
    I'm very sorry for your loss, Sunnygirl. I would suggest that you try to go. I remember when my grandmother passed away and being so close to her, I had a very hard time going to the wake and the service, especially the wake for me. It's 19 years now and still it is something I regret.
  5. by   baseline
    My brother says the same thing Sunnygirl...he had visited my Dad shortly before he passed away from a terminal illness, but did not return home for the funeral and has always regretted that decision.

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